by Gena Kaufman
Evan Sklar When it comes to helping a friend going through a breakup, there is inevitably a point where we all cross from "Oh sweetie, tell me all about it," to "Good God, if you don't stop talking about this my ears are going to start bleeding." Heaven knows I've been on both sides of the problem, as the patience-tested listener and as the obsessed mess who knows she needs to let it go but just can't.
There's no rule for when patience runs out, but one thing is clear: For the majority of us, it eventually does. According to Pearl.com, 64 percent of 18- to 34-year-olds have ditched a friend who constantly talks about their relationship problems. Ouch. (Interestingly, women and Southerners were just slightly more likely to do the ditching!)
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In my experience, here are some signs you might want to watch for if you're worried you're becoming That Person:
* You know you've repeated the story you're currently lamenting at least
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by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Uh-Oh, Are You Driving Your Friends Away with Your Constant Talk of Relationship Problems?
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by Gena KaufmanRead More »from "No Romantic Relationships" and 4 Other Strange Sentences for Criminals
Romulo Yanes The former lawyer in me was totally intrigued by this story I read this morning involving a very unusual combination of a judge's sentence in court and a defendant's love life. It's not often I get to combine my former and current jobs, you guys! Here's what I read about today:
Sentenced to: Take a break from dating
A Nebraska judge doled out an unusual sentence for a man who was part of an attempted burglary, but hesitated at the last minute and didn't go forward with it. Because the judge deemed the defendant had a "moral compass," he sentenced him to a fee and probation--and part of the terms of probation is a ban on romantic relationships. The judge, like everyone giving post-breakup advice, actually said, "You need to focus on you."
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Previously-licensed-to-practice-law Gena said "Hmm, I'm not really sure that's constitutional," but current-dating-blogger Gena said, "Hmm, I wonder what other weird
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from The 12 Types of Crushes Every Girl Will Have
CN Digital StudioThere are at least 12 types of guys that every girl will probably get butterflies in her stomach for at least once in her life. They are:
1. The childhood crush: The guy you screamed "Cooties!" at in the third grade and "went out" with in the fifth for two weeks. It broke your heart a little when you discovered on Facebook that he got married, even though you haven't spoken to him in ten years and he's not even that cute anymore.
2. The celeb crush: The guy whose poster hung above your twin-sized bed for five years, and you were legitimately certain you'd marry him by the end of every Tiger Beat article. You're so glad the Internet wasn't around when you were thirteen because you might have been one of those crazy pre-teens making Twitter death threats against his girlfriend.
3. The work crush: The guy you wouldn't normally be into, but you sit at the cubicle next to him nine hours a day, five days a week, so you're basically forced to develop a smidge of feelings
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Healthy Living – Wed, Sep 25, 2013 5:42 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Does Sex Really Count as Exercise? Here's the Surprising Amount of Calories it Burns.
Kyle Ericksen Hearts pumping, temperatures rising, and sweat glistening: Sex and working out seem to have a lot in common. But does a session in the sack really equal a session in the gym?
Don't skip your spinning class or your man-pleasing afternoon run just yet.
According to a study in the New England Journal of Medicine, the average practice of having sex lasts about six minutes and burns only 21 calories. For a fun and seasonal visualization of that, check out our slideshow of what 100 calories' worth of your favorite Halloween candy looks like. Then divide the already tiny portion by five. Um, yum?
Obviously most of us aren't having sex for the sole purpose of burning off our afternoon snack, but it would have been a nice bonus. On the other hand, incentive to make your time in bed last longer and be a little more energetic and athletic is probably a great idea in more ways than just calorie burning.
Do you ever feel like you get a good workout from sex?
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by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Uh-Oh, Science Says Your Boyfriend is Probably a Big Insecure Baby
Blech, this basically backs up the supposed Well, not your boyfriend specifically. But probably most men. Yay?
You know how people say "Behind every great man is a great woman" and it's like, ugh, barf? Unfortunately if we reversed it, it might have to be "Behind every great woman is a sad, jealous, man-baby." A new study shows that men tend to have lower self-esteem and bruised egos when their female partners excel. So, that's encouraging.
In a series of experiments conducted among 32 undergraduate couples, when men were told their partner had scored in the top 12 percent of all students on a test, the men tended to score lower on an Implicit Association Test for self-esteem. Note that the guys didn't say they felt any worse after hearing of their partner's success, but the Implicit Associate Test measures attitudes and feelings people may not want to report through word associations. Women didn't suffer the same self-esteem dip when their guy succeeded. Come on, dudes. Don't make us feel guilty about being
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Fri, Aug 30, 2013 11:14 AM EDT
by Anna MoesleinRead More »from Fergie and Josh Duhamel Welcome a Baby Boy and Are Taking to Twitter for Parenting Advice!
Getty Images Somebody call our own Jess because she's gonna have to send Josh Duhamel over another order of celebratory cupcakes!
Yup, Josh and Fergie have welcomed their first child today, confirms People. It's a boy for the couple, and they gave him a pretty interesting name: Axl Jack Duhamel.
And it looks like Josh is already turning to Twitter for parenting advice, tweeting: "Curious how your pets reacted when you brought home your first newborn child. Any advice?"
So cute! Congrats to the couple. What do you guys think of the name?
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by Gena KaufmanRead More »from The 5 Favorite Beers of Cheating Dudes
photo: Yanes, Romulo A "I don't always drink beer, but when I do, I'm probably cheating on my wife." --World's least interesting man
Seriously, do we even care what goes on in the mind of a cheater? Sigh. I guess I do, because I keep clicking on links to stories about their preferred restaurants or what cities the most of them live in. And today, I learned about their favorite beers. Classy U.K. site Illicit Encounters surveyed its members to find out their preferred choice on tap.
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The top five are:
4. San Miguel
Obviously, if your guy is a big fan of one of these beers, you should definitely panic. Or, alternatively, you could just remember that these are generally pretty popular beers that are commonly sold at Everybar in Everycity, USA (though I've never actually had a San Miguel, have you?), so of course they are probably popular among non-cheaters and cheaters alike.
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Fashion – Wed, Aug 7, 2013 11:34 AM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Ke$ha's New Jewelry Line is to Be Worn Only by the Very Bold
Penis earrings with chain detail, $15; Petite penis ring, $12; Penis charm pendant with chain, $20 (Sold out!) Like the saying goes, wear your heart on your sleeve and penises on your accessories.
No, never heard that one? Of course not, but what else would you expect from Ke$ha? Tastefully elegant pearls and simple gold chains? Honk shoo. Her new jewelry line, Ke$ha Rose by Charles Albert, has arrived, and the hilariously named "Grow a Pear" line features well...golden anatomy, you guys. Seriously, check out of a few more of the selections.
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There are other parts of the line that are less unusual, featuring skulls, arrowheads, shark teeth, skulls and roses, and Ke$ha herself looks completely gorgeous modeling the line. And, hey, if you wore this stuff to a bachelorette party, it might be considered classy next to the regular adult-themed accessories.
Anyone out there brave enough to wear such bold jewelry? Clearly there are fans, since some of the pieces are sold out already!
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by Alexa TuckerRead More »from 17 Cheap, Fun Things to Do with Your Girlfriends
photo: Walter ChinMy girlfriends and I love to get together when we're all in town. We go to dinner, see movies, indulge in mani-pedis…and seriously blow our budgets. Sound familiar? Even the most fabulous ladies have to get creative with their bonding ideas--think Carrie's poker night with the girls in season one of Sex and the City. Here are some ideas to help keep your girl-time fresh (and cheap!).
Have a nail-art party
Experiment with DIY manicures by heading over to a cool nail art blog and attempting one of the designs. Might I suggest The Girls in the Beauty Department as a good place to start?
Release your inner baking queen
Bond over an afternoon of cupcake decorating. Worried about overindulging? Bring them into work or give them to your neighbors to make fast friends (and avoid the extra calories lying around).
Work it out on Pinterest
Find a new exercise routine and test it with your girls. YouTube the moves you don't know, then have your friends check you to make sure
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Thu, Jul 25, 2013 12:15 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Ryan Reynolds Won't Leave the House Until Blake Lively Does This.
photo by Donato Sardella File this under things I never thought I'd think: Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds kind of remind me of my mom and dad.
Huh? I mean, my parents are lovely people, but they don't exactly have Blake's and Ryan's perfect looks or buckets of money, and they're also several decades senior and not exactly what I'd call famous. They don't have a ton in common. But in a recent interview with Extra, Ryan said something that totally made me think of my dad...
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While attending an event without his wife, Ryan said she had signed off on his outfit (the summery coral tie and blue shirt above), and in fact went so far as to say, "I would never walk out of the house without her approval."
Now of course, I'm sure he's exaggerating and doesn't literally mean never, but it seems he lets his fashion-friendly lady help with his style for public appearances, at least. Which cracks me up because although my mom didn't become a fashion