by Gena Kaufman
Getty Images Every time George Clooney splits with his latest companion (sorry, Stacy Keibler!), we pretty much hear the same story: She wanted kids/marriage/more; he didn't. And we all think, God, wasn't that pretty obvious from the get-go? That's his M.O. Truth be told, we don't really know what goes on in the Cloonster's relationships, but it would serve us all well to go into a relationship knowing what both people want in order to avoid painful breakups later over major issues that neither of you had ever planned to budge on.
To get the lowdown on what values couples need to talk about before it's too late, we spoke to life coach and relationship expert Marni Battista. And what she revealed is that it's a common issue.
If you've ever hesitated to bring up serious topics about the future early in a relationship for fear of being seen as too needy or high-maintenance, you're not alone. According to Battista, a lot of daters think that in order to be seen as "the one," they
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by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Don't Get Clooney-ed: 5 Non-Negotiables You Need to Discuss Early in Your Relationship
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by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Just How Much Do Men Lie About Their Penis Size? the Answer May Surprise You
Giovanni GiannoniResearchers in Indiana attempted to conduct an accurate study about the size of the average man's erect penis, but that's not an easy task. Evidently, actually measuring doesn't work so well because, understandably, guys don't really get it up when a scientist is watching them with a ruler. But asking guys to just report the size is also kind of a downer (Get it?/Sorry!) because they are possibly lying their faces off.
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Or not? In this study, the scientists attempted to incentivize honesty by telling the men they were custom-fitting condoms based on their penis size, so it wouldn't fit if the participants lied either way. (Which was actually true: This was part of a larger study on condom fit.)
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In conclusion, they found that the average size of an erect penis was about 5.57 inches. Which measures up to previous research...pretty much exactly! Previous studies
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Fri, Jun 14, 2013 3:17 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from 12 Percent of You Could Be Literally Allergic to Your Boyfriend
If you've experienced unpleasant sensations down below, like itching or irritation, there's good news and bad news. The good news is it might not be a sexually transmitted disease.
The bad news is, it could be caused by an allergy to your man. Specifically, to his semen. Um, what?
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But seriously, it's a thing. It's called hypersensitivity to human semen (HHS), and as many as 12 percent of women may suffer from it, causing "itching, irritation, and painful urination to atopic eczema and anaphylactic shock." Anaphylactic shock? Holy crap. I knew men could be irritating but you know, I thought in a funny way. I'm not laughing at this.
And FYI: If you're one of the 20,000 to 40,000 women between ages 20 and 30 who are estimated to be affected each year, it doesn't matter which man you're exchanging bodily fluids with. It's the properties of semen itself that causes the symptoms, regardless of partner. Luckily it doesn't
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Wed, Jun 12, 2013 5:28 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Everybody's Doing It: Publicly Shaming Dudes for Bad Relationship Behavior
photo by Grant CornettThis week's headlines appear to showcase a hot new trend: Ladies, fed up with the appalling behavior of certain dudes, are not quietly rolling their eyes anymore. They're taking to the Internet to Call. Them. Out. Emphasis because they're doing it in a major way.
Exhibit A: The Pennsylvania woman who endured a two-hour train ride listening to a cheating husband brag to his friends about his multiple affairs. She got so sick of listening to his vulgar talk that she snapped his photo and posted it on her Facebook page along with the caption: "If this is your husband, I have endured a 2 hour train ride from Philadelphia listening to this loser and his friends brag about their multiple affairs and how their wives are too stupid to catch on. Oh please repost ... "
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It's been shared at least 183,000 times. No word on whether it's been shared with the guy's wife, and I can't decide for her sake if I hope it has, or hasn't.
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Thu, Jun 6, 2013 3:17 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from If You Met Your Guy Online, Here's Some Great News for Your Future
photo by William ConnorsIn case you still have lingering doubts about online dating, here's yet another reason to get over it.
A study of 19,131 American couples who married between 2005 and 2012 found that more than a third of them met online, and those couples tend to be happier in their relationships. And lest you think they're just overcompensating to prove meeting online totally works, you guys, I swear, not only did couples who met on the Internet report higher rates of satisfaction, they also were actually less likely to separate or divorce.
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A few interesting tidbits:
* Of the one-third of couples who met online, only 45 percent actually met on dating sites. The others met through social networks (21 percent) and a combination of other online communities like gaming sites, chat rooms, and discussion groups.
* Divorce rates for this study, by the way, were nowhere near the 50 percent you hear people claiming. For couples who met "the
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Wed, Jun 5, 2013 3:17 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from Where the Single Men Are: Um, Everywhere, According to This Interactive Map
photo by Chris Craymer
Do you guys remember that map from a few years ago that showed the ratio of men to women in cities across America? You know, the one that terrified the living daylights out of every single woman on the East Coast because it showed that single women were far outnumbering single men on our half of the continent? Yeah, I do.
Luckily for younger women, Jonathan Soma came along and pointed out that the numbers didn't quite work out that way if you separated it by age. Now, Soma has updated his interactive map to a 2013 version, and it's still good news for single women. Here are two different demographics to illustrate the point for us. First up, all single people ages 18-64:
Courtesy of Jonathan Soma
Uh. Everybody grab a ticket to California, ASAP, right? OK, hold on. Let's take a look at singles with ages ranging from 20-34:
Courtesy of Jonathan SomaOh. Phew.
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A few facts and updates since the old version:
* As you can see, nearly every single city in America has more
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Tue, Jun 4, 2013 6:15 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from 9 Signs You Might Be "Back Together-ish" (Like Katy Perry and John Mayer) (Groan)
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You know who doesn't seem into our suggestion that Katy Perry and John Mayer should never, ever get back together? Katy Perry and John Mayer.
According to reports, the musical couple may be back on--but casually. Or, as one source put it, "back together-ish." What exactly is back together-ish? Well, it apparently involves hanging out, flirting, spending nights together, and not putting a label on it. Sounds kind of vague and confusing, but plenty of people who've broken up have found themselves accidentally drifting back into together-ish status until they're totally confused about their own state of relationship.
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Here are some signs you might be in back together-ish mode yourself:
* Paparazzi and random people are obsessed with catching photos of you together and getting your friends to gossip about what the deal with you two is these days. OK, this one may only be applicable if you're famous.
* Mutual friends are
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Healthy Living – Tue, May 21, 2013 4:21 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from 30 is NOT the New 20. But is that Bad or Good for Us?
David Tsay Clinical psychologist Meg Jay recently gave a TED talk that may make 30-somethings or almost-30-somethings break out in a nervous sweat. Here's her main message: You know how you're always hearing that 30 is the new 20? Phew, right? Wrong!
According to Jay, 30 is NOT the new 20, and saying it's so is a big problem. She frequently hears clients in their twenties talk as if things don't matter: This relationship isn't great, but I'm just killing time. I'll just bartend for now and as long as I figure out a career by the time I'm 30, it's fine. But it's not. When those clients are about to hit 30, they change their tune: I've got nothing to show for my twenties. What was I doing? What was I thinking? Uh. Oh.
Here are a few reasons your twenties DO matter, according to Jay:
* 80 percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35.
* The first 10 years of your career has an exponential impact on how much you'll earn.
* Over half of Americans are with their future
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Tue, May 14, 2013 6:44 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from 13 Ways Dating is like Running (From a Person Who Hates Running)
Nobody would understand my pain as much as Hannah Horvath.
If you'd like this story to be about the inspiring feeling of reaching your goal, either in running or love, abandon ship now. This conversation is not for you, running lover. Or dating lover, for that matter.
I started an eight-week Couch to 5K program about six weeks ago, which means I've been complaining for approximately, oh, six weeks. I've always loathed running. It's not just that I'm lazy, per se, it's that I've always preferred other forms of activity, like yoga or dancing or sitting on the couch with a box of Hot & Spicy Cheez-Its. However, I got it in my head that I wanted to be able to run at least a few miles without keeling over, so I've been forcing myself to do the supposedly easy training. Surprise: I STILL HATE IT. But I keep doing it. Which kind of reminds me about how I feel about dating sometimes, especially when I was first getting back in the swing of it last year.
Here are some similarities I've found:
1. Love hurts. Running really, really
- Smitten, Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Thu, May 2, 2013 5:21 PM EDT
by Gena KaufmanRead More »from 10 Signs You Need to Update Your Online Dating Profile Immediately
Thayer Allyson Gowdy Last night as I looked around my room, filled with suitcases and boxes and a million piles of clothes messily divided into "Keep" and "Give Away" piles, I knew I had some important work to do before I move back to New York. So naturally, I went downstairs, got a glass of wine, and worked on updating my online dating profile so I could start scoping dating prospects in NYC.
What, you guys? I'll pack later.
Anyway, as I updated my zip code so I could see the guys in my new (again) neck of the woods, I took a look through the rest of my profile, which I haven't done in a while. As I read through it, I noticed that a) I still think my own profile is totally funny and cute and b) it's kind of outdated. Most of what was was written was originally composed back in 2008, my first small brush with online dating during a split with my boyfriend. After we reunited, I shut it down, but when I signed back up years later, I just re-used the original profile, just adding a pic to