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Clear Your Head & Fill Your Closet

By Tolani Osan for BounceBack.com

You just got out of a long-term relationship. Whether things ended badly or amicably, its time to press on and re-establish a sense of self… Oh and you've got serious money to blow. Of course first thoroughly consider your finances-are you now living alone? Is rent cheaper? More expensive? Are there new expenses? Fewer expenses? Depending on how serious the relationship was, re-evaluating your finances could surely bring you down. But if it's within your budget, a post-break up shopping spree will lift your spirits and help you clasp your single life. Empower yourself and turn over a new leaf: Get some or all of these 7 buys in your cart!

1. A Career Suit

This could be your most valuable buy! Nothing boosts your self-confidence and self-worth more than suit. A pant-suit, a skirt-suit, it doesn't matter; well tailored separates can make you feel like you own the world. The biggest trend in women suits for Spring is a White

Steps to Losing the Excess Baggage

By Patia Braithwaite for BounceBack.com

If you've ever been through a break up, chances are you've experienced one of the following: you are eating everything in sight, or you aren't eating much of anything. If you fall into either of these two situations, we've got the perfect (unofficial) fitness plan for you.

Step 1: Acknowledge that your ex was dead weight. Typically, when I go through a breakup, I lose 10 pounds. After years of this ritual, I've come to realize that this is my body's way of losing the loser who was attached to my hip. Regardless of your emotional eating behaviors, your relationship has ended because it wasn't serving you. While that emptiness can be scary, it's not a reason to over eat. Think of loneliness as the lightness of being free. The dead weight is gone, don't replace it with love handles.

Related: Seven Ways to De-Stress After Heartbreak

Step 2: Eating is an an act of self-love. Whether you are prone to starving or overeating, remember

Deal Breaker: Relationship Breaker?

By Alex Johnson for BounceBack.com

Deal breakers. We implement these "deal breakers" when we are contemplating on buying a house, a car, or even choosing what restaurant to go to. However, when it comes to relationship "deal breakers" when do they break the relationship?

When we are single, and in the dating world, most people tend to have a set of ideals that they are looking for in someone. For some, it might be that the man has to make a certain amount of money or the woman has to have a certain bra size. You can even go into the gay world and some guys won't even consider dating a guy unless he is sporting a six-pack. Whatever the case may be, we all know that you are not going to get everything on your wish list. And once you begin to date someone and the relationship begins to develop, we all must learn the art of compromise.

Related: Complement or Compromise: Does Your Partner Really Complete You?

However, with the art of compromise there can be a lot

Should Ladies Really Think Like Men?

By Penny Paige for BounceBack.com

Last weekend I joined the masses and checked out the film Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, starring Oscar Nominee Taraji P. Henson and Gabrielle Union. The film was based off of New York Times bestselling book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, by comedian Steve Harvey.

In summary, I found the movie to be extremely funny with a hit of brutal honesty. It raised so many issues that women deal with (i.e. Dating a man that won't commit, dating a mama's boy, dating a player, and setting boundaries to name a few). Here's the breakdown of the types of men (and the women involved with them) featured in the film:

"The Player" - This is the man that is smooth as silk. He gets what he wants (sex without a commitment) from any woman he desires. He is the epitome of charming, suave, always knows what to say, and is sexy as hell. He has no problem stringing women along because he's only out for a good time. In "Act Like a Lady…" the

Know When to Let Go















By Inji El Gammal for BounceBack.com

"A woman should not be walking out of her marriage. How can you do this to your children and let them grow up in a broken family?" That is what some will tell the woman who decides that her marriage was over. Those words will haunt her and may even break her for a while. People will judge and will condemn but what they do not know is what happened before reaching such a decision. What they do not know is the life this woman had once the doors were closed behind her.

To the women or men, who are good living people with no intention of destroying anything, you were the one living your life. Were those people, now judging you, living it for you, with you or by you? Did you judge them when some decided to stay in a marriage predominated by fighting, letting their children grow up with two adults disliking each other?

Related: Whatever You Believe Will Be True For You

However, when it is the man who walks out, people will gladly

5 Ways to Know You're Over It
















By Alex Johnson for BounceBack.com

Breakups. They can lead to so many self-destructive behaviors. When we find ourselves in the middle of the storm, some of the most common things we find ourselves doing are: ignoring our loved ones, not eating, or in some cases over-eating, listening to sad music, watching bad TV, avoiding the neighborhood they live in for fear of running into them when you are wearing track pants and un-shampooed hair. Or even worse, wanting to call them to tell them after you have had a few cocktails that you miss them and now you've come across as the desperate or pathetic one.

Related: What Can We Learn From Our Failed Relationships?

Below are 5 clear signs that after the storm settles you are over the breakup:

1. Come out of hiding: During the first phase of any breakup you can really only go two ways. Lean on your support system whole-heartedly or go into hiding and unplug yourself from the rest of the world, while your food comes

Seeking the quintessential relationship













By Kelli Cooper for BounceBack.com

Depending on your family, religion, society at large and other factors, you have probably had a lot of ideas hammered into your head regarding what is ''right'' and ''appropriate'', what constitutes success, what makes an ideal partner, what type of life you should live, and what is supposed to make you happy. These forces are very strong and can lead many astray from the person they really want to be or the life they really want to live. Something does not quite feel right to them but they cave to these arbitrary declarations. They think they are in the wrong and everyone else must be right. This can lead to a lot of unnecessary frustration and suffering.

Related: Love Yourself Before You Can Love Another

One of the keys to finding and maintaining a successful relationship is really figuring out what YOUR ideal relationship is, who YOUR ideal partner is. Some people reading this may think this is an obvious piece of advice and, in many

Saying Your Sorry to the Ones You Love

By Alysia Stern for BounceBack.com

Not every apology will be created or received equally. "I am sorry" is an in-depth, three word phrase that obtains numerous meanings. The majority of the time when one person accidentally or mistakenly hurts another person causing emotional or physical pain, the natural response is to say "I'm sorry!" As a child we are trained to apologize to others when we have hurt them. This is a universal term known in every language. The term is also used to express condolences to another person. It is a way of extending feelings of remorse and sorrow to another.

Related: Need to Apologize? Creative Ways to Say "I'm Sorry"

"I am sorry" is said everyday in many ways. The most important thing to remember is that it is supposed to be used in a realistic, remorseful way; not in a "fly by night" sort of way! When you are truly sorry and have made a commitment to yourself and another to never perform the act you did AGAIN or speak the words you have