Liz Gorman's post about being sexually assaulted has sparked a new debate about what women should tolerate. (Photo: Courtesy of Liz Gorman via The Washington Post)From guys who insist that "no" doesn't really mean "no" to lawmakers who say that women should stay in abusive marriages and institutions that discourage victims from reporting rape, society seems to say that domestic abuse and sexual assault are things women are supposed to grade along a curve and tolerate, depending on the severity of the situation. When saying "no" isn't an option -- as was the case for many of the women who were assaulted by higher-ranking soldiers at Lackland Airforce Base in San Antonio, Texas -- keeping silent can seem easier, a way to limit the damage or avoid another violation.
But when Liz Gorman, a 25-year-old photographer in Washington, D.C., was groped by a stranger in broad daylight last week, she fought back with a personal essay that has sparked a new debate about why women put up with sexual assault at all.
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"I was in Dupont Circle at 3:30 p.m. yesterday and was
Blog Posts by Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Healthy Living – Mon, Jul 16, 2012 9:30 PM EDT
Liz Gorman's post about being sexually assaulted has sparked a new debate about what women should tolerate. (Photo: Courtesy of Liz Gorman via The Washington Post)From guys who insist that "no" doesn't really mean "no" to lawmakers who say that women should stay in abusive marriages and institutions that discourage victims from reporting rape, society seems to say that domestic abuse and sexual assault are things women are supposed to grade along a curve and tolerate, depending on the severity of the situation. When saying "no" isn't an option -- as was the case for many of the women who were assaulted by higher-ranking soldiers at Lackland Airforce Base in San Antonio, Texas -- keeping silent can seem easier, a way to limit the damage or avoid another violation.Read More »from What Does it Take to Get People Outraged Over Sexual Assault?
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Fashion – Mon, Jul 16, 2012 2:04 PM EDT
Is that really Kate Middleton, or just a hyper-real illustration? (Photo: Marie Claire)Kate, Duchess of Cambridge -- also known as Kate Middleton -- appears on the cover of Marie Claire South Africa's latest issue, smiling brightly and wearing a gauzy, multi-colored dress. But how did the magazine manage to land the princess, who famously refused to pose for Vogue just last year?Read More »from Fan Art or False Advertising? Marie Claire's Fake Kate Middleton Cover
Turns out they didn't. The cover photo is a fake -- or, as Marie Claire writer Marisa Crous insists, "a fan art tribute."
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"We were so inspired by her fairytale wedding and her life as a modern-day princess, which is why we elected Kate Middleton as our cover star for the August issue," Crous writes. "But upon closer inspection, the cover is -- much like her life -- more fantasy than reality. The cover is actually a hyper-real illustration of Kate, meant to be a fan art tribute to fashion's new royal icon."
But the duchess has been clear about not wanting to be seen as simply a fashion icon. "The duchess will not be doing anything with U.S.
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Work + Money – Fri, Jul 13, 2012 1:44 PM EDT
celebrate his birthday on June 11 in a big way, so he turned to his friends for ideas -- ended up marking the day with random acts of kindness, including handing out free money to people passing by.Doug Eaton wanted to Read More »from Man Celebrates 65th Birthday by Giving Away Free Money
"I asked a bunch of my friends on Facebook what should I do on my 65th and I got a whole long list of stuff," he told KFOR-TV. "And one of my friends said, 'Why don't you do 65 random acts of kindness?'"
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So that's exactly what he did, spending 65 minutes standing on the corner of NW 39th Street and May Avenue in Oklahoma City, handing out $5 bills to people who passed by. He told his Facebook friends that he handed out more than $375, but the response -- and the amount of good cheer he shared -- was priceless.
From a distance, Eaton looked a bit like any other panhandler holding a sign at a street corner. But instead of a plea for money, his sign read: "I have a home… and a car… and a
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Team Mom – Thu, Jul 12, 2012 5:04 PM EDT
Lucille O'Neal used to give her son Shaquille bubblegum before games to keep him calm, she told Yahoo! Shine.When basketball star Shaquille O'Neal was still a kid, he knew that he had to get good grades before he could to play sports.Read More »from Shaquille O'Neal's Mom Opens Up About Education, Sports, and Keeping Kids Motivated
"In our home we had a rule: No pass, no play," his mother, Lucille O'Neal, told Yahoo! Shine in an interview. "If you didn't pass the grade, then you weren't allowed to play the extracurricular activity."
That dedication to his studies is still strong: On May 5, the four-time world champion and 15-time All Star player earned his doctorate in education from Barry University in Miami.
That's earned, mind you, not honorary. According to The Miami Herald, Shaq, 40, spent the past 4 1/2 years working toward a doctoral degree in organizational learning and leadership with a specialization in human resource development, studying before and after NBA games and between segments as a sports analyst on TV.
"I was really proud to watch him receive the doctorate because I know how hard he worked," his mom says. "And what made me most proud was the promise that he made to
Parents are budgeting $500 or more for back-to-school shopping this year. (Photo: Thinkstock)Many parents are planning to spend $500 or more on back-to-school shopping, a new survey says, with general school supplies and clothes at the top of the list. But budget-shopping experts insist that getting ready for the school year doesn't have to cost quite that much.Read More »from Back-to-School Spending: $500 Per Shopper?
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Forty-six percent of consumers surveyed by PriceGrabber in May and June said that they planned to spend more this year than they did last year. Sixty-three percent said they were budgeting up to $500 for school-related gear (up from 48 percent last year), while 20 percent said they had between $500 and $1,000 set aside for back-to-school purchases.
"If you're not budget-savvy I could see feeling like you 'had' to spend that," frugal shopping expert Mir Kamin told Yahoo! Shine in an interview. "You really don't!"
One reason the back-to-school budget seems so high is that part of it is allocated for electronics. According to the Pricegrabber survey, 40 percent of respondents
having more space and complain about being overwhelmed by clutter, one Brooklyn couple has found a way to live comfortably in just 240 square feet -- a space smaller than a one-car garage.While most people dream of Read More »from How a Couple Lives in a 240-square-foot Apartment
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Writer and photographer Erin Boyle, 28, and her fiance, biologist James Casey, 30, share a 240-square-foot apartment in Brooklyn Heights, which they described to the New York Post as "dungeon-esque."
"Our last apartment was in Providence, Rhode Island," Boyle told Yahoo! Shine in an interview. "It was probably around 1,000 square feet, though I admit, I never took a tape measure to it."
They moved to Brooklyn in June 2011, and their main living space -- which includes their kitchen, dining table, and living room -- is a mere 140 square feet. The $1,500-a-month studio also has tiny bathroom off to one side, a 4-square-foot closet in the hallway, and a sleeping loft built over the kitchen; a
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Parenting – Mon, Jul 9, 2012 10:50 PM EDT
The producer of Dance Moms is creating a new reality TV show about extreme parenting, thanks to this Time magazine cover. (Photo: Time.com)Inspired by the controversial "Are You Mom Enough?" Time magazine cover featuring an attractive young woman breastfeeding her nearly 4-year-old son, the executive producer of "Dance Moms" says that he's developing a new TV show about extreme parenting.Read More »from Extreme Parenting on TV? Time Magazine Breastfeeding Cover Inspires New Reality Show
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"That [Time magazine] cover proves what I've been saying for the last year -- America has become a country of extremes," Jeff Collins, president of Collins Avenue Productions, told Yahoo! Shine. "I think it's so fascinating that some Americans find the image of woman breastfeeding to be provocative, shocking, even sexual when, in fact, it's the most natural thing in the world."
Contrary to the current buzz, the show won't focus exclusively on extended breast feeding, he says.
"Breastfeeding beyond infancy is just one of the topics we plan to cover," he explains. "We've discovered people are raising kids in all kinds of un-traditional ways these days and some
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Shine Food – Mon, Jul 9, 2012 2:33 PM EDT
fast food can affect everything from your mood to your waistline, some fast-food workers are weighing in on the menu items they think people should never, ever eat -- and the reasons have little to do with childhood obesity, calorie counts, or fat content.While health experts focus on how Read More »from Fast-food Employees Dish About the Menu Items You Should Never Order
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"When I was a young buck, I worked at Burger King," writes JohnnyDollar at Reddit.com. "Here is how the oil rotation went. You had four vats of oil that you cooked fries in. And boy did you cook fries. Tons of them. After about 2 days worth, the oil got too dark for fries. So we switched it over to the ones for chicken. Since it was darker, it was ok. Then that goes on for a week. After a week of massive frying. The oil is black as motor oil. At that point, it's switched to the Fish Filet vat. That's the only thing you cook in that vat."
"When I worked at McDonald's, I accidentally left a whole bag of about 100 chicken nuggets out on a counter
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Parenting – Thu, Jul 5, 2012 2:48 PM EDT
Can a sports club define what makes a family?When Will Trinkle signed up for a family membership at the Roanoke Athletic Club, he was looking forward to bringing his 2-year-old son, Oliver Trinkle-Granados, to the pool. A real-estate agent, he even relocated his office to be closer to the club. He filled out the application in front of a club employee, paid an application fee and handed over his credit card for the monthly dues, and got his membership card and one for Oliver's other dad, Trinkle's partner Juan Granados.Read More »from Virginia Club Bans Same-sex Couple and Their Son from Family Membership (UPDATED)
But about a week later, Trinkle was told that his membership had been invalidated. The club had made a big mistake in accepting the application, he says the manager told him, and the club's parent company, Carilion Clinic, did not recognize his household as a family. Furthermore, "Carilion Clinic and RAC were really going to tighten up their procedures and application so that no gay couple would ever get in again on a family membership," the manager allegedly said.
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- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Healthy Living – Tue, Jul 3, 2012 2:44 PM EDT
Lauren Luke's latest makeup tutorial is actually about domestic violence.British makeup artist Lauren Luke's newest tutorial, "How to look your best the morning after," seems like a something young women might use to learn how to hide a hangover. But when the 30-year-old YouTube sensation sits down in front of her camera, she's not sporting dark circles or disheveled hair. She has bruises along her jaw, a split lip, and a massive black eye. She looks like she's been beaten up.Read More »from Lauren Luke's Powerful PSA Urges Domestic Violence Victims Not to Cover it Up
"Hiya everyone! Sorry I haven't been online much lately, but I'm back, I'm here," she chirps, smiling sheepishly. "I've had a bit of a rough time, but I'm going to do a video today on how to cover up." Then she launches into her tutorial as if it's any other beauty video.
But her instructions, delivered in a steady, matter-of-fact tone, are chilling. "If you've got a lot of bruising from being pushed hard against a coffee table, you can gently apply layer after layer and you will cover it up slightly," she says, wincing as she dabs a brush around her swollen-looking eye. "Now, it