By Brady Tripp for HowAboutWe.com
Last week, we talked about some Facebook practices women indulge in - none of which were very surprising to any men who have close female friends - and it's raised an interesting question, which is: do men have any similarly stalker-ish/passive-aggressive-ish tendencies on The Facebook?
Related: The Crazy Things Women Do On Facebook
Definitely, I say…but in different ways. And I don't know that I'd call all of them crazy, because I maybe possibly have and will likely again indulge in some of them myself.
Here they are:
1. Seeing if she matches my 3am memory - Thank you, facebook, for sparing us 21st-century men the traumas of our fathers, which was setting up a date with a girl late late late on a Friday night, only to discover upon meeting her for said date (in better lighting?) that she does not exactly match my recollection. Now we can look up that new name on the interweb Saturday morning and reassess if needed. (*Also valuable for checking
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by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe
Maybe you're not looking for a long term relationship. That's fine. Maybe you're not even looking for short term dating. Okay. You're just here to get laid. Cool. There are other sites out there for you. Just Google your intentions and you'll find a cornucopia of hook up services, ready to click. Please go there now.
For the rest of you, who are looking for soulmate, a bowling partner, or something in between, we're glad to have you. We also understand that, while you may be on a dating site to go out on dates, you're interested in sex, too. It's cool. Everybody is. Sex and dating go hand in hand.
Because we can assume that most people on a dating site are, in fact, interested in having sex at some point, we can safely say that there is absolutely no reason on earth to mention sex in your profile, or (please please please no) in aRead More »from Online Dating 101: Leave Sex Out Of It
By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe.comRead More »from The Breakfast First Date: 6 Reasons To Try It
While it might seem unromantic to meet someone for a date before work, breakfast dates can be completely awesome. Here's why you should meet your next date at 8 am instead of 8 pm.
1. It's Just Quirky Enough
A breakfast date is the perfect date for people who want to break away from their "let's meet for drinks" dating rut, but don't want to stray too far from their comfort zone. Waking up early to meet someone for coffee and eggs at a diner is just unusual enough to feel special and fun, but really you're still just meeting someone at a restaurant for a meal. Sometimes, the simple act of doing something out of the ordinary with someone is enough to create a spark.
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2. Easy Conversation Starters
Worried you'll need something to talk about? Bring a copy of today's paper! You can easily use the headlines to start a conversation: "Hey, did you hear about _____?" Just make sure it's nothing too
- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Tue, Jun 21, 2011 7:35 PM EDT
"Slut" is a funny word. Not funny haha, but funny strange. The meaning and the power of the word changes drastically depending on who's using it and to whom they're speaking. Between some women friends, slut has become almost a term of endearment. Some women like to be called a slut in sexual situations only, because it turns them on. The word has even been re-purposed by women as a symbol of power and the freedom to have sex with who they want to when they want to (ie. The Ethical Slut or Toronto's recent "slut walk").
Now, maybe it's the result of backlash against political correctness. Maybe it's confusion. Possibly, it's just straight-up douchebaggery. But it seems that men are still using the word "slut" as a means of shaming and judging women for their sexual practices and style of dress.
The Gloss anonymously interviewed seven men from differentRead More »from If You'd Sleep With Her, You Can't Call Her A Slut
- HowAboutWe | Work + Money – Mon, Jun 20, 2011 8:30 PM EDT
By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe.comRead More »from Sex Etiquette: Do You Agree Or Disagree With These "Rules"?
If you have sex with someone, do you have to stay the night? Offer sleepwear? Fold a person's clothes as you remove them?
The Frisky has compiled a list of examples of poor sex etiquette. Some of their examples, such as "ask before you try anything kinky" and "always be prepared to use a condom," are hard to disagree with. (These basically boil down to "Be safe and always wait for consent.")
But other, more specific "rules" seem a little...stringent?
Related: Morning-After Etiquette: When Is A Date Officially Over?
"Ruining clothing. Do not throw our cocktail dress on your unswept floor. Do not chuck our bra and panties with the dust bunnies under your bed. Do not cover our new pants with lube. We're all for ripping off clothes in the heat of the moment, but be mindful of our duds."
I guess I don't really understand like, what the guy is supposed to do in this situation? Rip off my bra in a fit of passion...and then carefully fold it and place it
- HowAboutWe | Work + Money – Mon, Jun 20, 2011 8:08 PM EDT
by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe
Activity is what makes you famous on dating and social networking sites: Every time you upload a new picture, answer a profile question, send a message, "like" something, "wink" at someone, or even just log in to your account, that's activity. And it's what gets you noticed.
On HowAboutWe, the most attention-getting activity is, of course, posting or reposting dates. Each time you post a new date, you show up at the top of the feed on any user's "date stream" whose match criteria you meet. So the more often you post dates, the more likely you are to get noticed by people who are looking for people like you.
Easy, right? Sure it is. But if you're looking for an even easier way to increase your chances of getting hits, just log in everyday. Every time you log in on HowAboutWe, your gorgeous mug floatsRead More »from Online Dating 101: If You're On A Dating Site, Use It
- HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Fri, Jun 17, 2011 8:59 PM EDT
By Chiara Atik For HowAboutWe.comRead More »from Are Emoticons And Exclamation Marks Too "Girly" For Guys?
Late last year, a guy friend of mine emailed The Date Report and asked if exclamation marks are too "girly" for male use. He said he'd sometimes write them in emails, but then decide that unless a situation called for an extreme reaction, the exclamation marks made the tone of his email a bit too...effeminate.
As much as I wanted to tell him that, no, of course a punctuation mark can't be anything but gender neutral, the truth is there is something a little bit feminine about them. (Does this stem from the social construct of women being expected to be agreeable and affable, while men are expected to be cool and unexcitable?)
Related: Are Exclamation Marks "Girly?"
The female prickliness regarding how men express themselves on the Internet can be summed up with this gChat from my friend, regarding a guy she was messaging with on HowAboutWe:
If you asked me whether it should be acceptable for a woman to use any mannerism or affectation that society
by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe
Science just keeps on cranking out helpful little studies about you and how you date. This time, researchers at the University of Kansas have determined that you flirt in one of five unique ways: traditional, physical, polite, sincere or playful.
But which particular courtship/pickup style do you use? And how do you tell? And why would you want to know anyway?
Understanding the methods that you've come to use naturally, just because of who you are, can help you improve your game. Plus, it might give you some insight into why you attract the kind of people you do, and how to attract the people you want.
So, which description rings most true for you?
Related: The Crazy Things Women Do On Facebook -- True or False?
You've been told that you're old-fashioned and you don't mind hearing it. When you watch Mad Men, in spite the obvious shocking anachronisms, it seems kind of... right. Even if you don't necessarily believe that menRead More »from Which Type Of Flirt Are You?
By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe.comRead More »from Would You Date Someone For Their Air Conditioner?
It's hot, it's muggy, and it's only going to get worse. For those of us who are braving the summer sans climate control, it's time to start looking for a summer fling with a blessedly frigid apartment.
In an article about summer in New York for the Village Voice, Jen Doll describes the phenomenon of "air-conditioner-based relationships":
Related: Fill In The Blank: "I'd Date Someone For Their _____."
"When night falls and you are forced from your mechanically cooled office or after-work drinks environment, you will, with unprecedented perseverance and clarity of vision, become radar-focused upon gaining entry into the homes of persons with powerful new air-conditioning units offering five-figure BTUs. Look forward to an array of new 'friends with benefits.'"
Oh, this is true! So so true! Whether or not you'd ever date someone exclusively because of their air conditioning, the quest for a cooler climate becomes inexorably linked to your romantic
by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe
There are about 96 million single people over the age of 18 in the US. 40 million of them date online. That's not quite half the unattached population, but it's safe to say that online daters are far from a fringe group. It's about time we stopped acting like they are.
Dating online is nothing to be embarrassed about. It doesn't mean that you have failed at relationships in the "real world." It doesn't mean that you are hopeless. What it does mean is that, just like 40 million other Americans, you're taking charge of your love life.
Take a look at your online dating profile. Have you sheepishly indicated that you are "giving this online dating thing a try?" Have you felt the need to explain that "you wouldn't normally date online but, ______?" Delete those phrases. There's no need for them.
Just express yourself as clearly andRead More »from Online Dating 101: No Shame In Your Game