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1: "Stop all shame, blame, and criticism. Instead ask for what you want in a clear, specific, and positive manner, and express appreciation for your partner. To elaborate: Men need to feel competent-that they make a contribution and that it is noticed. They like to be told what 'behavior' makes you happy. Since men tend to express affection by doing things, you should interpret their actions as love. When men know what to do and are acknowledged for it, they tend to keep doing it." - Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want
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2: "Change from a critical habit of mind, in which you're very involved with your partner's mistakes, to a positive one, in which you catch him doing something right. Notice one small thing, and express genuine appreciation. That will change your interaction patterns from escalating negativity and criticism to building a culture of appreciation." - John M. Gottman,
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Fresh Pasta Is Not Always Better Than Dried
"There is nothing like fresh, homemade pasta," Domenica Marchetti, author of The Glorious Pasta of Italy , says, "but I won't say one is better than the other." Many supermarkets now carry artisan boxed pastas. They're a little more expensive, but they're still comparatively cheap, and since they are cut with bronze dies (instead of Teflon dies, which some lower-quality commercial brands use), they have a rougher surface to which sauce clings well (like mafalde, which is a natural for a roasted-tomato sauce). Cheaper brands also cook less evenly and can turn mushy before they're cooked all the way through.
Get the recipe: Mafalde with Roasted Tomatoes, Robiola and Crushed Fennel Seeds
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Keep Calm, Know Your Allies
If you are going to make fresh pasta, take a deep breath and call upon the help of two kitchen workhorses: your food processor and your freezer. Marchetti says, "The keyRead More »from 4 Things We Didn't Know About Pasta
- Oprah.com | Fashion – Mon, Aug 8, 2011 10:18 PM EDT
By Amber Kallor
Photo: Courtesy of L'OccitaneNeed relief when the temperature spikes? Chill out with these must-have products.
L'Occitane Angelica Eye Roll-On
The rollerball soothes puffy eyes on contact; essential oil derived from the angelica flower in the south of France boosts circulation to help alleviate dark circles.RELATED: 6 Quick Beauty Fixes for All Your Summer Skin Issues
Photo: Courtesy of NiveaNivea Express Hydration Freshening Gel
It moisturizes dry legs and elbows without the sticky residue, while mint extract provides an instant cooling sensation.RELATED: 12 Beauty Products to Carry in Case of a Beauty Emergency
Photo: Courtesy of DoveDove Go Fresh Cool Moisture Beauty Bar
A cold shower on a hot day offers instant relief, but lathering up with this hydrating bar-it smells like a freshly sliced cucumber-leaves you feeling especially refreshed.RELATED: The Easy Guide to Flawless Skin
$4.50 for 2 bars; Soap.com
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- Oprah.com | Work + Money – Mon, Aug 8, 2011 7:58 PM EDT
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Just How Messy Are You?
Soon you might be able to answer that question down to the decimal point. Researchers at MIT, led by cognitive scientist Ruth Rosenholtz, PhD, are working on a series of computer programs designed to quantify visual clutter by measuring color, contrast, "feature congestion," and visual complexity in maps and photographs of messy spaces. Rosenholtz's work could end debates over whether your teenager's room really is a pigsty (it is), help streamline Web sites and simplify maps, and maybe even lead to the creation of smart cars that can direct drivers to avoid overly cluttered-and therefore dangerous-streets.
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Talk about the magic touch: In a 2008 study published in the journal Judgment and Decision Making, researchers confirmed that the longer we physically hold an item, the more we value it. Two groups of 42 test subjects bid on coffee mugs they'd held in their handsRead More »from 5 Findings That Will Change the Way You Tackle Clutter - Forever!
- Oprah.com | Shine Food – Fri, Aug 5, 2011 10:05 PM EDT
Photo: ThinkstockBy Lynn AndrianiRead More »from 3 Things You'd Never Thought You'd Make (but Should)
And no, I'm not talking about a whole barbecued octopus with two equally out-there sides. These three dishes are just a little beyond the norm, but doable. I came across them in a new food quarterly from chef David Chang called Lucky Peach. While the issue focuses on ramen, there are some hidden, non-ramen gems inside.
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Sauteed lettuce. This is part of a ramen-crusted skate recipe, but I'd skip the fish (leave dredging skate in instant-ramen breadcrumbs to Chang) and go straight to the vegetable: Add a head or two of iceberg or butter lettuce, torn, to a skillet that's already sizzling with a tablespoon of grapeseed oil and a "nice big knob of butter." Toss in a pinch of salt and cook, stirring, until the lettuce is wilted but not completely slack, one or two minutes. Chang gives bonus points if you season it with a dash of vinegar or a squeeze of lemon.
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Photo: ThinkstockBy Lynn AndrianiRead More »from The Near-Death of the Easy-Bake Oven?
The Easy-Bake Oven has been around since 1963, turning out tiny cookies and cakes with the heat from a 100-watt bulb, and inspiring future foodies such as Bobby Flay and pastry chef Gale Gand.
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When Congress decided to ban the energy-sapping bulb, though, Hasbro engineers were faced with a challenge. But kitchen-minded kids (and their parents) can relax: The oven isn't going the way of the Atari 2600. It's evolving--something that's actually very much in the spirit of the Easy-Bake, which has spawned a gourmet Easy-Bake cookbook with recipes from famous chefs, recipe sites that include such creations as Wild Mushroom Flan, and even a PC that lets you cook pancakes at your desk (okay, that one isn't real, but wouldn't it be fantastic?).
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The latest incarnation of the Easy-Bake, which goes on sale this fall, has a fancy internal heating element instead of a light bulb, and doors
- Oprah.com | Work + Money – Fri, Aug 5, 2011 9:00 PM EDT
Photo: ThinkstockBy Martha BeckRead More »from How (Not) to Get a Man: 3 Rules for Seeking Your Soul (and Its Mate!)
I would encourage anyone who wants to find a soul mate to follow these three steps.
1. Know thyself.
Women who are willing to hide or detach from their real selves in order to bag a man often seem to believe that the right guy will give them a sense of identity and self-confidence. This is backward. Looking for love before developing a strong sense of self is like trying to find the mate of a shoe you've never seen.
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Next time you're feeling fretfully single, try exploring your own nature: Write down your favorite foods or colors or songs or books or sports. Visit a therapist. Embark on a voyage of self-discovery for its own sake and because it is on that journey that you are likely to bump into the perfect traveling companion.
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2. Value thyself.
The single women I know are frequently advised, "Stop being so picky," "Have a better attitude," and "Lower your standards,"
Photo: ThinkstockBy Catherine PriceRead More »from 7 Steps to Making Better Decisions
A handy guide to weighing your options.
1. Identify your goal.
As David Welch, PhD, professor of political science at the University of Waterloo in Ontario and author of Decisions, Decisions: The Art of Effective Decision Making, explains, "People who aren't self-reflective are going to end up making bad decisions because they don't really know what they want in the first place." Before you switch jobs, ask yourself: Do I really want a different career? Or do I just want a different boss? Don't make a decision based on the wrong problem.
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2. Eliminate choices by setting standards.
If you're trying to buy a digital camera, list the features you'll actually use. Any camera that has them is therefore good enough for you; ignore anything fancier. Speaking of which...
3. Don't worry about finding the "best."
How good you feel about your decisions is usually more important than how good they are objectively.
Photo: PhotodiscBy Gretchen ReynoldsRead More »from 3 Myths About How Your Body Ages
Not long ago, most people-scientists included-were convinced that the biological indignities of aging were more or less inevitable. Survive past midlife and you'd start losing muscle mass, height, energy, and your car keys. Well, nuts to that. New and inspiring research shows that the supposed physical "certainties" of aging are mostly avoidable. Muscles don't necessarily shrivel. You don't have to shrink or slow down. The key to aging well? One word: Move. Even minimal amounts of exercise can counteract the effects of time.
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Myth #1: Your muscles will wither.
Reality: Only if you let them.
Many of us lose muscle mass after age 40. We also develop schoolmarm wattles. This is largely because aging muscle can become riddled with malfunctioning mitochondria, cellular structures that convert food and oxygen into energy. Without sufficiently robust mitochondria, muscle cells waste away and opportunistic fat cells
- Oprah.com | Fashion – Thu, Aug 4, 2011 8:29 PM EDT
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How to Prevent Fine Hair From Wilting
Oil is your enemy. Shampoo daily to get rid of the grease that can weigh down hair at the roots; dermatologist Ciraldo loves Neutrogena T/Sal shampoo ($7.50) for oil control.
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And go easy on conditioner; hairstylist Eva Scrivo recommends using one with a gel consistency (like KMS California Add Volume Gel Conditioner, $18) to keep hair smooth without flattening it.
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To defy gravity all day, look for products billed as "root lifters" (like L'Oréal Paris Studio Line Pumping Volume Spritz, $5). Spray at the roots when hair is still damp. For extra volume, flip your head upside down while you blow-dry.
RELATED: Summer Hair: Your 3 Step, No-Heat PlanRead More »from How to Handle Fine Hair When It's a Million Degrees
How to Get Your Hair Off Your Neck
Add polish to the easiest solution-a ponytail-by creating a clean side part first. Have a little more time? Twist the tail into a chignon and