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When Everyone's Getting Married...But You

By James Lane for BounceBack.com

It seems that every time I go to my mailbox, I have a new wedding invitation. Whether it be from close friends, cousins, or co-workers, wedding invites are ubiquitous in my life right now. I am 25 years old, and apparently this is only the beginning. Already in 2012, I have been invited to five weddings and asked to be part of the wedding party in three. I'm exhausted just thinking about that.

I have been to a few weddings in my twenty five years, but the bride or groom were never the same age as me (or younger!) It is surprising to me how many people are getting married and just rubbing it into the single person's face. Plus one? Is that sarcasm?

Not only are weddings annoying, they are also extremely expensive. I will spend over $3,000 dollars this year alone just traveling to different locations, tux rentals, and don't forget the engagement and wedding gifts. I wonder if there is a place we can write all of this off on our taxes?

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It's Not You...It's Me

By Alysia Stern for BounceBack.com

If you have ever dated, I am sure you have heard (or perhaps spoken) the phrase "It's not you...it's me." You may have used this yourself or had an ex end your relationship with this line. It is simple for a person to identify character defects in their partners. But it is extremely difficult for people to see problems in themselves. So if we can see issues mu...

If you have ever dated, I am sure you have heard (or perhaps spoken) the phrase "It's not you...it's me."

You may have used this yourself or had an ex end your relationship with this line. It is simple for a person to identify character defects in their partners. But it is extremely difficult for people to see problems in themselves. So if we can see issues much easier in someone else… what exactly does this confusing statement mean?

"It's not you, it's me" can be seen as the ultimate cop-out, relationship breakup line. It usually means it is you. It is probably not

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Should we "like" Social Media?













Posted by: Erica Conte for BounceBack.com

Hardships in relationships are something we cannot avoid; however, when couples are challenged with an issue and communicate and work together toward a solution, it can potentially result in a stronger bond. Jealousy and other fears that come with the dating territory are natural and understandable, but with the arrival of the digital age, these emotions now run the risk of escalating more than ever.

Thanks to social networks, the lives of friends you love, like, and even dislike are on display awaiting comments and sharing with just about everyone. As convenient and entertaining as these networks can be, they can also contribute to, if not increase, trust issues in a romantic relationship.

Related: Is Online Dating a Must-Do These Days?

For a relationship to succeed, both partners have to trust one another. Social networking brings a whole slew of communication tactics into play in relationships that weren't there before, and all

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Are You Afraid of Being Single?













By Kelli Cooper for BounceBack.com

It is natural to want to share your life with someone. Romantic relationships contain unique elements that you really cannot get from those with your family or friends. You build a life with this person in a way that you just do not with other people. Being single is often thought of as a fate worse than death and the thought of not being able to find someone to spend your life with can be a te...

It is natural to want to share your life with someone. Romantic relationships contain unique elements that you really cannot get from those with your family or friends. You build a life with this person in a way that you just do not with other people. Being single is often thought of as a fate worse than death and the thought of not being able to find someone to spend your life with can be a terrifying prospect for many. Women especially feel the pressure because their fertility has a much shorter shelf life than men, who have the luxury of

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How to see yourself more clearly










By Patia Braithwaite for BounceBack.com

So your relationship is over and, tragic as it is, you still have to go to work and be social. So in the midst of all the smiling and putting on your brave face, how can you be sure what you really feel? Take the following 7 tips to heart and you'll be more in touch with yourself - and that much closer to recovering and moving on. What does ...

So your relationship is over and, tragic as it is, you still have to go to work and be social. So in the midst of all the smiling and putting on your brave face, how can you be sure what you really feel?

Take the following 7 tips to heart and you'll be more in touch with yourself - and that much closer to recovering and moving on.

What does your body feel like?

So many of us live our lives in our heads. We discuss, we ponder we ruminate, but how do we feel??? The sensations in your body (belly ache, tension in your neck), are indications of our inner state. Pay attention and

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Moving Out and Moving On

By Sarah Rae for BounceBack.com

It doesn't matter whether you're the one who called it quits or not, moving out of a place you shared with your partner is a difficult task. A home is something you build together. Your lives were integrated, boundaries torn down. Having to dismantle that home after a break-up adds insult to injury. How do you remember what's even yours in the kitchen? Moving out is hard enough without frayed nerves, hurt feelings, and the prospect of leaving someone behind.

Related: The Breakdown of a Break-up

There are some rules of thumb that can make the process less painful. Keep reminding yourself that you never know what the future brings.

1. Don't put it off. No matter how much emotional turmoil is sure to arise, you need to do it sooner rather than later. If you or your ex start dating again, you'll be sorry you put moving your things on the backburner. Whether you don't want to face the reality of moving or you aren't

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Reduce, Reuse, Recycle an Ex?

By Randi Newton for BounceBack.com

Reduce, Reuse, Recycle! Sure it's great to help out the environment by recycling paper, plastic, etc., but when it comes to matters of the heart and peace of mind - it may not always be the best idea. It's easy to turn to recycling when you need to reuse an old outfit, shopping bag, or bottle…but when you delve into the dating bin of exes for "reuse" when thing...

Reduce, Reuse, Recycle! Sure it's great to help out the environment by recycling paper, plastic, etc., but when it comes to matters of the heart and peace of mind - it may not always be the best idea.

It's easy to turn to recycling when you need to reuse an old outfit, shopping bag, or bottle…but when you delve into the dating bin of exes for "reuse" when things get a little stagnant in your love life, that's where problems from the past may resurface.

Related: Breakup Movie Rewind: What Can We Learn from Sliding Doors?

Everyone's done it, and it's nothing to be

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Say Hello to a Single Spring!
By Penny Paige for BounceBack.com

The vernal equinox has recently passed and we all know what that means - SPRING has sprung! Look around you - the flowers are in bloom, the leaves on the trees are budding, the days are getting longer, and all of the colors make you feel alive again!

For some, spring may not signify a pocketful of sunshine. Maybe you've had a recent relationship change and you're not exactly "Little Miss Sunshine". Instead of embracing the new season you may feel like walking around clad in black (with those pair of extra sharp scissors your mother wouldn't let you use as a kid) to cut all the new blossoming flowers from their stems because they look a little too cheery. Maybe you wish you could personally wipe that annoying "I-don't-have-a-care-in-the-world-because-I'm-in-love" smile off of all the faces around you.

Related: Can Working Out Increase Your Chances of a Better Love Life?

That's ok - I've been there, we've ALL been there. However,

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