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FightBy Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

Modern Man recently posted an article entitled, "How to Win an Argument With Your Girlfriend," which I obviously immediately read, because, well, gotta know the enemy's strategies, right?

The article was full of sound advice - talk in the first person, don't bring your friend's opinions into it, don't make empty threats, etc, etc. But one point in particular struck me as especially sage advice for guys who find themselves arguing with their girlfriends.

Related: The Six Words You Should Never Utter on a First Date

No matter how ugly things get, no matter how angry you feel, there is one thing you must never, ever, ever say to a woman:

"Calm down."

Aaaaaarrrrrrgggghhhhh there is nothing more belittling or aggravating than a guy who tells you to calm down.

First of all, I am calm. You don't want to see not calm.

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Second of all, telling me to "relax" or "calm down" is basically the same thing as telling me I'm

When you ask the average married person why they married his or her spouse, a common answer is "because we loved each other." While there's no doubt that marriages are hard work and that some days you actually kind of want to kill each other, there's usually enough love and mutual respect there to get you through. Unless you're a Real Housewife and her real husband, apparently.

Related: 7 Conversations You Need to Have Before You Commit

Former Real Housewives of New York cast member Bethenny Frankel now has a spinoff show, Bethenny Ever After, which focuses on her marriage to Jason Hoppy, her career, and their baby daughter Bryn. The wedding and new baby provided enough material for the first two seasons, so now that the show is in its third season there needed to be an extra kick of drama - and it sounds like Bethenny and Jason's relationship is going to be the storyline. In one promo for the season, Bethenny said she and her husband had sex so rarely that "his penis has

SingleBy Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

"So, are you single?"

It's a question we expect people to have one of two answers to: Yes, or no. You're either single or you're not.

But what about all the various degrees of singlehood? Some single people I know haven't been on a date in years; others are on a date every night; still others haven't officially declared themselves paired off, but spend most of their free time with the same person. Where do you fall on the spectrum?

By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

Speaking of post-date follow ups , the other night I ran into what must truly be the last bastion of male chivalry in the dating world.

Chivalry is an interesting concept to tackle in 2012. Women think they still want it, but the concept of courtly love has been long outdated. We like the idea of men fighting for our honor, but don't want anyone to think for a second that we can't defend ourselves. Opening a car door for us is a nice gesture, but a little silly given that we manage opening our doors just fine the other ten thousand times a day we get into vehicles. Paying for dinner is sweet, the first time, but starts to get weird after weeks of leaving our own salary untouched.

Related: Getting Back Together With Your Ex Is a Bad Idea, Says Science

When it comes down to it, I think what most women want isn't chivalry, but rather politeness: a man who shows respectful and considerate behavior to everyone, regardless of whether or not

By Carrie Gravenson for HowAboutWe

Ah, the first approach. We all dread it and yet, there is no way around it. People make up their minds about each other within seconds so it's important to make an impression. Luckily, in the first five seconds, you don't have to make a person decide to date you or marry you or have children with you or be buried next to you. (Stop thinking of death!) You only have to make them decide to keep talking to you. Here's how to make the most out of those vital first five seconds:

Don't over-think it. A little perspective goes a long way. You're not curing cancer, you're not splitting the atom, you're just starting a conversation. What you say doesn't matter as much as how you say it and that you don't look like a complete lunatic. You're not a lunatic (most likely) - you're a normal person worthy of dialogue with others. Keep it uncomplicated. I was once at a party where a guy came up to me and said, "Hi, I'm Mark, what's your name?" And we talked

By Lilit Marcus for HowAboutWe

Last night, the New England Patriots, led by Tom Brady, were narrowly edged out by the New York Giants in the Super Bowl. Defeat is never easy, especially with half the world watching, but Tom's supermodel wife Gisele Bundchen has been taking a lot of heat for standing by her man. Last week, the New York Post printed an email that Gisele had sent to family and friends asking them to pray for "Tommy" and his team. Then, after the game, several fans heckled Gisele about her husband's performance, causing her to respond "My husband cannot f****ing throw the ball and catch the ball at the same time." The incident, of course, was caught on camera .

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When it comes to a woman sticking by her man, the jury's split on whether to admire. Last summer, Rupert Murdoch's wife Wendi Deng Murdoch was both praised and vilified for lunging at someone who tried to throw a pie at her husband. But now that Tammy

By Amanda Green for HowAboutWe

Here's a list of the top 10 proposed date spots, according to singles on HowAboutWe. Plus, see our list of the 10 best date spots in 15 major US cities .

Related: The 5 Best ways to Date in New York City

1. The High Line

2. The Brooklyn Kitchen

3. Metropolitan Museum of Art

4. New York Transit Museum

5. The Biergarten at The Standard

6. Trapeze School New York

7. Chelsea Piers Field House

8. American Museum of Natural History

9. New York Botanical Garden

10. Brooklyn Brewery

Related: 10 Signs You Need to Go On a Date

By Amanda Green for HowAboutWe

Here's a list of the top 10 proposed date spots, according to singles on HowAboutWe. Plus, see our Guide to the top 10 date spots in 15 major US cities .

Related: How to Date in Boston

1. Museum of Fine Arts

2. Institute of Contemporary Art

3. Museum of Science

4. Drink

5. New England Aquarium

6. Magnolia Cafe

7. Toro

8. Arnold Arboretum

9. Cambridge Brewing Company

10. Trident Booksellers & Cafe

Related: 10 Signs You Need to Go On a Date