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By Jason Leonard for HowAboutWe

I was recently visiting a friend and he had mentioned how happy he was that they had finally put Coach on Netflix Instant so that he could relive the hilarity of such a classic show. And while I agree with that Coach is indeed a classic program from the golden age of the sitcom, in my mind there is only one television show from the late '80s that deserves to even be called a show. That, my dear friends, is of course The Golden Girls. Now while the concept of this show may be off putting to some (four single women over fifty sharing a house in Miami together), once you delve into this show, you will find that not only is it one of the greatest works of the late 20th century (okay, a bit hyperbolic, but I am kind of a fan) but also one can glean so many lessons about life and love from the show.
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Love Lesson Number One: "How to handle seeing your ex with grace": (Season 1 - Episode 2: Guess Who's

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Every gay wedding needs Nene Leakes from The Real Housewives of Atlanta.
By Eric Emch for HowAboutWe

Brad and Angelina will reportedly have Kate and William, the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, in attendance at their wedding. Matthew McConaughey and his new bride Camila Alves kept things confidential and whispered their vows in each other's ears. If Bachelorette Emily and her new betrothed ever get married (I'm not holding my breath), I imagine they'll include Emily's daughter Ricki into the ceremony. But my wedding will have one thing all of these celebrity soirees won't have: two dudes standing at the alter. With all this wedding mania in the air (and on E! News), I've begun pondering all of the things I consider must-haves at my, or any, gay wedding.

1. Non-Matching Tuxes

I realize that some guys would want to visually represent how their two-lives-will-become-one with matching altar-wear, but your wedding is not Twins Day at Six Flags, ok?

2. Name Brand Libation

I don't want any of this house liquor nonsense at my wedding. This is not your local Read More »from 10 Things I Want at My Gay Wedding

Thank goodness for your mate.
By Whitney Collins for HowAboutWe

Over the years, various studies have spouted all sorts of stuff about the health benefits of having a lifelong partner. Compared to bachelors and bachelorettes, hitched folks may be more likely to wear seatbelts, not drop dead from gout, buy bok choy, use Listerine, work the Sudoku, give up their dreams of becoming a drummer, and start reading Woman's Day. The list goes on and on. But what about the things that aren't particularly scientific or health-related that come with commitment? Here are a few of the lesser-named perks of being with someone for the long haul.

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I Got Your Back

Do you know how difficult it is to attach a run-of-the-mill hand mirror to an unfolded wire hanger so you can see if that mole on your shoulder blade is suspect? It's NOT easy. It takes way more masking tape than one might suspect. Not to mention, do you know how expensive and overall depressing it is to Read More »from 6 Unexpected Perks of Long Term Relationships

By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWe

Can this be our song?

Read More »from This is Awesome: 1 Man, 25 Love Songs from 1955 to Now

It's so beautiful I could cry.
By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWe

You might like Chick-Fil-A, but do you love it more than marriage equality? I guess Kermit and the gang don't. The Muppets are ending their relationship with the food chain to show their support of gay marriage. From their Facebook page:

Plus: 6 Unexpected Perks of Long Term Relationships

"The Jim Henson Company has celebrated and embraced diversity and inclusiveness for over fifty years and we have notified Chick-Fil-A that we do not wish to partner with them on any future endeavors." Plus: How I Became The Man-Eating Vixen I've Always Wanted To Be
It's so beautiful I could cry. Also, a reminder you can always make the "Chik-Fil-Gay":

Plus: Dear Online Daters: Whatever You Do, Don't Do This

Read More »from Hell Yeah to the Muppets for Supporting Gay Marriage Over Chick-Fil-A Sandwiches

Blind dates are a little less blind than they used to be.
By Rich Santos For HowAboutWe

Thanks to Google and Facebook, blind dates are a little less blind than they used to be. Social media allows a person to do a little research before, after, and even during the dating process. It appeals to the curious dater in all of us... even though it does take a little of the mystery/romance out of things. Even though it's better suited for a Viagra or AARP commercial, the song "Your Wildest Dreams" by The Moody Blues is a good indicator of the way romance used to be before the internet: "I wonder where you are, I wonder if you think about me."

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But now because of Facebook, Twitter et al, this is no longer a problem. Everyone uses it to their advantage, but like it or not (I think you should know) this is how guys use it as their number one dating tool.
1. Browsing The "Summer Album" There's one sure fire way for guys to figure out if that girl's arms looked as good as they did in that dark bar the night we Read More »from 10 Ways Guys Use Facebook for Their Dating Lives

Men have sexual fantasies more often.
By Yelena Shuster for HowAboutWe

Spanish citizens who were in at least a six-month relationship took surveys about their sex life for the benefits of science. The study found that there aren't significant differences between the genders when it comes to sexual fantasies. Both sexes have them about their loved one.

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Men have sexual fantasies more often, however, and women dream about positive sexual experiences more often.

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The topics covered were different too. Women fantasized about romance, while men's subconscious travelled to the forbidden territory of cheating and orgies. That is, on paper at least. Maybe the women were too socialized to admit that they too dreamed of threesomes, especially one involving Channing Tatum and the rest of the cast, of Magic Mike.

Plus: What Type Of Sex Are You Craving?

[Medical Xpress]

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It's amazing what people will do instinctually for the people they love.
By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWe

We're starting to see the names of the Colorado theater shooting victims, and it is really gut-wrenching.

Joe Blunk, Matt McQuinn, and Alex Teves were three of the casualties.
Plus: 10 Photos That Will Restore Your Faith In (True, Everlasting) Love
Joe Blunk, 25, according to reports, threw his girlfriend Jansen Young to the ground, pushing her under the theater seat, and throwing himself on top of her. (He was a veteran of the US Navy.)

Alex Teves, 24 also protected his girlfriend, Amanda by throwing her to the ground. He was about to put his body on top of hers to protect her when he was shot and killed.
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Matt McQuinn, 27, too, was protecting his girlfriend Samantha Yowler with his body when they were both shot. But Samantha, who was shot in the knee, made it out with the help of her brother Nick.

It's amazing what people will do instinctually for the people they love. And let this be a

Read More »from More Than Just Chivalry: 3 of the Aurora Shooting Victims Were Boyfriends Defending Their Girlfriends