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Men have sexual fantasies more often.
By Yelena Shuster for HowAboutWe

Spanish citizens who were in at least a six-month relationship took surveys about their sex life for the benefits of science. The study found that there aren't significant differences between the genders when it comes to sexual fantasies. Both sexes have them about their loved one.

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Men have sexual fantasies more often, however, and women dream about positive sexual experiences more often.

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The topics covered were different too. Women fantasized about romance, while men's subconscious travelled to the forbidden territory of cheating and orgies. That is, on paper at least. Maybe the women were too socialized to admit that they too dreamed of threesomes, especially one involving Channing Tatum and the rest of the cast, of Magic Mike.

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It's amazing what people will do instinctually for the people they love.
By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWe

We're starting to see the names of the Colorado theater shooting victims, and it is really gut-wrenching.

Joe Blunk, Matt McQuinn, and Alex Teves were three of the casualties.
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Joe Blunk, 25, according to reports, threw his girlfriend Jansen Young to the ground, pushing her under the theater seat, and throwing himself on top of her. (He was a veteran of the US Navy.)

Alex Teves, 24 also protected his girlfriend, Amanda by throwing her to the ground. He was about to put his body on top of hers to protect her when he was shot and killed.
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Matt McQuinn, 27, too, was protecting his girlfriend Samantha Yowler with his body when they were both shot. But Samantha, who was shot in the knee, made it out with the help of her brother Nick.

It's amazing what people will do instinctually for the people they love. And let this be a

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Crush with caution.
By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWe

Everyone is always debating whether or not men and women can be friends. YES or NO!? We want an answer! It's obviously extremely complicated -- more complicated than say, your feelings for the girl you've known for 14 years who keeps getting boyfriends when you're single and vice versa and you don't want to ruin your friendship but you thinks she likes you because she touches your leg sometimes and laughs at your jokes.

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It can happen. It can! But according to a new study, it's not very bloody likely. The scientific reason? There is a lot of weirdness. The researchers studied more than 80 male-female friendship and found some problems. The men were usually more attracted to the female than vice versa (whether one of the friends was in a romantic relationship with someone else or not), and men also thought their female friends were secretly crushing on them when they weren't. Women in the Read More »from Breaking: Men and Women CAN'T Be Friends, Says Science

The men rated the dancers in peak fertility highest.
By Yelena Shuster for HowAboutWe

Ladies, may we suggest hitting the club depending on your menstrual cycle?

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Yet another recent study found a correlation between ovulation (aka a woman's peak fertility time midway through her cycle) and attractiveness. In this case, German researchers had guys watch videos of women walking and dancing, and then rate their hotness. So basically, your average bro night. The women were filmed at two different points in their cycle. You guessed it: fertile and nonfertile. To prevent rating on appearance alone, the sly scientists tweaked the video so the dudes only saw the body's outlines.

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Spoiler alert: The men rated the dancers in peak fertility highest. We've heard this one before; lap dancers got better tips when ovulating, according to an earlier study. What's unclear is whether ovulation makes us Read More »from Ovulating Women Look Hotter on the Dance Floor, Says Science

For most people, attraction is about looks. For music geeks, it's sounds.
By Kenneth Partridge for HowAboutWe

For most people, attraction is about looks. For music geeks, it's sounds. If you find someone who shares your love of Dixieland jazz or early Detroit techno or the New Wave of British Heavy Metal, who cares if they have cankles or a bad haircut? Once two music nerds connect, the question becomes how they should go about getting to know each other. Concert dates can be great, but they're pricey and not without their risks. Luckily, there are plenty of other options-some of which we outline below.

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Record Shopping

This one's obvious, and not just because it made for a cute scene in 500 Days of Summer. There's simply no better indicator of compatibility then combing through bins of dusty vinyl, waiting to see what strikes your prospective partner's fancy. Here, the worst-case scenario is also the best: You come to blows over the same rare Prince single or Electric Prunes LP.

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Don't worry. You're not expected to laugh every time.
By Emily Winter for HowAboutWe

I'm a standup comedian, and I've dated standup comedians. *barfs on self* Actually, it's not so bad. If you're thinking about dating the self-effacing lunatic in the spotlight, here are some things you should know...

1. We are obsessed with our Twitter accounts for two reasons. 1. It's the first line of defense against bad jokes -- if we don't get retweeted, we abort the joke before it ever gets the chance to breathe in the stale open mic night air, and 2. A good Twitter account could make us famous. Happens all the time. Well, sometimes. Not that often, exactly, but let a tweeting chubster dream, son.

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2. You will hear the same jokes o'er and o'er. It is 100 percent false that funny people don't have to work on their jokes. Every setup and punchline can be told a million different ways -- and you'll probably hear all of them. The bright side: You're not expected to laugh every time.

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Here are five of the most revealing TV shows out there.
By Whitney Collins for HowAboutWe

What you watch on television says a lot about you -- particularly to a potential mate. Even if you don't currently watch TV, at some point you'll likely be in a long-term relationship and/or married and the boob tube will replace other types of boobs and tubes as the primary source of your cohabitational delight. In fact, I recommend spending a first date as such: sitting side by side on the couch, facing forward, and watching the TV Guide Channel.

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The point of this wouldn't be to choose a program or to get sucked in to the fortieth broadcasting of some TV Guide movie like St. Elmo's Fire (though it IS nice to see what Demi Moore looked like when she was the lead singer of Journey). The point would be to decide whether or not the person next to you is worth dating, much less nodding to on the street. Did they perk up at Antiques Roadshow? Did they ooh and aah when NHL scrolled by? Did they salivate and paw Read More »from 5 TV Shows that Will Reveal (Almost) Everything You Need to Know About Your S.O

It's a knee jerk reaction.
By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWe
I am an expert in almost nothing, but I have spent a large portion of my life checking out guys, so I would consider myself somewhat expertish in that field. And there is something that I always do when I see someone I'm attracted to. It's a knee jerk reaction, I can't help it: I swoop my hands through my hair. If my hair is up, I put my hair behind my ears.
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I am thinking "Oh my God that person is hot, do I look hot right now? I bet my hair does not look hot. I should try to make it hotter-looking with the limited resources I have, my hands." It's like I'm trying to match the hot person's level of attractiveness in a split second.
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I have polled other girl friends and many of them say they do the same thing. And I know it seems DUH simple but it's also sort of like a huge flag, waving in the air, "HOT DAMN, GORGEOUS." It's as natural

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