Honesty in relationships is important -- but so is honesty with yourself.
by Nikki Metzgar for HowAboutWe
Of course I should be honest with the people I'm dating. No cheating, no misleading -- that is pretty basic stuff. That isn't even so difficult until the truth is "I don't like you," and the hard part is really being on the wrong end of that one.
What I'm starting to realize, though, is how important it is to be honest with myself and how it's really a lot tougher than being honest with others. When I met that cute guy a few weeks ago, the first one to make me laugh in a really long time, I told myself, "Well, that's enough to be satisfied with. Now I know I can have feelings for someone else again. Mission accomplished. He doesn't even have to like me back!" Yeah, right.
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Sure, it felt good to acknowledge that I can feel again [cue dramatic music], but let's be real here. Of course I want him to like me back. Avoiding that reality will not help me seal the deal with him or any future deals.