Illustration: Rachell SumpterBy Michelle Konstantinovsky
Janice Bremis was stunned the day her husband came home and announced that, after six years of marriage, he was moving out. When he did finally pack up and rent a room from a friend, Bremis had to come to terms with the fact that the relationship was over. As her steady life radically changed, the 41-year-old latched onto the only activity that gave her any sense of stability: strict calorie counting.
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It wasn't the first time Bremis had turned to rigid self-control to get through a difficult phase. Decades earlier, when she'd struggled to maintain good grades in her first year of college, the self-described overachiever had used food as a reward. "I wouldn't allow myself to eat until I'd finished my homework or written the paper I'd been assigned," says Bremis, now 57. "And then when I started to lose weight, seeing the results of my discipline felt empowering. Before I knew it, I'd
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His Belt Size
Over the years, his waistline has stealthily expanded (whose hasn't?), but you've never let it get between you and a great sex life. The surprise: His extra weight may actually have tipped the balance in your favor. Fat men last longer--so finds a study published in The International Journal of Impotence Research showing that men with a higher body mass could make love for more than seven minutes on average, versus less than two for their fitter and slimmer peers. Body fat may protect against premature ejaculation because it contains high levels of the sex hormone estradiol, which slows down a man's ability to ejaculate. (Note: There's a sweet spot--levels that are too high may lead to erectile dysfunction, a condition more common in obese men.)
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The Wrong Pocket Rocket
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The 14.5 Percent Tip
Dinner was lovely, and he made you laugh and, as promised, the chicken mole was nothing short of revelatory. But then, as you noticed and tried not to notice you were noticing, he was snippy to the waitstaff and left an underwhelming tip. Yes, you can spin this into a playful little debate about whether tips ought to be performance-based, and maybe it will be amusing in a Seinfeld-y way. Still. Think it through. He might have made charming conversation and looked meaningfully into your eyes, but if this relationship progresses, sister, someday you're going to be the one bringing him a plate of spaghetti and getting the stink eye.
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Bertha. His Pet Boa Constrictor
If life were a movie, a pet boa constrictor would read as "quirky." But this is no Wes Anderson film; this is a life you have to live. And boa constrictors live up to 30 years and keep growing that entire time. That's three decades of feeding a
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"Rule" #1: Men More Often Avoid Costly Credit-Card Mistakes
Men are five percentage points less likely than women to carry a balance at all, a study last year by the FINRA Investor Education Foundation concluded. The study, which surveyed 28,000 people across the country, found that women are more likely to pay only the minimum amount required and incur fees for paying after the deadline or exceeding their credit limit than men.
"Rule" #2: Men Don't Forget One Small Raise Builds Over Time
When considering what benefits they want from their employer, women place a higher premium on work-life balance, while men are somewhat more concerned with the size of their paycheck, a 2010 study by WorldatWork found. Flexible work schedules and other benefits, like more paid time off, can be extremely valuable. "With women shouldering more care-taking duties than men, there's clear value in negotiating for non-salary benefits," says Selena Rezvani, a women'sRead More »from Money "Rules" Men Follow that You Should Too
- Oprah.com | In The Pantry – Tue, May 7, 2013 5:09 PM EDT
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Foodist author Darya Pino Rose started eating healthily while living as a grad student in San Francisco, one of the most expensive cities in the country. Here's how she did it.The Don't-Tell-Anybody Spice Rack Secret
Cost: $1.19 for an 8-ounce container
Attention veg-o-phobes: Rose has an insanely easy trick for making even broccoli taste great. Sprinkle a tiny bit of garlic salt on top. She learned about this supermarket staple--which is just a mixture of dried ground garlic, salt and an anti-caking agent such as calcium silicate--from a veggie burrito shop in Berkeley, Calif. "Their vegetables were always so good, and I finally figured out why--they sprinkled garlic salt on top," she says. Just don't confuse it with garlic powder, which is finer and easier to overdo.
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The Super Herb
Cost: Less than $2 for a bunch
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The Ideal Scoopable Chili
Why it's good the first night: Many renditions of this meat, beans and veggies dinner take hours, but this one is ready in 30 minutes and brings a Friday-night feel to any day of the week.
Why it's even better the next day: The Tex-Mex favorite tends to thicken overnight, making it all the better for scooping up with thick tortilla chips. (Follow the USDA's guidelines and put the food in the fridge within two hours of cooking.)
Get the recipe: Turkey Chili
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Lasagna That Stays Where You Put It
Why it's good the first night: This casserole serves a crowd (at least nine people) and is rich and filling but also happens to be vegetarian.
Why it's even better the next day: Letting the lasagna chill for a day and then reheating it gently (so it's warm but not piping) will make slicing it into neat squares a breeze. One caveat: when you're boiling the pasta, take care not to overcook it; you
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Thou shalt exfoliate.
Makeup sitting on flaky skin flakes off. Use a gentle microbead scrub, or even just a washcloth, to buff away any dead cells on the surface of your skin.
Thou shalt not overmoisturize.
Beautiful skin is hydrated skin, but rich moisturizer will make your makeup fade fast. The solution? Use a moisturizing mask (like Origins Drink Up 10 Minute Mask to Quench Skin's Thirst, $23; Origins.com). Rinse it off and then apply a light moisturizer, avoiding the T-zone areas that tend to get oily. Chanel celebrity makeup artist Rachel Goodwin--who's prepped Jodie Foster and January Jones for the red carpet this season--lets the moisturizer soak in for at least 15 minutes before applying makeup. (The same principle holds for lip balm: Allow it to penetrate for several minutes and then blot away the excess with a one-ply tissue before applying lipcolor.)
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The Art of Beautiful WsRead More »from 8 Life Skills Mom Forgot to Teach Me
Whenever I have to actually write something by hand, I feel obligated to make some self-deprecating aside about the results, which resemble hieroglyphics after many millennia of erosion. But our mothers, who grew up in pre-typing-everything times, really know how to write fancy cursive Fs and Gs and Ws, and as a result there is a bit of everyday elegance infused into even their shopping lists.
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Making Banana Bread Without a Recipe
You used to make fun of your mother for rescuing mushy, overripe bananas from a trash-can fate, but listen, guess where all that delicious banana bread came from? We know how to cook the holiday favorites we helped our mothers make, and probably a cultural biggest hit--hello, noodle kugel! But what about the everyday, unglamorous, using-the-leftovers standbys? We're all capable of transforming rotisserie-chicken guts into a delicious soup, but when do you get that special ability