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    • Crazy Questions People Ask Gynecologists

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      Can your doctor tell when you last had sex?


      She might be able to if it was the last thing you did before leaving home, says Lauren Streicher, MD, assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine. The evidence may remain inside you for 12 hours. This presents a bit of a challenge, says Streicher, because ejaculatory fluid-as well as spermicide, lubricants and creams-alter the vaginal flora (we love that phrase) in ways that can make it difficult for your doctor to accurately read your test results. If you're getting a Pap smear, give your doctor a heads-up about your very recent tryst so that she knows what she's dealing with. If the reason for your visit has to do with abnormal discharge or odor, abstain from sex for about 12 hours, or consider rescheduling. But good news if you're feeling self-conscious about a monthslong dry spell: Your doctor won't be able to tell unless you decide to tell her, says Streicher.

      Can you be

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    • Simple Shortcuts for Amazing Fried Food

      Photo: ThinkstockBy Lynn Andriani

      Southern Fried Chicken-from the Oven

      There is a way to get crackling chicken skin without deep-frying (or shaking and baking). The trick is to preheat the oven with a pan in it--so when the chicken hits the hot metal, it instantly forms a golden crust. Crank the oven up to 375 degrees and place a dark roasting pan or rimmed cookie sheet inside. Bread drumsticks, breasts and thighs--a mixture of Ritz cracker crumbs and Parmesan cheese gives you a wonderfully crunchy and salty exterior--and then carefully remove the hot pan from the oven. Slowly drizzle 2 tablespoons of olive oil around the pan and carefully lay the chicken down; when the meat hits the pan you'll hear a sizzle. Bake for 20 minutes, flip, squirt with lemon juice and bake another 20 minutes.




      Photo: ThinkstockA State Fair at Home

      We aren't about to give you a recipe for no-mess fried Twinkies, but crispy-on-the-outside, fluffy-on-the-inside fried dough is well within a home cook's reach--and it

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    • 5 Secrets for a Clutter-Free Holiday

      Photo: Alison GooteeBy Kate Rockwood

      If the very mention of the holidays has you overwhelmed--decking the halls, shopping for 82 family members, stocking up on boxes and bows--O's organizing wiz, Peter Walsh, is here to help you breathe a little easier. "Set aside the question 'What do I need for this holiday?' and instead ask yourself, 'What do I want from it?'" suggests Walsh. "The answer is usually family, warmth, relaxation, reconnection--not things." Here are some easy ways to de-clutter this season and make room for what really matters to you.

      De-Decorate

      "When I'm in someone's garage and I see endless storage boxes filled with strands of lights and garlands and ornaments, my first thought is always 'Are you kidding me?'" says Walsh. "I'm not Scrooge, but for many of my clients the collecting has gotten out of control." Part of the problem, he says, is that we amass more decorations each year, yet we rarely (if ever) filter out what we no longer use or appreciate. "People just shove

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    • The 3 Things You Need for a Rock-Solid Relationship

      Photo: ThinkstockPhoto: ThinkstockBy Laura Berman

      At O You! 2012, Laura Berman knocked our socks off with her straight talk about love and sex. Here are our favorite takeaways from her session.


      Healthy Relationship Requirement #1: A Strong, Healthy Body

      I'm talking about muscle strength. You have got to do your kegels--several hundred a day. Walking around in high heels is also good for your pelvic floor--a group of muscles that holds up your reproductive organs. Having muscle strength there can do wonders for sexual response.

      Healthy Relationship Requirement #2: A Creative Spirit

      What's so powerful about 50 Shades of Grey? It's not that it's inspiring the libido, it's that it's inspiring women to action by exercising our fantasy muscle. One of the things that's most erotic about the series is the idea of surrender. So many of us are alpha women: We're working so hard outside and inside the home--we're overtaxed, overstressed and we don't know how to give up control. There's a frustration and a desire we Read More »from The 3 Things You Need for a Rock-Solid Relationship
    • 6 Steps to a Perfectly Made Up Face

      Photo: Greg KesslerPhoto: Greg KesslerBy Val Monroe

      Q: My biggest makeup problem? How to wear it. I need help!


      A: When I asked readers online about makeup, this is how most of you responded. So I e-mailed the terrific makeup artist Matin Maulawizada for an easy routine. You'll need a tinted moisturizer, a cream blush, a neutral eyeshadow base, an eyelash curler, black mascara, and a sheer lipcolor. I'll wait while you get them. You back? Great! Now position yourself in front of a mirror with your tidy stash and follow these directions. It's as easy as 1-2-3 (4-5-6). Let me know how you did.

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      1. Smooth on the tinted moisturizer to even out your complexion. Apply it the same way you apply untinted moisturizer; a dime-size amount should be enough to dot on cheeks, chin, and forehead. Then blend it in, being sure to smooth it under your jawline and over your neck. (Try Dr. Dennis Gross All-In-One Tinted Moisturizer Sunscreen SPF 15, $44, DGSkincare.com.)

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      2. Apply the cream blush. Dab a little on the back of

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    • 7 Ways to Relieve Stress in Under an Hour

      Photo: ThinkstockBy Kelly Mickle

      Don't be surprised if you feel tension taking over as the holidays approach: Nearly half of all women experience increased stress during this season. Luckily, regaining your calm doesn't have to take long. Whether you've got ten minutes or an hour, the right activity is all you need.

      10 Minutes: Chew a Stick of Gum

      Researchers from Australia and England found that in moments of stress, gum chewers felt less anxious and had 18 percent less cortisol (the stress hormone) in their saliva. "Chewing increases blood flow to the brain--which may make us feel more alert--and it may also distract us from stressors," says study coauthor Andrew Scholey, PhD, director of the Centre for Human Psychopharmacology at Swinburne University.






      Photo: Thinkstock12 Minutes: Brew Some Black Tea

      People who drank four servings of black tea a day for six weeks were able to de-stress faster and had lower levels of cortisol after a stressful event, according to a study from

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    • The Best Ab-Moves from Celebrity Trainers

      Photo: Getty ImagesBy Corrie Pikul

      The Move: Side Plank Variation

      The Pro: Mari Winsor, one of the originators of Pilates-style workouts, has Pilates-ized half of Hollywood.

      Core Clients: Winsor says that Miley Cyrus particularly likes this move, and has been known to rope fiancé Liam Hemsworth into doing it with her.

      The Steps: 1. Sit on the floor, leaning sideways on your right hip, with your right arm on the mat supporting your body. Your legs should be slightly bent, with the left foot slightly in front of the right.

      2. Use your core to lift your body up to a side plank.

      3. Extend your left arm over your head.

      4. With your abs pulled in tight, lower your hips (but don't let them touch the floor!) and your left arm, then press back up to the side plank.

      5. Repeat this same lower and lift 6 to 8 times, then switch sides.


      Photo: Getty ImagesPhoto: Getty ImagesThe Move: Plank Push-Ups

      The Pro: Teddy Bass, celebrity trainer for over 19 years and creator of the Rock Bottom Body lower-body sculpting program.

      Core Client: Christina Applegate

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    • 6 Foods that Are Keeping You Up at Night

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      Sports-Bar Food

      Research shows that high-fat indulgences such as french fries, potato chips and mozzarella sticks can not only throw off the scale, but they can also disrupt sleep cycles.

      A better sleep snack: Edamame (boiled soybeans in the pod, served sprinkled with salt) is high in magnesium, which has been shown in some studies to improve the quality of sleep of insomnia patients.


      Crudité

      Raw broccoli, cauliflower and carrots will make you feel full quickly...but will still be moving uncomfortably through your digestive system long after you pull up the covers.

      A better sleep snack: Bananas contain sleep-inducing tryptophan and magnesium as well as (bonus!) potassium...which can prevent a middle-of-the-night charley horse.


      Cured Meats

      Bacon, pepperoni and sausage contain high levels of tyramine, an amino acid that boosts the secretion of the brain stimulant norepinephrine.

      A better sleep snack: A turkey sandwich on whole

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    • 9 Things Your Friends Secretly Want to Tell You

      Photo: ThinkstockBy Amy Shearn

      "It's not okay that you're always late."

      Things happen. Lives are complex. Of course, your life is particularly so (everyone's is), which is why it's difficult to get to brunch on time (every time), which is not your fault, exactly, because there was nowhere to park, and then before that, there was a line at the drugstore, and before that, there was the argument with your 5-year-old about whether you could take your purse he was using as Lego storage and...she knows. Your friend has too much on her plate too, which is why she would never say anything about your tardiness. But perpetually making her wait sends the message that other things are more important than she is. That, in fact, almost everything is more important than her. No one wants to feel that way. Isn't that part of why we maintain friendships, to matter to someone, to have someone matter to us? Your friend matters to someone. She matters to you. So show your love: Leave 15 minutes earlier.


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    • Eckhart Tolle: When You Don't Know What to Do

      Photo: ThinkstockAs told to Leigh Newman

      One scenario: Due to budget cuts, you may--or may not--be losing your job, and you're not sure if you should take the much-lower-paying job at another company or just stay where you are in case things work out. Another: With the birth of your new baby, you need to move, and you can't make up your mind between the neighborhood with the good public school and the one where the houses are actually in your budget. Yet another: After seven years together, your marriage has turned into a relentless series of bitter arguments, but you're not certain if you should try to reconcile or finally end the relationship.

      RELATED: 12 Ways to Unclutter Your Life

      All of us have had these kinds of experiences--times when we have to decide something and we just don't know what to do.

      The first step is usually to collect information. You have to look at the facts of the situation: What's for and what's against. But even then, you still may not be able to come to a conclusion. For

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