Photo: Joe PuglieseBy Cindy Chupack
Q: Is it possible to become worse in bed with age? - Anonymous
A: I completely relate to this question. What happened to the good old days of crazy, up-against-the-wall sex with someone you barely knew? Here's what: We grew up. We stopped drinking so many martinis. We stopped needing sex for self-esteem. (Or was that just me?) We fell in love, and sex became more about intimacy than fireworks.
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This is normal for women, healthy even. But what if you miss the fireworks? I used to get annoyed with men who said their wives didn't want to have sex. At the height of my up-in-my-sexual-stuffness, I believe I said, "Show me a woman who isn't interested in sex, and I'll show you a man who doesn't know how to please her." Now that I'm older, I realize that I had no idea what I was talking about.
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No matter how determined a woman is to keep the spark alive, other things come into
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Photo: Joe PuglieseBy Cindy ChupackRead More »from Can Sex Get Better with Age?
- Oprah.com | Shine Food – Mon, Jul 25, 2011 10:44 PM EDT
By Kate RockwoodRead More »from Mail Order Pies: A Slice of Heaven, Delivered Straight to Your Door
A bounty of sweet summer fruits tastes even better layered between flaky crust, and we showed you how making pie is, well, easy as pie, in the August issue of O Magazine. But if, like me, the heat of summer keeps you far from the oven, consider one of these scrumptious mail-order alternatives instead.
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For Pie Addicts: Grand Traverse Pie Company
If the thought of choosing between cherry or berry makes your palms sweat, consider the Pie of the Month Club. For one season, six months, or a year, members tuck into a signature pie from this 15-year-old Michigan bakery each month. Some of the most popular pies include Cherry Crumb (Mario Batali called it "a religious experience"), Michigan ABC (grown-in-state apples, blueberries and cherries), and Opera House blackberry.
Reason for Seconds: Grand Traverse can customize a message on your pie--like with icing letters on a birthday cake--using pastry-dough cut-out letters.
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How to Get Rid of Bikini-Line Irritation
Those annoying red bumps that crop up after you shave are likely a case of folliculitis, an inflammation of the hair follicle. Unlike many other-itises, this one has wonderfully straightforward solutions. Upgrade your hair-removal tool kit with:
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A salicylic acid scrub (like Bioré Pore Unclogging Scrub, $8): Use it on your bikini line two to three times a week (between shaves) to buff away the dead skin that can block hair follicles.
A moisturizing shaving cream: It will soften both your skin and your stubble to make shaving less irritating.
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A clean, sharp, razor: Look for one with four blades (you'll get a close shave without pressing too hard), and toss it after a few uses (when it's dulling and may be harboring bacteria).
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- Oprah.com | Power Your Future – Mon, Jul 25, 2011 10:24 PM EDT
Photo: ThinkstockBy Corrie Pikul
It's the middle of football season, and the head trainer for the New York Jets is pacing around his office. He's tried every drill he can think of, but his players just can't seem to focus. The phone rings. It's a woman--a hypnotherapist, she says. She thinks she can help the players get their heads back in the game. The trainer is familiar with strangers telling him how to improve his team--this is New York, after all--and he tactfully puts her off. That trainer had no idea what he was up against.
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A couple of months later, Donna Dannenfelser, Ed.D., a Long Island housewife-turned-therapist, is counseling pro football players in her home while her kids watch TV. The team starts turning things around. Fast forward a decade, and Dr. Donna, as the players call her, is advising high-profile patients and working as a supervising producer on a show based on her career (Necessary Roughness, Wednesdays on USA).
Photo: Jason LoweBy Lynn AndrianiRead More »from 3 Secrets to Making Great Gazpacho
Me, I like to reach for a cold bottle of iced tea mixed with lemonade when I'm feeling wilted by the summer heat. If I were Spanish, though, after waking from my afternoon siesta, I'd probably reach for a bottle of... gazpacho?
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Yes. Though technically a soup, gazpacho is thirst-quenching enough--and, if you puree it finely, liquid enough--to be drunk straight from the bottle, which is how many Spaniards enjoy it, says Claudia Roden, who spent years researching her new 624-page doorstopper, The Food of Spain. Roden told me gazpacho is so popular in Spain, even supermarkets sell it by the bottle. For the rest of us, though, it's easy enough to make at home. And if you're so inclined, I've found the perfect gazpacho containers (funnel required).
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1. Use very ripe tomatoes
2. For the bread that helps thicken the soup, use a hearty
Photo: Thinkstock"The best thing for being sad...is to learn something," said T.H. White in The Once and Future King. This has nothing to do with academic drudgery and everything to do with the fact that mastering a technique, sharpening a skill, doing something you didn't know how to do before, proves anything is possible. Here are 25 ways to brighten up those little gray cells.Read More »from 25 Proven Ways to Beat the Blues
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1. Memorize one good joke.
2. Learn how to land a triple lutz...or maybe just how to skate backward.
3. Teach yourself not to take the bait the next time a loved one starts pestering you.
4. Master Italian (or American Sign Language, German, Spanish, French, Pig Latin...)
5. Have a kid show you one foolproof magic trick.
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6. Perfect your margarita-making technique.
7. Enroll in a bookbinding course.
8. Read everything by a single author whom you've been meaning to get to for years. Faulkner? Melville? Auden? Colette?
9. Knit yourself or
Photo: Roger NeveBy Jenny BaillyRead More »from Quick Fixes for All Your Summer Skin Issues
Trust us: It's way too hot to wear pants. Here's how to get your legs (and arms, and chest) ready for the season's skin-baring outfits.
A Spotless Décolletage
A retinoid cream-either prescription, like Retin-A, or over-the-counter (look for retinol in the ingredient list)-will lighten discoloration and soften rough patches caused by sun damage. Two to four treatments with a KTP laser or intense pulsed light (IPL) can more dramatically minimize both the brown spots and redness caused by UV exposure. (Cost: At least $500 per session.) A fractional nonablative laser, like the Fraxel Dual, greatly improves not just the color but also the texture of the skin. You'll probably need at least two treatments. (Cost: Around $1,000 each.)
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A rich shaving cream and a four-blade razor (try Bic Soleil Bella, $7) are all you need to get smooth legs for at least a day or two. Laser treatments can drastically
Photo: ThinkstockBy Lynn AndrianiRead More »from Ballpark Food That Outshines the Game
Maybe you follow baseball. Or maybe you find yourself following someone you love--who happens to love baseball--to the nearest stadium. If so, you might have noticed that Major League ballpark food has left the traditional peanuts and Cracker Jacks in the dust.
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I kept hearing that the gourmet offerings at many of the country's newer stadiums threaten to steal the show, so I asked around and found six foods baseball fans can't get enough of. Even if your interest in America's pastime is limited to the endearing if ragtag group of dogs named for the Yankee shortstop, you'll want to try these recipes and make a playoff-worthy version of them at home.
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Ballpark: AT&T Park
Team: San Francisco Giants
Must-try concession: Crazy Crab'z, center field
What to order: Dungeness crab sandwich with mayonnaise and tomato, served in a grilled garlic butter sourdough baguette.
Make it at home:
Illustration: Marisa MarchettoBy Suzy WelchRead More »from How to Deal With the Boss from Hell
About a year ago, I bumped into a friend whose daughter, Amanda, used to drive me a little crazy when she was in high school. Not because she committed any of the typical teenage transgressions but because she was perfect. She got great grades, made captain of two teams, played violin in the school orchestra, and was completely down-to-earth and cheerful to boot. So it was with trepidation, as the mother of mere mortals, that I asked after this girl-by then a college graduate working at a well-known company.
"Oh my God, she is terrible," came the grief-stricken reply. "Her life is in ruins. She has a bad boss."
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Instantly, my heart broke for Amanda. She had joined the ranks of humankind.
"Well, it happens to all of us," I told her mother sadly.
"I know-I went through it," she said with a sigh. "But I just quit and married Bill. Amanda doesn't have a Bill. She has only herself."
Exactly. Some of the most successful careers
- Oprah.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Jul 21, 2011 7:58 PM EDT
Illustration: Christopher Silas NealBy Catherine PriceRead More »from How to Talk to Your Daughter (or Your Mother!) About Sex
What do you most want to know about your mom but would never ask? When psychoanalyst Joyce McFadden posed this question to hundreds of women in an online survey that began in 2006, she was surprised by their answers: Half of the respondents wanted to know more about their mothers' sexuality.
The queries ranged from the seemingly straightforward to the profound: "Did she date other men before my dad?" "Had she had an abortion?" "Why did she have an affair?" In her new book, Your Daughter's Bedroom, McFadden explores the great value in sharing these kinds of intimate secrets-even when it's awkward to do so. Understanding our mothers, she says, is vital to understanding ourselves. We asked McFadden how to get the conversation started.
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Q: Why are these discussions so hard?
It's not easy to blurt out the private details of your life to anyone. But moms often don't discuss their sexual pasts because they're