Photo: Courtesy of Leigh NewmanBy Leigh Newman
1. Regarding the broken Art Deco hand mirror in the bathroom: I broke it. I apologize. There were only two of us living in our house, you and me. Who did I think I was fooling with that ghost story?
2. I too now say "you're plucking my nerves" to my children, especially when they are having water-splashing contests in the kitchen-right next to my cell phone.
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3. Remember the bag of plums? I was 7. You were 35. You bet me a bag of plums that you could make the green traffic light. You made the light; I cried and then refused to buy you the plums. Then, for the next 32 years, I still refused to buy you the plums. Well, I owe you the plums. Further, I had a tendency as a child and young person to remain entrenched in ridiculous, no-win positions. This is not a happy way to live. You tried to tell me. I didn't listen.
4. About the drinking. It's behind us. Please, please forgive yourself.
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Photo: Courtesy of Leigh NewmanBy Leigh NewmanRead More »from A Daughter Reveals: 12 Things I'm Too Stubborn to Tell My Mother
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In an ideal world, you'd...pull it out and make margaritas every weekend.
In reality…you can shake your margaritas using a metal shaker and a pint glass, and serve them on the rocks. Or, if you have an ice cream maker, help it pull its weight by enlisting it to make perfectly slushy frozen drinks. A food processor or Cuisinart Mini-Prep can definitely handle smoothies. If you must have a blender, opt for its smaller cousin, the immersion blender (or hand blender), which is much easier to store and clean up, and purees soups beautifully.
In an ideal world, you'd...cook healthier versions of burgers and steaks, thanks to the little tray that catches all that unappetizing-looking grease.Read More »from 5 Things You Think You Need in Your Kitchen...But Don't
In reality...the grill makes a fine burger, but there's nothing it can do that an outdoor grill or even a frying pan can't. And if it's grill marks you're after, use a grill pan. One
Photo: Stephanie Horrocks/iStockphotoBy Sarah Reistad-LongRead More »from 5 Ways to Avoid Getting Angry
For the third time now, the hardware store clerk has brought you the wrong lightbulb, maybe because she still hasn't gotten off her @#*! cell phone. Bad service isn't a crime, but it sure can make you want to commit one, as can any number of daily irritants (being cut off on the highway, just missing the train). Americans report losing their temper on average three to four times a week, according to Raymond W. Novaco, PhD, the University of California, Irvine, psychology and social behavior professor who coined the term "anger management" in 1975. To cool down fast:
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1. Call it: The minute you feel your temperature rise, tell yourself, "I'm bothered, and that may blur my judgment," Novaco suggests.
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2. Don't wait to inhale: Each of us has a unique anger threshold based on chemicals like serotonin, says Emil Coccaro, MD, chair of the department of psychiatry at the University of
Photo: Olivia BarrAs told to Lisa Kogan
I was 46 years old, I had three terrific kids, a happy marriage, and a painting studio where I spent hours every day. Not only was nothing wrong in my life, plenty was incredibly right. But then I had the dream.
I was standing at a barbed-wire fence across from five or six terribly frail people with huge dark eyes and ghostly pale skin. They were trying to tell me something in a language I didn't understand. It was intense and disturbing, and it left me rattled.
A week later I had the dream again, only this time there were a dozen people trying to get me to grasp what they were saying.
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The following week the dream returned, but now there were 20 people, and they looked desperate. I woke up crying. I started feeling afraid to go to sleep.Read More »from The Hunch That Saved My Health—and My Life
Even though my husband thought I was overreacting, I called my doctor to schedule a
Photo: ThinkstockWhat's the latest science on sex? Here are four expert findings that may surprise you.Read More »from What Do Scientists Have to Say About Sex?
1. The scent of a woman's tears decreases sexual arousal in men, according to research from the Weizmann Institute of Science in Israel.
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2. A study at the University of Toronto has revealed that male rats raised with more sisters than brothers are less appealing to potential female mates.
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3. Based on the thorough scientific review of natural aphrodisiacs to date, conducted at the University of Guelph in Ontario, ginseng root boosts arousal and sexual satisfaction, and chocolate increases desire.
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4. A recent study found that a man is more than twice as likely to stay with an unfaithful girlfriend if she cheats on him with a woman than with a man, whereas women are more likely to break up with a boyfriend over a homosexual affair than a heterosexual one.
- Oprah.com | Work + Money – Wed, Aug 10, 2011 8:22 PM EDT
Photo: ThinkstockBy Paige Greenfield and Meredith Bryan
Major Appliances: Get Paid for an Upgrade
Go to ApplianceRebate.com and choose the kind of appliance you want, then type in your zip code. The site, which aggregates cash-back offers from manufacturers, retailers, utility companies, and others in your area, will provide all the forms you need to obtain each rebate. You can get hundreds of dollars back for recycling an old fridge and buying a new, energy-efficient one.
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You can also search for the exact refrigerator model you want on PriceGrabber.com, which will list online retailers by price, from lowest to highest (including shipping). When we searched for one particular refrigerator, prices ranged from $1,738 to $2,499!''
Cell Phone Service: PrePayAn unlimited prepaid monthly plan can cost about half of a traditional unlimited plan.
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Photo: ThinkstockBy Martha BeckRead More »from Are You Secretly a Stress Junkie?
Like most recovering addicts, I clearly remember the moment I finally hit bottom. I'd been strung out for months: sleepless, poorly nourished and hollow-eyed, but still manically active. No matter how dilapidated my body became, my favorite chemicals could always make me feel fine. Until one day, they couldn't. Hello, my name is Martha, and I'm a stress junkie.
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Stress junkies are people who, without even knowing it, use their own physiological responses as a mood-altering device. When we perceive ourselves to be in a threatening situation, we have specific reactions designed to help us either run like hell or battle for our lives: Our blood pressure increases (rushing extra oxygen to the muscles) and our digestive processes slow down (preserving energy).
Naturally, there's a catch. Just like heroin or aerosol fumes, stress hormones have side effects that can kill you. Pumped into the bloodstream at high levels for
- Oprah.com | Fashion – Wed, Aug 10, 2011 12:21 AM EDT
Photo: Joshua JordanBy Brooke Kosofsky Glassberg
As Modern Family star Sofia Vergara shows, all it takes are a few key pieces to turn summer staples into fall's big news.
A Floral Dress with a Cardigan or Trench
This floral silk dress is perfect for an end-of-summer party, and it segues easily into fall with a chunky cardigan and high-heeled galoshes or a trench and stacked-heel boots. "These are fun outfits because they're so unexpected," Vergara says.
Floral silk dress, CH Carolina Herrera; Chunky cardigan, Nanette Lepore; High-heeled galoshes, Hunter Boot; Trench, Burberry Brit. Stacked-heel Boots, Tommy Hilfiger; Heels, Christian Dior.
Photo: Joshua JordanTop Off Your Maxidress with a Cozy SweaterThis airy cashmere-cotton pullover beautifully complements fall's floor-grazing skirt with a thigh-high slit. "Maxi lengths are so easy, and you look put-together," Vergara says.
Pullover, Rebecca Taylor; Skirt, Jenni Kayne; Tank,Read More »from 5 Easy Ways to Extend Your Summer Wardrobe into Fall
Photo: ThinkstockBy Nina BurleighRead More »from The 5 Best Things to Do for Your Relationship
1: "Stop all shame, blame, and criticism. Instead ask for what you want in a clear, specific, and positive manner, and express appreciation for your partner. To elaborate: Men need to feel competent-that they make a contribution and that it is noticed. They like to be told what 'behavior' makes you happy. Since men tend to express affection by doing things, you should interpret their actions as love. When men know what to do and are acknowledged for it, they tend to keep doing it." - Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want
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2: "Change from a critical habit of mind, in which you're very involved with your partner's mistakes, to a positive one, in which you catch him doing something right. Notice one small thing, and express genuine appreciation. That will change your interaction patterns from escalating negativity and criticism to building a culture of appreciation." - John M. Gottman,
Photo: France RuffenachBy Lynn Andriani
Fresh Pasta Is Not Always Better Than Dried
"There is nothing like fresh, homemade pasta," Domenica Marchetti, author of The Glorious Pasta of Italy , says, "but I won't say one is better than the other." Many supermarkets now carry artisan boxed pastas. They're a little more expensive, but they're still comparatively cheap, and since they are cut with bronze dies (instead of Teflon dies, which some lower-quality commercial brands use), they have a rougher surface to which sauce clings well (like mafalde, which is a natural for a roasted-tomato sauce). Cheaper brands also cook less evenly and can turn mushy before they're cooked all the way through.
Get the recipe: Mafalde with Roasted Tomatoes, Robiola and Crushed Fennel Seeds
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Keep Calm, Know Your Allies
If you are going to make fresh pasta, take a deep breath and call upon the help of two kitchen workhorses: your food processor and your freezer. Marchetti says, "The keyRead More »from 4 Things We Didn't Know About Pasta