DatingBy Nikki Metzgar for HowAboutWe
One year ago, I was recovering from the worst break-up of my life and my dating resolutions for 2012 were mostly aimed at getting me out of the quicksand. This year it's more about finding the tricky balance between caution and joyous free fall and maybe minimizing some of the loopy overanalyzing of every single word and action (but we are who we are).
1. Get over this 'man of action' obsession.
After getting involved with a lot of indecisive men, I began to get obsessed with this idea of a guy who knew he wanted to be with me and would prove it by coming to get me. No one wants lukewarm affections, but I'm not a princess at the top of a tower waiting for the bravest knight to declare his passion for me. It hurts when people change their minds and are unsure, but they're allowed to up until a certain point.
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2. Know when to quit.
Eight months of 2012 were spent still entangled with a guy who broke up with me in
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But as the years went on, I begrudgingly thought "Do I really need this?" every time I had to re-up my subscription or else lose access to all but my 200 most recent photos. I was using Tumblr, Facebook, and Instagram much more than Flickr; I vehemently nodded in agreement every time someone on Twitter compared Flickr to a dusty old shoebox. It had become a repository for all of my photos, but sorely lacked any real community aspect.
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You see, dear reader, dating a Tolkien fanatic is unlike any relationship you've ever had before. They will seem adorable at first glance: smart, sensitive, able to use a large vocabulary, a strong sense of right and wrong - charming by all precursory glances. But delve deeper - say, by the fourth or fifth date - and be prepared to discover the following:
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1. He tells you he's bilingual. By bilingual, he means he also speaks Elvish.
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I recently got an email from a client who wanted to set up a date for Thanksgiving night. I coached her to be slightly aggressive and asked her to invite a guy out for drinks. (I have always thought that Thanksgiving is a great "date" holiday for singles and I had all the ladies I coach go out this week.)
Everything was going great, and she told the guy (based on my coaching) that she would set up the date. The plan was to Yelp some bars and find a good place, something fun; we even found a cute outfit for her to wear.
The day before Thanksgiving, she still hadn't found a bar. So Thursday comes, and she sends a text to the guy telling him her schedule, and asking if he wanted to cancel because it's a holiday, or something like that.
He didn't respond right away, and she began to panic; she called, texted and emailed him, and he still didn't respond. I asked her to put her phone away until her family dinner was over. I didn't see the point in ruining her