Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

There are obvious things you miss when you get out of a long-term relationship: having a date to those 17 weddings every summer, someone to hold your hand, and regular sex. These are the reasons you cry for a week straight after a breakup. But there are a few less obvious things that will eventually get to you too.

In the year I've been single after being in a relationship for many years, I've discovered several things that are really annoying about suddenly being on your own when you're so used to having a partner. Now believe me, these silly things aren't even close to being worth suffering through a bad relationship so I don't fret too much over them. But I thought we could take a minute to do a little good natured pouting (sort of an oxymoron, huh?) over the little annoyances of losing your partnered status:

Annoyance #1: There is nobody to put lotion on your back. In my case, this is the worst as I have a reoccurring rash on my back that needs

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

Are you guys having a moment of "Babies are everywhere!" or is it just me? Two of my best friends had babies this year, another is due like, any minute, and I just video chatted with my cousin and her brood of four little ones last night. Squee!

I'm a total baby person, but not everybody is. And while I know some women who don't start squealing at the site of a stroller, I know a lot more men that seem kind of blasé about the whole thing. If you're feeling like you're totally ready but you're not sure you guy is on the same page (or if you're so not there yet but you're freaking out that he is!), here are few signs he might be ready for the pitter patter of little feet. On the other hand, there are also some alternate signs that he's not there yet due to being kind of a baby himself.

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Ready For Baby: He sees kids everywhere. He starts pointing out cute babies with their parents to you at the grocery store, the park

Not just famous for its deep dish pizza and sports teams anymore, Chicago has a new thing...
by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

...It's apparently where wealthy men are the most promiscuous. SeekingArrangement.com conducted a study of 5,000 of its sugar daddy members, asking them how many sexual partners they had per year. If a man had more than seven, he was deemed "promiscuous" (no word on what determined that number as the standard). And the cities with the highest percentage of guys who are promiscuous is as follows:

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* Chicago 72%
* Birmingham 70%
* Las Vegas 68%
* Oklahoma City 64%
* Atlanta 62%
* Phoenix 61%
* Philadelphia 59%
* Hoboken 57%
* Richmond 55%
* Hartford 54%

The least promiscuous? New York and San Francisco were among them, with less than 15% of their sugar daddies having seven-plus partners a year. Yep, NYC and San Fran: where men will basically pay for women to be their girlfriends, but not seven of them a year.

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour
Have you ever noticed that the majority of phrases associated with football can sound pretty sexy if you want them to? I mean, the penalties alone: physical contact, holding, illegal use of hands?!? Come on. It's almost too easy.

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It's football season, and where I'm from (it's Ohio State Buckeye territory, folks), the entire city is dead serious about tailgating. Seriously, it's like a roundup of thousands of hot dudes getting all fired up and excited. Score! How in the world have I not managed to meet any guys through all this yet? Oh right, because half of them are in college and I'm 30. Ew.

Anyway…if you find yourselves at a tailgate, or a game, or just watching at a bar with a roomful of good-looking and hopefully age-appropriate men (and a plate of fries), you might need to take some action. So here's a list of pick up lines you can use. Yes, they're all totally groan-worthy, and no,

We're onto you, dudes: You love a chick flick and it's NOT just to score points with your lady friend!
by Gena Kaufman, Glamour
(500) Days of Summer Look, I don't always like to group things into categories of "for men" and "for women" but it can't be denied that common belief is that guys like action movies and women like romances. And frankly, most men I know would confirm that (women's opinions seem to be more split). But deep down, I think a lot of guys have a soft spot for at least one stereotypically "girlie" movie, and sometimes, they aren't even ashamed of it. And rightfully so, some of these movies are undeniably awesome.

An informal poll of some friends, and some of my own experiences, contributed to this non-comprehensive list:

How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days: This entire post was inspired by my roommate Ryan, who can't see this magazine-inspired rom-com while channel surfing and NOT turn it on for a few minutes and/or bust out the Matthew McConaughey quote, ""Yeah you, you named my penis after

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour





















Anyone up for a little weekend romance? After a long hard work week, you may need to put a little effort into getting in sexy relaxation mode, and here's how to do it.

To get the low down on how to set the perfect sexy mood, we got a few tips and suggestions from Patty Brisben, Founder of Pure Romance. Read on, then get busy!

Sensual Sights
- DO use candles to set the mood. Not only does it feel romantic, but Patty says "the glow of a candle is an easy way to flatter your body." Double bonus: Use a massage oil candle, like the one below, and you can use the melted oil as a warm body balm to really get things heated up.
- DON'T leave them burning after you get um, distracted. Busting out the fire extinguisher to put out the flames on your curtains is sure to ruin your night. Safety first, girls!
Burning Desire Candle, $24
The Sound of Music
- DO put on some background tunes. It's extra special to create a romantic CD or playlist with soft, sexy tunes

by Gena Kaufman, Glamour
You just started dating someone new. It's perfect: you find everything he does to be adorable, you want to be around him all the time, and you hear music when he walks in a room. Um, you're annoying that crap out of everyone around you.

Last week I talked about being the single girl who sometimes can't talk about anything but being single. This week, I want to touch on the flipside. We've all been there: you're newly in love, and it's all you can think about. But we've also all been on the outside: watching our friend be all schmoopy and touchy-feely, and vowing to NEVER be that annoying ourselves. Until we meet that perfect guy, and then there we are, watching our friends not so subtly roll their eyes when they think we aren't looking. Here's how to avoid it:

1. Accept that you can't avoid it. Sorry, in a blissful new relationship, you just are going to be annoying. There's nothing you can do about it. But anyone who loves you will be really happy for you,

by Melissa Melms, Glamour
What do you do when you're getting some zzz's and you're interrupted by a super sexy sex dream…that's not about your partner? There's a fine line between when you should spill the beans and when you should keep it (and, ahem, all that hotness) to yourself.

When I have sex dreams about J, I always confess to him. I like to tell him he's always on my mind, even subconsciously. But when I'm a big ole hussy frolicking with celebs (or worse-someone real, eek!) I rarely think about while awake? NO WAY. I just feel dirty and wrong. Sometimes people pop into your dreams for no real reason at all. And that's where they should stay!

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This week I broke my rule: I confessed a super slutty dream to J. First I got frisky with Zach Braff (who, by the way, is not even on my celebrity crush list. I think it all stems from this post when I started following him on Twitter!), and then I got frisky with J. It