An industry that should be thanking us for our apology issue: greeting cards. (Design by Beth Haudiquet)New research by psychologists at the University of Waterloo, found women apologize far more than our male counterparts, and we say "we're sorry" to strangers a heckuva lot more than we do to family members. In two studies that measured the frequency and reasoning behind apologies, there was a clear-cut gender gap. "Findings suggest men apologize less frequently than women because they have a higher threshold for what constitutes offensive behavior," the Canadian psychologists explained.
So what exactly is this "offensive behavior" women fear they're unleashing on the world?
"I apologize to people on the subway who bump into them, as though I've been offensive to them, simply by taking up space on earth," says Amy, 32.
"I've said sorry to guys I've dated for not acknowledging that they're trying, even if they're trying and failing," says Leah, 27.
Sandra Elmoznino, a 27-year-old teacher tells the Wall Street Journal all she has to do is call a friend too early or arrive somewhere a
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An industry that should be thanking us for our apology issue: greeting cards. (Design by Beth Haudiquet)New research by psychologists at the University of Waterloo, found women apologize far more than our male counterparts, and we say "we're sorry" to strangers a heckuva lot more than we do to family members. In two studies that measured the frequency and reasoning behind apologies, there was a clear-cut gender gap. "Findings suggest men apologize less frequently than women because they have a higher threshold for what constitutes offensive behavior," the Canadian psychologists explained.Read More »from Study finds women apologize more than men. Why?
- Piper Weiss, Shine Staff | Love + Sex – Tue, Oct 19, 2010 7:57 PM EDT
Courtesy of CBSRead More »from The Two and a Half Men Project: Is Nazi fetishizing going too far?
In last night's episode, Charlie heads off to a wild weekend in Vegas, or so he says. In reality, he's going to get some quickie plastic surgery. While he's away, nerd captain Alan takes on Charlie's identity. He hits the bar and gets loaded with a pretty lady on his brother's tab and Jingle writing cache (really?). When he takes the woman back to Charlie's bachelor Shangri-la, he's knee-deep in lies.
Turns out this seemingly normal woman knows Alan isn't Charlie. She's slept with Charlie before, see. But she loves role-playing and clearly so does Alan. Next stop: the bedroom. Alan waits in his old man boxers for the woman to emerge from the bathroom. When she does, she's dressed in a pleather Nazi uniform that looks like a "sexy" Halloween costume for a Wiemar Republic theme party. Oh. My. God.
Covered in tattoos, ala Bombshell McGee, she wears a German military cap, and a cuff around her arm, which interestingly, replaces a swastika with a smiley face. There must be a network
- Piper Weiss, Shine Staff | Healthy Living – Tue, Oct 19, 2010 7:31 AM EDT
The headline of the UK's Daily Telegraph article was the first shocker: "First drug addict sterilized under 'cash for vasectomy.'" Humans are paid 200 pounds (or $300) to self-sterilize in England? It brings to mind mobile ASPCA trucks and Bob Barker's closing message on every "Price is Right" episode. Treating addicts like stray animals, is going too far; even for a country responsible for Simon Cowell.Read More »from They're spaying and neutering humans now. Holy crap.
Then comes shocker #2: "Project Prevention, the charity running the scheme, has made similar payments to thousands of men and women in America in a crusade to prevent them having children who may inherit their addictions," continues the article.
Wait, it's an American organization? Turns out the attempt to keep drug addicts from having kids was set in motion in 2006 right here in the States and has now sterilized at least 3000 people nationally through permanent measures like tubal ligation and vasectomies.
The reasoning is to protect unborn children from a life of addiction and
Courtesy of AMC/Mad MenIt can tear apart the fabric of a community, hamper productivity and even drive some to change jobs. But office gossip has its benefits. For example, it can bring two rivals together. It's a scenario that was played out on Sunday's season finale of "Mad Men." As Ginia Bellafante put it in her recap on The New York Times' ArtsBeat blog, the moment inter-office competitors, Joan and Peggy, bonded over Don Draper's engagement to his secretary, was simply lovable.Read More »from In defense of office gossip
"It was great not only for the girl talk it produced and the rapprochement it signaled between the two women but because it punctuated the extent to which they are soul sisters in a sense: Each has had her ambitions and gone about them in different ways; each has been shafted by the big bad patriarchy," writes Bellafante.
The series has long chronicled the challenges women faced in the 1960s workplace, and the symptomatic rivalries that resulted. So the rare kinship between the two female colleagues brought to light an occasion
- Piper Weiss, Shine Staff | Work + Money – Tue, Oct 19, 2010 4:54 AM EDT
With another season of "Mad Men" in the can, we're already getting nostalgic for the old days. Even if we weren't around back then, the series' whiskey-and-mahogany soaked lens makes everything seem sexier. In Don Draper's world, dresses were tailored, fedoras were commonplace and ad campaigns didn't require reformatting every time another iPad launched.
A simpler time, maybe. A better time, no. A collection of ads from the '50s and '60s, recently posted on the blog uFunk, serves as a reminder of just how far women, and many men, have come. It's time to appreciate the way things are.Read More »from Ad campaigns: then and now. We've come a long way, baby.
If a century of Hollywood superstars has taught us anything, it's how to covet glamorous hair and makeup-celebrities have spent years testing out lip colors and hair styles which has translated to true beauty inspiration for the rest of us. And, though the stars have an army of professionals to get them ready for close-ups, with the right tools and a little persistence, the following iconic looks can be achieved at home with no assistance at all.Read More »from 10 iconic beauties (and how to get their looks)
Photo by Getty ImagesLiz Taylor's mega-lashes
Tools: false eye-lashes, manicure scissors, black eye-liner pencil, smudge tip brush, mascara
For Liz's "Cat on a Hot Tin Roof" look, it's all about the eyes, and the secret weapon here? False eye-lashes. For this extra-feminine effect, pick up a pair of false lashes along with some manicure scissors. Trim the extensions to a quarter of the size in width, cutting at the lash band. Then set aside.
Now take eyeliner and draw a thin black line on your upper lids starting with the corners, thickening the line as you move
Mick Jagger has a lot of children, "so many bloody children," he once famously said at an awards show. But Georgia May Jagger is more like his spitting image. The 18 year-old Londoner has been modeling overseas for a couple of years now, but after relocating to New York to study photography at the School of Visual Arts, she's making a name for herself in the States. First stop: the cover of November's Harper's Bazaar.Read More »from Whose daughter is this? Hint: check out the lips
By all accounts, she didn't inherit her the reckless rebellion gene that other rock spawn, like Peaches Geldof, Kim Stewart or Theodora Richards, claim. Instead she's described as "polite, well spoken, and even a little shy," in the article by Christine Lennon.
But in pictures, she's not afraid to put it all out there, recently stirring controversy and titillation with topless photos for a denim ad. One person who wasn't disturbed by her exposure: super-model mom Jerry Hall.
"My mum did a lot of very provocative work with Helmut Newton. She understands. It is pretty
Kelsey and Camille at the Tony Awards, right before it got ugly. (Photo by Bryan Bedder/Getty Images)Read More »from Would you leave your husband for a year?
Last night's premiere of "Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" introduced us to a new carnival of complicated relationships. Not the least was between Camille, and her husband, "Frasier" star Kelsey Grammer. In the season opener, Kelsey is packing for a trip to New York...for a year. He's starring in the Broadway musical, La Cage Aux Folles, and Camille is staying in L.A. to care for the kids and (implicitly) film this series.
They kiss goodbye. She watches his car drive off. And in a matter of months, they're divorcing. According to Camille, the last straw was when her husband didn't call his kids on Father's Day. Grammer denies that accusation, but he doesn't deny taking comfort in New York with a flight attendant with whom he now makes a home.
It's all very Hollywood, or rather Beverly Hills. Or is it commonplace when you separate from your spouse for one whole year? Maybe there were underlying issues in their relationship, but weathering 12 months apart is no small feat. It takes a
- Piper Weiss, Shine Staff | Work + Money – Fri, Oct 15, 2010 7:58 PM EDT
(Courtesy of The View/ABC)
We've had a day to process what happened yesterday on "The View." It's time to tackle just why the Fox News host sent two of the five hosts flying off the couch and out of the studio. A disagreement over political views? If only it were that simple. The argument started with O' Reilly claiming a mosque at ground zero was inappropriate. He used that word a lot. Then came an indictment of an entire religion. Sure Joy and Whoopi blew their top, storming off the set. But the argument came on the heels of 10 minutes of talking to women like children at the dinner table in 1950's. If you're a woman of a certain age, you've encountered one of these blood-boiling moments where you're put down the minute you open your mouth, under the assumption that based on your chromosomal make-up you couldn't possibly understand politics. But let's start with the talking point...
5. "You're Outraged About Muslims Killing Us on 9/11?"
This was the sentiment that caused the hailstorm. Barbara,Read More »from The 5 worst things Bill O'Reilly said on "The View"
- Piper Weiss, Shine Staff | Love + Sex – Thu, Oct 14, 2010 11:01 PM EDT
69 days underground.
6 alleged mistresses.
$27 million dollars at stake.
In a matter of hours news of the Chilean miners' rescue has turned from heroism to a Fox reality competition. It began while Yonni Barrios Rojas was still underground. His request to have both his wife, Marta, and his mistress Susana present at his rescue sparked a flurry of "copycat" revelations, as five other women alleging extra-marital affairs with trapped miners came forth.
"There has been a lot of conflict between women," on-site Red Cross worker, Marta Flores, told the London Telegraph. "We had a big bust up in the canteen tent when a wife came across a woman who claimed to be her husband's lover - we had to step in and pull them apart before things got physical. Unfortunately the conflict stems from money issues."
Big money is on the table. Government handouts for missed wages during the ordeal is being allotted to the miners' families. Then there's the $27Read More »from Do the miners' mistresses deserve a piece of the reward?