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If he drinks local organic microbrew that tastes like Coors Light, you might be dating an hipster.

By Dave K. For HowAboutWe

So I'm sure your new boyfriend is really nice and all, but he might be a hipster. Or not - it can be hard to tell. "Hipster" has become such a broad, general term that most people aren't really sure how to define it anymore.

Luckily for you, I've developed a handy questionnaire to help you determine whether or not you're dating a hipster. Give yourself one point for each A answer, two points for B, three for C, and four for D.

1. What is he wearing right now?

a. Khakis and a polo shirt
b. Jeans and a t-shirt
c. Skinny jeans and thrift store t-shirt
d. Above-the-knee denim cut-offs and a thrift store t-shirt he said he hated three days ago

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2. Is he in a band?

a. No.
b. Yes, he plays drums.
c. Yes, he plays guitar.
d. No, he's over music.

3. What does he use social media for, primarily?

a. Keeping up with his family and friends
b.

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The following day — and in what I would consider stereotypically Segel-ese fashion — he was seen accompanying Williams's six year-old daughter, Matilda, as she made some turns on her scooter.

Step aside, every other couple in Hollywood: Michelle Williams and Jason Segel, aka two of the most awesome people to ever be dubbed by the double-edged sword that is celebrity, are dating. We're obviously rooting for this one to work out, and why shouldn't it? She's one of contemporary cinema's most selective and dynamic actresses, countenancing each of her (typically morbid) roles with serious integrity and panache. He's the quintessential nice guy: funny, endearing, overtly frank in that calculated way that's meant to cast him as the perfect foil to your archetypal bad-boy/@$$hole. Sounds to me like they share that enviable romantic alchemy that consists of a) having enough common interests to not bore the s*** out of each other, yet b) not so much cognitive overlap that they'll be stuck in a perpetual game of oneupsmanship.

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US Weekly recently spotted them strolling arm-in-arm after dinner. The following day - and in what I would Read More »from Hollywood’s Newest Couple We Love: Jason Segel and Michelle Williams

Casper has decided to express his love in an intimate way: by getting his girlfriend's name tattooed on his penis.

Even though her manager hates the relationship, Jennifer Lopez and Casper Smart are still going strong. So strong, in fact, that Casper has decided to express his love in an intimate way: by getting his girlfriend's name tattooed on his penis. While penis tattooing sounds really painful, getting a partner's name tattooed on yourself in any way or form is basically a way of asking the universe to make sure your relationship doesn't work out. If you're just so besotted with someone that you are dying to make your love more permanent, here are some things that work as reasonable substitutes:

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1 Henna
If you're just dying to be branded with your boyfriend or girlfriend's name, temporary tattoos are a nice way to get the high without being permanently labeled.

2 Jewelry
Some pieces of bling cost as much as or more than tattoos, and you can have them engraved with the name of your choice. And, unlike a

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It's probably better to have an inkling up front, before you find yourself in a relationship where you're constantly red in the face (so to speak)."Birds of a feather flock together." "Opposites attract." Both of these cliches can be true in relationships - which I guess renders neither of them true - and it's totally fascinating to me. It leaves the couple with mirrored interests/ aesthetics/ professions/ etc wondering how the hell that Hedge Fund Manager/Yoga Instructor couple down the street is in any way functional. (Maybe the sex is fiery-hot enough to make up for any differences outside the bedroom?)

But one of the biggest of all the opposite-factors may be political persuasion, especially in ultra-heated, politics-is-war 2012. Most of my fellow liberal friends swear they could never ever EVER date a Republican - but then, I've dated one before, and it didn't bother me at all. (We didn't ignore the differences/never talk about it, either: we had debates all the time. They just never felt like actual fights.)

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So this led to me to ponder exactly what tendencies

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The guy might wait a million hours to kiss you, then kind of scamper away in embarrassment after, but it's cute that he was so intimidated by you.

By Nikki Metzgar For HowAboutWe

1. Unlike the smooth talker, they're not using cheesy pick-up lines or negging you. Silence is definitely preferable to that.

2. Their awkwardness can be flattering. The guy might wait a million hours to kiss you, then kind of scamper away in embarrassment after, but it's cute that he was so intimidated by you.

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3. There's a challenge. You have to work a little to get to know them and that makes it feel like there's something mysterious and alluring underneath the surface.

4. They're never too busy working a room to talk to you.

5. They're more sincere. He might not come right out and say you have dazzling eyes, but what he says matters.

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6. You have less reason to be intimidated by them.

7. When they finally open up to you it feels super special.

8.

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You know all those (annoying, but that's just my opinion) TV shows and movies coming out about the malaise of post-grad life in New York city, and the romantic entanglements that occur in this precarious life stage?

By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

It's like the editors of the Modern Love column read our complaint from last week (that they've been too consistently depressing and/or about spousal death), and responded with a lovely, funny essay about love in its earlier stages.

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You know all those (annoying, but that's just my opinion) TV shows and movies coming out about the malaise of post-grad life in New York city, and the romantic entanglements that occur in this precarious life stage? This essay, by author Liz Moore, is like a good, self-deprecating version of that. And even though what happens to the author of this essay has not happened to me in real life (ha!), it does a pretty good job of encapsulating the sometimes dismissive feelings that people in their early 20s have about their current relationships. Like, you can't possibly imagine that your current crush will outlast your current

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Deep, terrible confession time: sometimes I really think it sucks when one of my girl friends gets a boyfriend.

By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

Deep, terrible confession time: sometimes I really think it sucks when one of my girl friends gets a boyfriend.

So selfish, I know! But hear me out - and see if you can't relate.

Here's what usually happens: A friend will say something like, "I met a guy last night and he wants to hang out this weekend!" I'll dutifully plaster a smile on my face and ask her the appropriate questions, all the while fending off a feeling of impending panic and loneliness and doom, because, well, another one bites the dust.

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Let me be clear: it's not jealousy that's the issue…it's the sad sense of inevitable abandonment from a friend. Even though she'll always be there for you (she'll insist), it's just not quite the same.

When I'm single, my fellow single ladies can feel like my lifeboat. They're the ones who are always up for spontaneous nights out, the ones who will

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I know guys think it's hot to see two women together but I just don't know if I should tell him what happened.
By Jonathan Alpert For HowAboutWe

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months and we have a good relationship. The other night though I was at a party without him and got really drunk and flirted with another woman. One thing led to the next and we had sex. I haven't told my boyfriend about it and I haven't talked to the woman again. I know guys think it's hot to see two women together but I just don't know if I should tell him what happened. I feel really guilty and confused. Please help.

For a moment, imagine your boyfriend is out at a party one night. He's drinking, getting drunk, starts cruising and flirting with another guy, and then one thing leads to the next and he has sex with the guy. Are you okay with that? Do you consider that cheating? My guess is you're not okay with it and it violates a trust you've established over the past 10 months. After that many months of dating, there's most likely an understanding, whether spoken or not, of

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