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Listen and get going.By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

People talk about breaking-up like it's a one dimensional thing: you break up, you feel shitty. But in reality, each distinct phase of your break- up comes with its own unique emotion, and each break-up emotion is worthy of its own playlist. (Or, if you're in a hurry, this handy one will rush you through the grieving process and have you back on the dating scene in no time.)

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There's the lie down on the floor and cry stage (Speeding Cars, Imogen Heap). There's the going through the motions of daily life but nothing has meaning anymore stage (Meant For You, Jewel). And then there's the anger stage. The vengeful phase. The fun phase.

The criteria for a good break-up power anthem is the following:

A) Empowering Lyrics (Something with the subtext of "You suck and I am like, hilariously better off without you and everyone knows it.")

B) Some Nice Belty Parts (Because this is a song that you'll blast as

These apps aren't everyone's cup of tea.Who wouldn't want to crack the code for using technology to find love and romance? Hundreds of app-makers had the same thought, and have been busy churning out products guaranteed to find you that truly romantic experience (or even that incredible hookup). The only problem? Most of them fail miserably.

Plus: 6 Steps to Becoming a Grown-Up About Love

Consider yesterday's news that Bang with Friends, a Facebook app, had just raised $1 million in seed funding. Its mission? To enable its 750,000 users to connect with Facebook friends they'd like to screw on the DL. Feel the romance! Below are seven more apps that will inspire you to stick to the dating sites of yore.

1. Hot or Not
You have to hand it to Hot or Not (which of course is based on the age-old website of the same name) for its straightforward approach. This Facebook app - which includes a "find hotties" search feature - distills the elaborate mating dance into one simple formula: "Would you have sex with me? Ok then; let's

Hit up an arcade for your nostalgic date!Nothing tugs at the heartstrings quite like a little nostalgia. You can be glued to the TV for hours watching reruns of "Saved By The Bell" and remember when Screech's feeble attempt to get a date with Lisa felt like the world's biggest problem. Here's a list of activities that will get you and your partner in an ultra-nostalgic mood.

Plus: Why You Should Want a Man with Baggage



An Arcade
Remember when money wasn't real and all you cared about was putting coins into slots and nabbing tickets for prizes? Yeah, that. Head over to Dave & Busters, Boomers, or any other local arcades and see just how much Whack-A-Mole you can stomach.

Clarissa Explains It All marathon

From Nick at Nite to the TGIF lineup, there are plenty of relive-your-childhood shows to watch in a marathon. Queue up the episodes on Netflix, pop the corn, grab the blanket and cuddle up for a blissful dose of reminiscence.

Plus: 6 Steps to Becoming a Grown-Up About Love

The Zoo

Going to the zoo is one of those

Katy Perry needs help getting over breaks ups.By Jo Piazza for HowAboutWe

I don't know about you, but I've nursed most of my breakups with Facebook stalking, Ben & Jerry's, and a chaser of Tequila.

Apparently, the rich and famous have a better way of getting over an ex: hiring a heartbreak coach.


Plus: The Relationship Book You Can't Afford to Miss

According to recent reports, singer Katy Perry has secured herself a personal heartbreak coach to get over her messy divorce with Russell Brand, and to aid her in making better relationship decisions (anyone, but John Mayer) in the future.

Oh celebrities! Sometimes they do the silliest things. But when you think about it, is hiring someone to coach you through heartache actually that crazy?

Plus: 8 Dating Apps That Seriously Creep Us Out

We have coaches for just about everything these days. There are life coaches and business coaches and financial coaches. And when it comes to relationships, the coach roster includes ones for dating, flirting, seduction, the list goes on. But

Girls vs. Sex and The CityBy Jenifer Jonson for HowAboutWe

In the first season of "Girls," twentysomething ingénue Marnie lays out the "hierarchy of communication" between men and women:

"Texting is one of the lowest forms of communication on the totem of chat. You have Facebook at your lowest, before that there's Google chat, texting, email, and a phone call. Face-to-face is of course ideal, but is not of this time."

Plus: New Dating Book you Can't Afford to Miss

Hearing this, I, a 39-year-old mother of 3 who until recently hadn't been on a date in 15 years, found myself screaming "YES" at the television.

I'm one of those people who met a man in college, married him, had 3 kids, and moved to the suburbs. Even before my marriage, I was always the one looking for a meaningful monogamous partnership. Dating was simply a means to that end. And once I became a wife and mother, I wasn't exactly keeping up on the singledom trends.

But now, fresh after a divorce, I find myself in some strange bubble. I'm the Rip

Equala, the By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

There's a new app on the market that claims to be a "gamechanger" in the realm of modern-day dating, though perhaps it would be more accurate to call it a "gamechanger" in the realm of somewhat sad internet stalking. The app's developers are in fact so sold on its effectiveness that the press release they sent had the subject line, "No More Steak Dinners!" Because now you can use music, not Outback Steakhouse, to win a man?

Plus: 7 Types of Guys That Won't Make You Happy

Equala, available on iTunes and Android, apparently connects to your Facebook account and…somehow? gathers the music tastes of all the men you like (assuming, of course, that you're already friends with them on Facebook).

After that, you just follow these steps (quoted from the press release):

Get familiar with his top jams. Listen [to them] yourself (or at least, pretend to)

Pretend to listen to music? AKA look up the lyrics online? I dunno.

Plus: New Dating Book you Can't Afford to

By Alison Vingiano for HowAboutWe

Men, we're gonna save us all some time and just say it now: at some point, you will have to watch a chick-flick with your significant other. Given this reality, we decided to arm you with a few that you'll actually enjoy.

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Hugh Jackman deals with his stalker.By Kayt Sukel for HowAboutWe

In recent weeks Hugh Jackman made headlines when he was confronted by a stalker as he left a gym in New York City. Katherine Thurston, 47, followed the actor from his home to the gym, where she chased him with an electric razor (reportedly full of her pubic hair) and repeatedly declared her love. It wasn't the first time Thurston had accosted Jackman-he and his family reported seeing her outside their home, as well as his children's school.

Plus: 10 Things Not to Do in the Bedroom

Many news outlets wanted to focus on the hilarity of the situation. But the important question in this situation is, what causes someone to stalk? Sure, Hugh is a tall and handsome celebrity, and some of us might follow him around for a minute to snap a photo. But what is happening in the mind of a person who goes to such lengths to repeatedly follow a celebrity to work, break into his or her house, and even threaten his or her family?

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