We've all been there: You're having a so-so day (or worse) and someone bounds up to you with a cheerful, "Hi! How are you?" And you're stuck. Do you tell a little white lie? Or do you tell them the whole sordid story?
"Usually, the answer to this old standby is short and sweet," says image consultant Marla Tomazin. "In fact, we generally expect a reply along the lines of, 'Very well, thank you.'" And when someone starts in with a rant as their response, things can get awkward for everyone involved.
"What most people fail to realize is that your answer to this very simple question will either draw people in or scare them away," Tomazin points out. So, how can you keep it real and honest without turning into Debbie Downer?
"Use that conversation as an opportunity to further a connection rather than as a chance to dump your own personal problems on someone else," suggests Tomazin. Keep in mind that "How are you?" is a casual question, not necessarily an invitation for a heart-to-heart.
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