Blog Posts by Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Work + Money – Wed, Sep 7, 2011 12:56 AM EDT
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Parenting – Wed, Aug 31, 2011 8:31 PM EDT
This T-shirt, marketed to girls, was pulled from J.C. Penney's website after customers complained.A few months ago, the Internet was up in arms over a white David & Goliath T-Shirt that read, in pink bubble letters, "I'm too pretty to do math." Then there was the one with "Future Trophy Wife" written on it.Read More »from Epic T-shirt fail: "I'm too pretty to do my homework so my brother has to do it for me"
But many parents think this one is worse.
The long-sleeve T-shirt that J.C. Penney pulled off its website today amid plenty of parental outrage read: "I'm too pretty to do my homework so my brother has to do it for me." And, judging by the description of the shirt on the J.C. Penney website-"Who has time for homework when there's a new Justin Bieber album out? She'll love this tee that's just as cute and sassy as she is"-it seems like the company didn't have a problem with the shirt until customers started to complain.
Thanks, major clothing retailers. We struggle to teach our girls that beauty isn't everything, that they don't have to play dumb in order to be popular, that women can be both smart and pretty. But, even though studies show that girls are as good at math as
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Work + Money – Tue, Aug 30, 2011 7:27 PM EDT
Cherie Wood was juggling her career and parenthood for years before she decided to run for mayor of South Salt Lake, Utah. And she let voters know she would continue to do so if elected.
"I had so many people tell me that I wasn't going to win," she says. "Just because of the culture here in Utah, you know, there's some strong emphasis for women to stay home and raise their families."
"I have boys-12, 10, and 3-at the time they were a little younger than that," she says. "My opposition was saying that I should be home with my kids. And so I wrote a letter to all the women voters in South Salt Lake and said, 'You know, I've always been a working mom, and because of my situation I will always have to be a working mom, and my kids are my number one priority. … But I know that I can prioritize my daily schedule and still be a really effective mayor'."
Her persistence paid off. Not only is Wood now the first female mayor of South Salt Lake, she's also the first to rise through the ranks
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Work + Money – Mon, Aug 29, 2011 3:45 AM EDT
For some way up north, Hurricane Irene was The Hurricane That Wasn't, but the massive storm left plenty of devastation in North Carolina, Pennsylvania, and New York as it raged its way up the eastern seaboard over the weekend. Tornadoes touched down near Philadelphia, millions of people are still dealing with prolonged power outages, at least 18 people have been killed in eight states, 137 miles of New York State's main highway was washed out, and New York City shut its public transportation system down for the first time ever due to weather.Read More »from Hurricane Irene: Before, during, and after (Video)
Here's how the hurricane looked as it made its way north:
In the Bahamas, the palm trees in Paradise Island look like they're about to be torn out by the roots in this video shot by Mike Theiss of Ultimate Chase:
In Puerto Rico, more than a million people lost power as the storm ripped down trees and flooded the streets with rain:
Hurricane-driven waves pounded the piers in Kill Devil Hills, North Carolina, on Saturday:
Residents of Lewes,
Whether your child is starting kindergarten, going from middle school to high school, going to a new school district or going back to the same school he or she went to before, the start of the academic year is a time of transition for everyone. And the first day of school can be as stressful for your child as the first day on a new job might be for you.
"On the first day of your new job, you would not want anyone to yell at you or demand you eat what
they have cooked," says Eileen Wacker, the author of the Fujimini Adventure Series for kids and mom of four. "You would not want anyone to criticize what you are wearing or how your hair looks. You would NOT want to be late. You would not want to enter the new office crying. These must be avoided at all costs."
So how can you make that transition go more smoothly, for you and your child? Here are a few ideas.
- If your child is starting school for the first time, a little role-playing can help them handle their fears. The key is to
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Love + Sex – Fri, Aug 26, 2011 12:46 AM EDT
In spite of an intense focus on marriage and traditional family values, divorce rates in the socially conservative South are higher than in the liberal-leaning Northeast, according to a report released this week by the U.S. Census Bureau.Read More »from Why is the divorce rate so much higher in the South?
Nationwide, 9.2 out of every 1,000 men and 9.7 out of every 1,000 women divorced in 2009, the latest year for which data was available. But in the South, the rates were higher: 10.2 out of 1,000 men and 11.1 out of 1,000 women. In the Northeast, the rate of divorce was much lower than the national average-7.2 per 1,000 for men and 7.5 per 1,000 for women.
W. Bradford Wilcox, associate professor of sociology at the University of Virginia and the director of the National Marriage Project, says that age, education, income, and ideals all play a part in the higher divorce rates in conservative states.
Though the overall age for first marriages in the United States has been steadily rising since the 1970s, the push to preserve "sexual purity" and avoid
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Love + Sex – Wed, Aug 24, 2011 9:04 PM EDT
Trying to get your guy to tell you what's bothering him? Wondering why he doesn't seem interested in hearing about your horrible day? Don't worry, ladies: It's not that your boyfriend doesn't care or that he's trying to seem strong. According to a new study, it's just that most males think discussing problems is a waste of time.Read More »from The real reason he won't talk? Most guys think discussing problems is a waste of time
That attitude isn't exclusive to adults, either. The study, which will be published in the journal "Child Development," found that when it comes to opening up about their issues, little boys seem to feel the same way as grown men.
"For years, popular psychologists have insisted that boys and men would like to talk about their problems but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak," said Amanda J. Rose, associate professor of psychological sciences in the University of Missouri College of Arts and Science.
"However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, boys didn't express angst or distress about
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Parenting – Tue, Aug 23, 2011 8:48 PM EDT
Angelina Jolie (right) and her mother, Marcheline Bertrand, in July 2001. (Photo: Kevork Djansezian/AP)Angelina Jolie had two three-year marriages under her belt before starting a family with Brad Pitt. But in a recent interview with The Sun, the 36-year-old actress and mom of six says that she had her first taste of live-in love when she was just 14.Read More »from Would you let your 14-year-old's boyfriend move in with you?
"One of my boyfriends lived with me at my mum's house when I was just 14," she said in the interview, which focused on her relationship with her mother, actress Marcheline Bertrand, who passed away from cancer in 2007 at the age of 56.
"He was my first boyfriend at a time when I wanted to be promiscuous and was starting to be sexual," she told The U.K. Mirror in 2001, confessing that she lost her virginity to the boy when she was barely a teenager. "We were in my bedroom, in my environment, where I was most comfortable and I wasn't in danger."
"It was the smartest thing my mother could have done because, this way, we weren't hanging out in a park together," Jolie told The Sun this week. "We lived like a married couple for two years."
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Work + Money – Fri, Aug 19, 2011 6:27 AM EDT
Last weekend, Alix Genter found the perfect wedding dress. But on Tuesday, the store's owner called and refused to sell it to her.Read More »from Store refuses to sell wedding dress to lesbian bride
"She said she wouldn't work with me because I'm gay," Genter told The Philadelphia Daily News. "She also said that I came from a nice Jewish family, and that it was a shame I was gay. She said, 'There's right, and there's wrong. And this is wrong.' "
Apparently, after Genter left Here Comes the Bride, a Somers Point, New Jersey, wedding boutique, the store's owner, Donna Saber, took a moment to look over Genter's customer-information sheet. That's when she noticed that Genter had crossed out "groom" and written in "partner" and her fiancee's name-and decided that she wasn't going to do business with her.
In a voice mail (which you can listen to right here, thanks to Philly.com), Saber told Genter, "what you are describing in this paperwork here is illegal" and "we do not participate in any illegal actions." But it looks like Saber isn't much of a legal
- Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo! Shine | Parenting – Tue, Aug 16, 2011 7:07 PM EDT
Divorce rates are finally dropping, but that doesn't mean people are forging stronger family units. With fewer people getting married these days, the number of kids living in households with two unmarried parents is on the rise. And, according to new research released today by the National Marriage Project and the Institute for American Values, that may as bad for kids as dealing with a parent's divorce.Read More »from Not married, with children? Report says cohabiting and kids don't mix
In the report, "Why Marriage Matters: Thirty Conclusions from the Social Sciences," researchers say that couples who live together without getting married are far less stable than married couples-and it's the kids who struggle the most. "Children in cohabiting households are more likely to suffer from a range of emotional and social problems-drug use, depression, and dropping out of high school-compared to children in intact, married families," the report says.
"I think there's good news and bad news in this report," says W. Bradford Wilcox of the University of Virginia, the lead