By Jillian Lucas for HowAboutWe
Messy ponytail braidA recent post on Jezebel explores the ridiculous, albeit completely true, notion that men seem to feel more inclined to hit on a woman when they are dressed down. Now, I'm not talking jeans and a t-shirt dressed down. I'm talking hair-in-last-night's-bun, oily skin, carrying heavy/awkward bags of dirty laundry dressed down. That kind.
While the facts seem to make sense (as an honest equation put it, "Dumpy, tattered clothing + skin cloaked in an adolescent cocktail of T-zone oil, sweat and 12-hour old bronzing powder + a general lackluster attitude = A female appears approachable to men who otherwise wouldn't have a shot in hell") it feels like everything we learned from our mothers, sisters and friends (real and fictional/reality television based) about attracting a guy is now being thrown, with well-articulated gusto, out the proverbial window.
Plus: What Your Taste In Music Says About You On A Date
Okay, so the Walk-of-Shame may not be the primal
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By Maryse Chevriere for HowAboutWeRead More »from What Your Favorite Shot Says About You on a Date
Not that that anyone would really advise taking rounds of shots on a date (especially in the early stages), but just in case you're so inclined, here's what your favorite slam-it-back beverage is signaling to your suitor.
Plus: What Your Drink Says About You On A Date
Tequila: You're pretty much a sure thing.
Vodka: Next stop: the club.
Boilermaker: You're a man's man.
Pickleback: Hipster much? (And if you're a girl, possibly also trying to get the hot mustachioed bartender to notice you.)
Alabama Slammer: Hot mess, y'all.
Kamikaze: You're a bit uptight but you're kind of hoping this makes you sound a little wild?
Plus: 13 Pickup Lines For The Liquor Store
Jäger Bombs/Irish Car Bombs/Sake Bombs: You wish you were still in college.
Jell-O Shot: You are still in college.
Liquid Cocaine: You're a handful.
Goldschläger: You like shiny, pretty things. (*cough* gold digger *cough*)
Birthday Cake: Big kid at heart.
Swedish Fish: You're sweet,
- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Wed, Sep 5, 2012 12:58 PM EDT
By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWeRead More »from 8 Rules for Becoming the Next Mrs. Tom Cruise (According to Leaked Scientology Intel)
Tom CruiseOctober's Vanity Fair reports in an article by Maureen Orth that in 2004, Scientologist Shelly Miscavige (wife of Scientology leader David), embarked on a mission to do the (what turns out to be probably) impossible: find Tom Cruise a sustainable relationship. According to several sources, an elaborate auditioning process was held, interviewing actresses who were already members of the Scientology community. One of them, who went on to date Cruise from November '04 to January '05, was Nazanin Boniadi, an Iranian-born, London-raised actress (and Scientologist.) Initially, Boniadi (who had a boyfriend) was told she was being selected for a "very important mission".
Though the Scientology community is vehemently denying all of these reports, if any of it is even a reflection of the truth, it is quite shocking. It doesn't seem a stretch to say Boniadi's story parallels one of Grimms' fairy tales where the beautiful princess is promised to the rich prince.
- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Tue, Sep 4, 2012 2:11 PM EDT
You might remember Serria Tawan from her stint as Playboy's Miss November 2002. Now the former playmate is in her 30s, recently married, and ready to dish up some love advice. She says, "I want you to win and I'm going to give it to you straight." Read more from her at serriasays.com, and her Date Report column Dating Advice From A Playboy Bunny.
I'm a strategist. I study what works and try to find ways to make it work better.
For example, I don't advise women to ask men out - not because I have a vendetta against aggressive women, but simply because it doesn't work. I've done it, and so have girlfriends, and I have observed that the probability of success is low.
Let's talk about another thing that I have found doesn't work: letting the woman pay. It's not because I don't think women can pay for themselves, or that men should have to just empty their pockets. However, from my studies this singleRead More »from Dating Advice from a Playboy Bunny: Why Splitting the Check Just Doesn’t Work
- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Tue, Sep 4, 2012 1:57 PM EDT
By Jillian Lucas for HowAboutWe
This video is like one of those "Shit [Insert Socially Relevant Group of People] Say" videos that BLEW up, except with dating. It gets to the nitty-gritty of relationships and the mind games we often play with each other when we become involved with feelings; it's like a lecture on the social pitfalls of human beings' innate aversion to speak what's actually on our minds.
But really, just watch it. And then let's all agree to at least try to be honest with each other, say what we mean, and stop saying these six words on first dates.Read More »from A Hilarious but Painful Reminder of Why We All Need to Stop Playing Mind Games
By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWeRead More »from The Ultimate Boyfriend Application
Ultimate Boyfriend Application
You might think you are too old for 18-year-old Amber Zuniga's Ultimate Boyfriend Application, but don't be fooled. Don't be fooled by the balloon lettering and the hearts and the bright colors - there are a lot of takeaways here for post-college love-seekers. Aren't we all looking for a man who will kiss us and be there for us forever, who like food as much as they like our muffin tops (a lot), who understand that our celebrity crushes will always be number one in our minds, and who are smart about butt touching? Isn't that what it's all about? Plus, Zuniga makes a good point:
"If they bring you pizza, they've got potential. If they let you have the last slice, they're a keeper."
How is someone so young so very wise? Amber Zuniga For President 2067! (She'll be old enough then, right?!)
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By Tiffany Brown for HowAboutWeRead More »from 10 Couples that Will Inspire You
Spoiler alert: Romeo and Juliet aren't on this list. They weren't even considered. Seriously. No matter how epic that story is meant to be, it's actually pretty damn depressing. This is about 10 couples who'll inspire you in a less bloody way.
Plus: 17 Celebrities Who Married Normal People
1. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt
Maybe she was a homewrecker. And maybe he was a cheater. So what. The couple is totally sexy together and their family photos remind me of United Colors of Benneton ads.
Why they should inspire you: In July 2005 they did a 60 page spread for W magazine depicting a 60s family. Some called it insensitive since after all at the time he was still with one of America's best "Friends" but bold moves like that have set the tone for a relationship that plays out in public yet still has an impenetrable intimacy.
2. Lana Del Rey and A$AP Rocky
Technically they're not a couple but they did play one in her video for "National Anthem".
What's the first thing you should do after you are dumped?
No, after you completely lose it in a public place, eat 1.2 pizzas because who cares, and not-sleep for 3 days. Those are important, healthy things that will help you move on. As long as you are listening to You Oughta Know (or whatever) while you're doing it.
Well here's what you should do: anything creative. You could make a billion dollars! Or snag some Grammy Awards, like Adele! Because researchers have found that for independent-minded people, rejection can be a good thing, boosting creativity and imaginative thinking.
Scientists tested college students' "need for uniqueness" and then some of them were made to feel rejected by being told they were not selected to be part of another group. All participants were then asked to do super imaginative things like complete word associations or drawings of aliens. The researchers foundRead More »from Do THIS when You Get Dumped, Says Science
- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Fri, Aug 24, 2012 1:26 PM EDT
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By Lauren Passell for HowAboutWe
New trend: a $650 bride/groom photo shoot post-wedding ceremony of the pair practically naked and hinting at the fact that the shot was taken incredibly post-bootytime.
Plus: Behold, The Best Wedding Invitation Of All Time Ever, Period.
"I wanted to do the shoots to show that [marriage] is happy … it's sexy and it's not over," said New-Jersey-based photographer Michelle Jonne, 34. Which really is great. But is there another way?
Plus: 8 Bridesmaids Photos That Make You Want To Get Married Just For The Bridesmaids
Client Inna Shamos says she is psyched to share these photos on Facebook and even with her kids one day.
Plus: 17 Celebrities Who Married Normal People
"When you get married, you're in the best shape of your life and why not have these memories," she said. These pictures aren't exactly raunchy -- they are meant to highlight a couple's "closeness". The "we just banged" feeling you get when you view these pics comes from you and your
It's a called a break up because something about the situation (not someone) is broken and super glue can't fix stuff like that. By Tiffany Brown for HowAboutWeRead More »from 6 Ways to Break Up like a Celebrity
Breaking up is, for lack of a better word, hard. But it doesn't have to be. At least it doesn't have to be nearly as hard as some people make it with the questionable wardrobe choices, mopey Facebook status updates and drunk dialing adventures. I don't personally think celebrities should be considered role models, but I must admit they know how to break up in style; I mean seriously when's the last time you aired your dirty laundry and people looked on in awe? I bet the answer to that is a big fat never because no matter how cute your skivvies are, when they're clean covered in the skid marks of heart break (and possibly shots of Hennessy) they're less then appealing. ANYWAY here are 6 steps to handling a break-up like a celebrity, which I'm sure has to be way better then attempting to bury yourself under a mountain of Cheeto dust.
1. Immediately date someone else. Bonus points if it's someone hotter. Okay so I don't watch sports. Ever. But even I know