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Most of us believe that desire sparks the idea to have sex, which ideally leads to us feeling like it's the Fourth of July when it's really the third of March. So if we're not already in the mood, then it's hard to for us to motivate to light some candles and change out of our yoga pants that are too baggy to actually wear to yoga. But the desire-then-sex formula can be limiting, says Laurie Mintz, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of Florida and the author of A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex. Research clearly shows that women can have the idea to have sex, start having sex and then become excited, and then become really really excited, Mintz says. Often, the trick is to just do it and tell yourself that you'll be glad you did. What makes the difference between sex-as-foreplay and sex-as-duty is your attitude, says Mintz (who acknowledges that yes, this is harder than itRead More »from How to Get in the Mood for Sex