Photo: ThinkstockBy Dr. Phil McGraw
Think about the ten most important people in your life, and then ask yourself: "Do I get what I want and need from my interactions with them? And am I investing enough time and effort to make sure my bond lasts?" Answering these questions is a starting point for freshening up a relationship--and believe me, just about every relationship could use a tweak. Luckily, it's in your power to break a bad pattern, even one that seems entrenched. Try these simple techniques to transform your dealings with your partner, coworkers, and friends.
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The Issue: The Thrill is...Going.
The Redo: Change the Vibe.
At the beginning of our marriage, my wife, Robin, and I got into the habit of griping about the day's frustrations as soon as we got home from work. After a while, though, I realized that if you discuss only problems with your partner, there's a good chance you'll develop a problem relationship. I'd read that the
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- Oprah.com | Love + Sex – Tue, Aug 27, 2013 5:09 PM EDT
Photo: ThinkstockBy Dr. Phil McGrawRead More »from Dr. Phil's 3 Keys to Strengthening Your Relationships
Photo: Adam VorheesBy Jessica Girdwain
No one has time to run to the doctor for every stuffy nose or aching muscle, but relying on over-the-counter (OTC) drugs for seemingly minor health problems sometimes does more harm than good. In certain cases, medication can make symptoms worse or mask more complicated conditions. Read this, then decide which route--a pill or an appointment--is best for you.
The Problem: You woke up with congestion, a runny nose, and a phlegmy cough.
Pill or Doc? Pill. For up to one week while you ride out a cold, take a cold medicine that contains an antihistamine (to dry out passages) and a decongestant (to open airways), says Marc Leavey, MD, an internist at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore. And don't forget to drink plenty of fluids. Though doctors may prescribe Z-Paks (six tablets of azithromycin, the most commonly prescribed antibiotic in the United States) to treat cold viruses, they're effectiveRead More »from Achoo! when You Should See a Doctor
Photo: Oprah.comBy Amy ShearnRead More »from 6 Signs Your Partner is Secretly Unhappy
1. He's Obsessively Acquiring Electronics
As the novelist and essayist Charles Baxter put it in his book Burning Down the House, "People in a traumatized state tend to love their furniture." It's almost as if we're gathering things to bolster against loneliness. And there's a study to confirm the same rule applies to marriage: Margaret Clark, a professor of psychology at Yale, found that "people who attach more value to their possessions may be less secure in their personal relationships than those who put less value on material goods." A large-screen, 3D-enabled television isn't complicated. A shiny new tablet won't expect too much.
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Photo: Oprah.com2. You're the "Dining Dead."
The first time it happens, you think, "How nice, that we can just be quiet together." But the 12th time you might experience a chill so subtle you blame it on the temperature in the room. Here you are, sitting together in a nice place and...having absolutely nothing to say to
Photo: Hugh KretschmerBy Oprah.comRead More »from 3 Keys to Gorgeous Gray Hair (Plus Other Tips)
Three Keys to Gorgeous
The cut: Choose a medium-length style; a few long layers around your face are an option. If you look good in short hair, you might try a pixie.
The shampoo: To keep gray healthy and soft, wash your hair only two or three times a week with a clear or white shampoo (like Klorane Silver Highlights, $13). Once or twice a month, wash with a violet-based shampoo to remove dullness and product buildup.
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The styling regimen: Use a dime-size dab of anti-frizz cream on damp hair from roots to ends--gray hair tends to be dry and can get fuzzy. If you're heat-styling, don't forget to use a heat protector. Once hair is dry, spritz shine spray from roots to ends to keep it from looking flat.
All shades of hair have the potential to turn a pure, radiant white, says Elizabeth Cunnane Phillips, a trichologist at the Philip Kingsley clinic in New York City. White hair has no melanin (the pigment that
Photo: ThinkstockBy Leigh NewmanRead More »from How to Make Anybody Feel Insanely Special
Order Them the Thing They Love Without the Thing They Hate
They adore martinis but not the olive. They're mad for olives but not the pimento. They long for flowers, but not baby's breath. In all these cases, when you show up--or send over--the thing that they usually have to special order (or fix, by picking out the all-too-often-always-included unwanted additions), you're effectively making what some people might call a little dream come true. (Other people, myself included, believe that there is no such thing as a little dream. Dreams are all one size--larger than life.)
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Photo: ThinkstockOrigami Them a Heart
Yes, it's so easy as to be considered cheap, but it's nonetheless effective. Also the fact that you spent 3, 13 or 73 minutes folding and refolding such an object for them proves, even if the rest of the world blows, they still have somebody who's willing to endure paper cuts to service someone else's happiness.
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- Oprah.com | At Home – Fri, Aug 16, 2013 8:24 PM EDT
Photo: Aimee Herring By Leigh Newman
What's the one thing I should know about wallpaper these days?
"Metallics!" says Janet Lee, author of Living in a Nutshell: Posh and Portable Decorating Ideas for Small Spaces. "But not the loud, retro, shiny papers that used to adorn 1970s suburban powder rooms." Now gold and silver wallpapers add a subtle sheen to patterns and create extra light in small spaces. Her second choice? Black-and-white prints that keep rooms looking clean and uncluttered, while adding drama. "I love over-scaled black-and-white flowers, especially when paired with a Tiffany blue chair or end table."
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Photo: Emily Gilbert How can I paper a small room?
The worst wallpaper in this situation would be a dark-colored paper with a small print, says New York designer Fawn Galli. "It makes the room gloomy, even smaller and--in the most dramatic cases--claustrophobic." Instead, go with a large, fantastical print, such as one of botanicals or birds. TheRead More »from Not Your Grandmother's Wallpaper: 10 Reasons to Rethink Your Walls
- Oprah.com | Back To School – Thu, Aug 15, 2013 4:13 PM EDT
Photo: ThinkstockBy Leigh NewmanRead More »from Lessons We Can All Learn from the First Day of School
The first person who talks to you isn't necessarily your new best friend.
You may want her to be your best friend. In fact, way back in seventh grade when you were sitting at a lunch table alone, knowing no one in that whole cafeteria full of laughing, seat-saving people, she may have seemed as if she could be such a person--as long as you ignored her bubbling enthusiasm for Wednesday's after-school "Coven Club." And so you invited her over to spend the night. Six months later, you realized you'd spent most of your junior-high experience hanging out in her room, chanting ineffective, creepy spells until you finally admitted to yourself that you two had nothing in common.
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Twenty years later, when you are sitting at dinner at a yoga retreat alone, you need to remember this moment from the past, because the first person who talks to you may actually end up being your best friend--or she may be a total nutcase (and often she is; that is
Photo: Kevin CremensBy Oprah.comRead More »from August's 4 Must-Have Beauty Products
Surf the waves, volley on the beach, and look gorgeous all the while, wearing one of these intensely pigmented waterproof eyeliners. They're suffused with avocado oil and vitamin E, they glide on easily, and they last all day (or night). Choose from 35 shades and three effects: matte, shimmer, or--if the heat makes you bold--glitter.
Sephora Contour Eye Pencil 12HR Wear, $9 each | Sephora.com
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Photo: Marko Metzinger/Studio DBody Wrap
To start the day feeling as if you lived at a spa (well, almost), try this: Take a warm shower. When you're done, grab one of these four subtly scented lightweight body serum sprays--we love the neroli--and while your skin is still damp, spritz yourself all over. Let the moisturizing sea buckthorn oil and pumpkin seed oil sink in. Breathe deeply. Appreciate the fact that there's no check-out time and you don't need to leave a tip.
One Love Organics Aromatic Body Serums, $39 | OneLoveOrganics.com
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- Oprah.com | Healthy Living – Mon, Aug 12, 2013 3:29 PM EDT
Photo: ThinkstockBy Corrie Pikul
The Salad Topping That Doesn't Get Along with Carrots
You've made a colorful salad of spinach, romaine, cherry tomatoes and carrots; it's bursting with carotenoids that offer protection from heart disease and cancer. But if you choose fat-free dressing, you'll get far less of their health benefits than if you go with the full-fat kind, concluded a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition--in fact, you'll get hardly any. That's because carotenoids are fat soluble, says Janis Jibrin, RD, lead nutritionist for Bob Greene's Best Life , which means you need to combine them with fat for optimum absorption. Jibrin suggests dressing your greens (and oranges and reds) with a good fat, like olive oil, herbs and lemon juice.
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The Sweet Treat That Tricks Your Taste Buds
Artificial sweeteners--aspartame, saccharin, Splenda, Truvia, whatever you use to take the place of sugar--are referred toRead More »from Which is Worse: When the Real Thing Trumps Diet Food
- Oprah.com | Love + Sex – Fri, Aug 9, 2013 2:42 PM EDT
Photo: Todd MacMillanBy Deepak ChopraRead More »from The 3 Things Keeping You from Being in a Miraculous Relationship
The author of Brotherhood: Dharma, Destiny, and the American Dream and founder of The Chopra Foundation helps us understand how to revitalize our lifelong unions.
Join Oprah and Deepak Chopra for a transformational three-week guided meditation journey into the heart of true love. Register for the all-new meditation challenge Miraculous Relationships for free.
Relationships are hard work, and the idea that you can be in a miraculous relationship needs explaining. What is a miraculous relationship? It's one where both partners grow spiritually, increasing in love, personal evolution and shared experience of the soul.
Three major obstacles keep this from happening, and you can watch them operating in your own relationship if you look closely, with open eyes and honest intent: control (the need for one person to coerce the other into doing things "My way"), competition (the need to turn every situation into win or lose) and lack of communication (the refusal to share how