Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

Attention all Santa Baby-style gift givers! If you're the type that likes to get your sexy on as a Christmas gift to your man, hey, do your thang! (Did I just say "thang"?) It's not my style, but I can see how some silky red lingerie and a Santa hat, or a strategically placed bow might make for a hot present.

To help you out, I could have rounded up a selection of sexy, holiday-appropriate lingerie sets, orrrrrr I could show you guys the most utterly ridiculous "sexy" Christmas* get-ups I could find. Guess which I chose?

You know me well, readers. Let's go for the totally bizarre, who-in-the-world-thought-this-would-be-a-sexy-idea ensembles! (NSFW warning: I didn't show the most racy options, but some of these are straight-up lingerie, so beware in a conservative environment. Though even the more costumey options should probably not be worn publicly. Or privately, unless you're a couple with a great sense of humor and some extra cash to burn.)

My search

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

Because girl, surviving a breakup is a marathon, not a sprint.

After a devastating split, it's hard to get your groove back. What's even worse is that getting over it doesn't happen all at once. Just when you think you're over it, you get hit with another wave of sadness.

It's taken me about a year to feel fully like myself after my big, life-changing breakup. Along the way, I spent a lot of time beating myself up for not moving on in a speedier fashion but looking back, I can see that only hurt my progress. What I should have done instead was to be proud of myself for every step I took, and when I felt discouraged and set back, looked forward to the next goal.

Don't repeat my mistake. Pat yourself on the back for each of these little mile markers on your way to a full recovery.

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1. The first morning he's not the first thing you think of when you wake up.
2. The first night he's not what you're thinking about as you try

by Melissa Melms, Glamour

It's that time of year. You know, the candy-cane-licking, cookie-baking, wrapping-paper-tearing, gift-giving holiday season. Well, guess what? The gift you choose for your significant other actually says a thing or two about your relationship.

It's true. Your holiday gifting style can reveal a lot about the relationship you're in. First, think about what you got (or are planning to get) your S.O. this holiday season. Next, see how it fits in with the super accurate (JK, you guys, these are just for fun) categories, below, to see what it means about your relationship. Then, enjoy the holidays--and your gifts--with your love. It's as easy as that.

So, which of these gifting styles best describe you?

* The Crafty DIY-er:
(AKA The Pinterest Princess) You're artsy, love a good homemade (or home-cooked) gift, and are obsessed with all things Etsy. Your go-to gifts include snowman cake pops baked from scratch, DIY wrapping paper, specialty drinks for toasting on

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

Reason number 11.Thanksgiving has many wonderful things about it--most of them edible--but it does not include a boost to your sex life.

Can you guys believe it's just a little over a week until Thanksgiving? I feel like I was so distracted by the election frenzy I forgot all about the impending holiday. And while I love love love Thanksgiving and the week of delicious leftovers after it, it has to be said: Thanksgiving is not sexy. In fact, it might be the least sexy holiday ever. It's got none of the romance of Valentine's Day, it lacks the sexiness of Halloween costumes, and it's much too cold for outdoor barbecues or pool parties.

Here are just a few things that may contribute to a very non-sexy celebration of thanks, whether you're spending it alone or with your guy:

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1. Overcrowded airline travel.
2. Screaming babies on overcrowded airline travel.
3. Screaming babies at your grandma's house.
4. The hangover you're

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

You don't have to worry about your guy when he's out without you. He's less likely to move his joystick toward other pretty ladies than a single guy is. I mean that so literally you don't even know.

It seems like scientists are constantly studying the effects of love hormone oxytocin, and this time, they've devised a series of experiments to see how a dose of the hormone affects the behavior of men who are in relationships versus single men.

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In one experiment, men approached or were approached by an attractive female experimenter, and were told to either hold their position or stop her approach at the distance at which they felt comfortable talking, thereby establishing a personal bubble. In the second, men saw pleasant images, such as beautiful women or landscapes, or disturbing ones, such as mutilated body parts or dirt, and were asked to pull a joystick toward them for the pleasant

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

I know, I know. As a non-14-year-old, who came of age way before everyone and their toddler had a cell phone, I should be a fan of the old-fashioned phone call. I should lament the decline of the spoken word and the forgotten art of conversation.

Whatever. Phone calls are 80s. (Pagers are 90s, obvs.) A lot of dating advice experts will say you should expect a man to call to confirm dating plans or to ask you out. And maybe you should listen to them, since the only thing I'm an expert in is being single and occasionally crying about it. But I generally hate phone calls and specifically hate them from guys I'm dating, and I'm not changing my mind any time soon.

Allow me to list my reasons.

1. Have you ever heard your voice played back to you via recording? Did you like the sound of your own voice? No, you did not. The only people who like the sound of their own voices are politicians (timely and true!). Yes, that IS what you sound like on the phone. Yuck.

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

This is your brain on men you don't even know.

In a recent study, conducted in the midst of an actual speed dating event between 78 women and 73 men (all heterosexual), scientists have determined that people can gauge whether or not they'll make a romantic connection with another in a pretty snap decision.

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I mean, that's kind of the point of speed dating, right? It's right there in the name. But this wasn't just about the five minutes participants were given to talk to each potential suitor. Before the event, 39 of the participants had their brain activity recorded while they viewed pictures of the people they'd meet at the event. In just a few seconds, people gave a 1 to 4 rating of how much they'd like to date each person, and rated the person's physical attraction and likeability. Those initial interest ratings turned out to be 63% accurate to the person's decision after the actual event.

The cool

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour





















Bye bye Halloween, hello mustaches! Movember begins today. How are we feeling about it?

As has become popular in recent years, in November men around the world start growing mustaches to raise awareness and funds for men's health issues. In honor of the movement, the Zoosk team sent over a survey they conducted among 8,500 members to discern their feelings on facial hair, and they were pretty positive in the good old U.S. of A. In fact, 64% of American men claim to sport some facial hair, and 80% of American women say they are fine with their guy sporting some growth. A few other random facts for your entertainment:

* Why do American men grow facial hair? It makes them feel better. How so? Here's the breakdown: 40% feel more confident, 36% feel more attract, 15% feel more sophisticated, and 9% feel more intelligent. Aww, do what you gotta do, fellas, but know that we love you anyway.

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* Our international