Photo: Getty ImagesThe author of the best-selling novel I Don't Know How She Does It-the current film version stars Sarah Jessica Parker-gets real about guilt, marriage, and loving what you do.
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Men will never be women...
The software program for motherhood is impossible to fully download into the male brain. You give them two tasks and they're like, "I have to change the baby and get the dry cleaning?"
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...But the right partner makes all the difference.
When you have kids, there's a tendency to put the marriage stew on the back burner and give it a quick stir now and then. But it's important to remember why you had children with this person. My husband is old-fashioned and kind, he does the greatest Sinatra impression, and I'd never have written anything if he hadn't read all those bedtime stories and unloaded the dishwasher while I slaved over chapters.
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- Oprah.com | Parenting – Wed, Oct 5, 2011 8:53 PM EDT
Photo: Getty ImagesThe author of the best-selling novel I Don't Know How She Does It-the current film version stars Sarah Jessica Parker-gets real about guilt, marriage, and loving what you do.Read More »from 5 Lessons on Life with Kids From "I Don't Know How She Does It" Author, Allison Pearson
Photo: ThinkstockWhat would it take to change your life for the better? It may be less than you think.
Edit Your Online Self
Deleting old Flickr photos and closing Myspace accounts do only so much. If you want to seriously revamp what pops up when someone searches for you, consider turning to an online reputation management agency. Such sites, like Reputation.com and MetalRabbitMedia.com, reverse engineer search-engine algorithms in order to drive favorable content towards the top and bury unflattering posts. One DIY to hiding embarassing content: Create Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter pages; Google and Bing generally put content from social networking sites toward the top of search results.
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Send a Smarter MessageYes, we live in a 140-character world, thumbs furiously tapping out terse missives. But consider an e-mail received recently by O magazine's editor-in-chief: "susan: hows it goin?? Annny chance you might know some peeps that could get a Read More »from 3 Online Solutions to Real Life Problems
Photo: Dr. Andrew Weil Integrative FootwearBy Corrie PikulRead More »from At Last: A Supportive Flat Shoe for Unhappy Feet
For those with hard-to-please feet, autumn is the awkward season. We can't keep wearing our orthopedic (yet vaguely Euro and therefore chic) sandals, and it's not yet cold enough to strap sensitive or injured feet into boots.
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This in-between weather calls for in-between shoes: flats that cover toes but expose ankles and can be worn with or without tights. Unfortunately, those of us who rely upon our podiatrists for style advice know that the prettiest flats don't often offer enough arch or lateral support. The clunky flats that tend to look more appropriate for clogging than ballet.
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After dealing with foot problems for half a decade, I've found a few pairs of supportive shoes that won't make my bad feet worse, yet also won't age me by 30 years. This fall, I'll be expanding my safe shoe collection with a pair of moccasins by Dr. Andrew Weil. Yes, that Dr. Weil -- the
- Oprah.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Oct 5, 2011 3:43 AM EDT
Photo: Getty ImagesIn 2003, my girlfriend and I broke up. We'd been together for two years-we were practically engaged-and had been friends for years before that. After we parted ways, I entered a long period of heartbreak. Like any person who's been rejected, I thought, Man, what's wrong with me? I tried to figure out which of my own flaws had kept us from having a successful relationship. But in my gut, I knew my mistakes. My ex had a lot of power and presence, and that had made me less assertive about my own needs. I had sacrificed parts of who I am to avoid conflict. When you're not sticking up for yourself, things start building up.
About three months after the breakup, I was really feeling the loss when something dawned on me: It wasn't just in my relationship that I'd let myself be overshadowed. Even with my managers, my mentality was, It's all about your needs. When they wanted me to try out for a TV show that paid good money, IRead More »from Author-Rapper Common on Learning From Your Break-up
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Stimulates: The prefrontal cortex, which analyzes, plans, and problem-solves
Why: A Johns Hopkins study found that older women who tutored kids for six months developed sharper cognitive skills. The social and mental activity required for teaching sends blood rushing to this part of the brain.
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2. Work out
Stimulates: The hippocampus, which forms memories
Why: Arthur Kramer, PhD, a researcher at the University of Illinois, used MRIs to show that exercise actually makes your hippocampus bigger. Physical activity may increase the number of capillaries in the region, which in turn helps new cells grow. Kramer prescribes one-hour sweat sessions three times a week.
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3. Learn a skill
Stimulates: The intraparietal sulcus, which directs hand-eye coordination
Why: At Oxford University, researchers taught 24 people to juggle and found that after six weeks this region had a higher density of
- Oprah.com | Fashion – Tue, Oct 4, 2011 6:35 PM EDT
Photo: Courtesy of Israel SegalWhen former fashion stylist Israel Segal and his partner adopted newborn twins eight years ago, in addition to figuring out the basics of childcare (times two), there was another challenge: "Our children are African-American-we are not-and I quickly realized that their hair needs are different from ours." He started looking for gentle, moisturizing products, and you probably know where this is going: Unhappy with the available options, Segal set about creating his own. This year he launched Free Your Mane, a line of six superhydrating hair products.Read More »from Finally! A Gentle Line of Products for African-American Hair
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There are a bajillion-give or take a few-hair products out there. You really couldn't find anything that worked?
My aha moment came at Target. I stood in front of shelves and shelves of hair products, with a tiny "ethnic" section that had the same stuff I remembered seeing when I was a kid. Next thing I knew, I was calling a cosmetic chemist to ask him if he could make hair products that offered
Photo: ThinkstockBy Corrie Pikul
After reading new research about the health hazards of sitting, we came up with four ways to stay fit at the office.
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Squat Before You Sit
We all know sitting for hours leads to weight gain (one study found that obese people sit 2.5 hours more per day than lean folks), but it can also put us at risk for cardiovascular disease, diabetes and bowel cancer. We asked a few experts to help us make the most of our time at our desks. Shirley Archer, a personal trainer and fitness expert, developed this easy move for her book Fitness 9 to 5: Easy Exercises for the Working Week. Stand about one inch in front of your chair, holding in your abdominals. Squat as if you're going to sit, but just as your backside touches the chair, stand back up and squeeze the glutes. Archer says that doing this for one minute each day will burn approximately 50 calories over the course of a workweek.
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- Oprah.com | Shine Food – Tue, Oct 4, 2011 12:24 AM EDT
Photo: ThinkstockBy Lynn Andriani
Pros share their tricks for beautiful lattes, straight-edged brownies, perfect hors d'oeuvres and other drop-dead gorgeous dishes.
Chicken That Glistens
You could finish off a whole roasted bird with a drizzle of its own juices...or you could make a beurre monté by whisking cold butter into the liquid, giving the dish extra richness and gloss. In her new book, Basic to Brilliant, Y'all, Virginia Willis explains how to dress up classic Southern dishes by doing just that. First, remove the chicken to a warmed serving platter and tent it with aluminum foil. Heat the sauce (or juices; there should be about 1/2 cup) over medium-high and boil until it's reduced by half. Remove the pan from the heat and, using a whisk, swirl in 1 tablespoon cold unsalted butter. Taste and adjust for seasoning with coarse salt and freshly ground black pepper; then pour the sauce over the chicken and serve.RELATED: Chef Tal Ronnen Prepares"Chicken" Scaloppini
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Why shouldn't your products work as hard as you do? These do it all so you can save time, space and money.
John Frieda Full Repair Protecting Root Lift Foam
This mousse doesn't just add volume-Inca Inchi oil protects hair from heat damage while you blow-dry, flatiron or curl.
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With this cream stain for lips, cheeks and lids, you'll only need your fingertips to touch up on the go. Bonus: It's so sheer you'll never overdo it.RELATED: 8 Alluring New Fall Fragrances
Photo: Courtesy of Physicians FormulaPhysicians Formula 2-in-1 Lash Boosting Eyeliner Plus Serum
Forget those goopy eyelash enhancers. Not only does this one's slim, felt tip give you a precise line, but the peptide-infused formula claims to lengthen and thicken lashes without the mess.RELATED: Your Makeover Essentials Checklist
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In Robert Olen Butler's quiet, moving novel A Small Hotel, a husband and wife offer their respective reflections on their marriage-on the day they are scheduled to be divorced. Here, he shares his vision of long-term love in his own life.
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1. Love and will: My parents met when he was 14 and she was 16. Both of them had lost a parent very early and had not experienced much love growing up. They were determined-and it was an act of wills for both of them-not to pass that on. They were married for 71 years. Never a day went by in our household when the word "love" was not used frequently. I'm deeply grateful to both of them. I feel like I was given the capacity to love from them.
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2. How I know when I'm in love: I want to read to a woman at night.
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3. One thing I've learned: The absence of expressed love is often as