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Fall in Love this Season

Posted by Alex Johnson for Bounceback.com

Here we are. Another season is about to bestowed upon us. It is a season that most welcome and that season is what we all refer to as fall. With this season comes so many wonderful things, you get to debut the new wardrobe, grabbing your first of many pumpkin spiced lattes at your local Starbucks and of course the leaves changing all around you. Now that we have the wardrobe, the latte and nature all under in motion, the new season also brings up the concept of dating.

Related: Fall Back in Love With Yourself

For those that are already attached or for those out there that are about to discover what dating is like during this season, I would like to share 5 of the Best Dates for the Fall season. Let's let the leaves fall shall we?

1. Apple Picking: Those that live even in the big cities where orchards are not within arm's length venture out to the nearest apple picking farms. This is a fun date because not only can the

Should Friends Date?

Posted by James Lane for BounceBack.com

Good friends are hard to come by. Great friends are even harder. It takes so long to build that special bond we have with our friends; from those secret inside jokes to the comfort and security that they provide us. But what happens when we change the dynamic of our relationship from friends to dating. Is it ever a good idea?

If you have ever watched the show "Friends" you will know that Chandler and Monica and Ross and Rachel were all friends before they got together. (Spoiler alert if you haven't seen the show). They were the best friends who just so happened fall in love. And they made it work. Does this happen with every situation? Well, unless your relationship plays out in a studio in Burbank, California, then yes. Otherwise, not so much.

We know we already love our friends. We trust them. We care for them. But sometimes taking the "next step" and becoming a couple can hinder the relationship you took so long to

How to Survive the First Months of Living Together

Posted by Alex Johnson for Bounceback.com

We all have lived with someone else. Whether it be sharing a room with your siblings, your college roommate or even your very first apartment in the big city where you shared a studio apartment with four other people. It is one thing to live with friends or a stranger you met through Craigslist. It is quite another thing to live with someone that you are in a romantic relationship with.

When you are dating in the beginning and have your separate homes that you can both retreat back to when you need some air, some time to do your own thing, or simply want control of the remote, those are the moments to cherish, because once you move in with your loved one, things will change. However, rather than viewing moving in with someone as prison or some cruel punishment, turn that situation around and consider how lucky you both are to be experiencing this journey together.

Related: Can Unmarried Couples That Live Together

Getting Back With Your Ex: Good Idea or Horrible Mistake?

Posted by Alex Johnson for BounceBack.com

A lot can be said about the idea of getting back together with an ex. Most of the time what is being said is with a negative tone. I can almost hear what my friends would say to me if they knew I was thinking about getting back together with an ex of mine: "Once a cheater-always a cheater." Or the popular, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

While it is great to have these cliche quotes to remind us of potentially making a fatal mistake, I must ask the question…When is it a good idea to get back together with an ex?

Related: 4 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Point Fingers At Your Ex

As they say, the only two people to ever know what really goes on in the relationship are the two people involved. You usually tend to only hear your friend's side of the story or vice versa, but it is rare that you will have both parties explain the reasons why they ended. So you are left to give your opinions based on one

What's Your Number?

Posted by Demetri Raftopoulos for BounceBack.com

I've never shared it with anyone. I've never seen the point to. It's as relevant to me as the Boston Red Sox. What could it possibly determine? What could it possibly mean? I've had a lot of partners? Yeah -- so what? Who hasn't?

I don't share my number because I don't even know it. That isn't because my number is some insane, incalculable amount. I remember the good ones, I remember what's important, and what actually meant something.

But as for my number, it means nothing, and yours should not either. The same goes for your partner/boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/prospective lover.

Related: The Casualties of Casual Sex

Most people get ridiculed day after day because of a silly number. Regardless of if you've had sex with supermodels or Alex Rodriguez, the present is what matters; the present meaning -- today. You're not going to marry A-Rod or Gisele, I mean, unless you're Tom Brady of course but

Are Men Still Expected to Pay in Today's Society?

Posted by Ginny Humber for Bounceback.com

Dating is tricky. And money makes people touchy. When the two combine, there's lots of room for stressful wallet fidgeting. So what is a modern girl to do when the check drops? It's not an easy question to answer.

When my parents got married in the late seventies, my dad was 27 to my mom's 20. All during their courtship, he paid for everything. This continued until she graduated from college two years after the wedding, and finally got her own job. I asked her what would have happened if she had tried to pay for dinner some time, and she said it would probably have hurt Dad's feelings, not to mention his pride.

It had a lot to do with their age differences and the fact that he was the one with the higher-paying job, but even so, that was just the way things were done back then, and few questioned it. Today, with women earning as much as or more than men, at least percentage-wise, things are very different. However, the

Dating Your Ex is Never the Best Idea. Ever.

Posted by James Lane for BounceBack.com

Taylor Swift has it right. When it comes to getting back with an ex, it's always better to write a song about it than actually doing it.

Why do we even think about getting back with our exes? Is it because we miss the memories we made? Is it because we were so comfortable with them? Is it because they made us feel special? Or is it because we are just plain lonely?

I'm going to have to agree with the latter.

Bringing our ex back into our life is damaging. Does it work out occasionally? Sure, but I don't like the chances of "occasionally". Just because it worked out on a TV show or with your best friends second cousins' next door neighbor, does not mean that it will work out for you. I was in this same situation a few months ago. I missed my ex and decided to grab coffee together to see if the feelings were still there. Stupid stupid.

Related: Giving Your Ex Another Shot: Good Idea or Bad Mistake?

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Embrace the Positives of Being Single!


Posted by James Lane for Bounceback.com

In celebration of National Singles Week, when everyone is looking at their single life with a glass half empty view, we have discovered so many reasons why it is just awesome to be single.

1. Enjoying your free time

When you are single, you have more time to focus on your friends, read a great novel, or watch your favorite television show. It is a time for you to relax and not have to worry about someone else for a change. You can wake up when you want, go to brunch with some friends, and then come home and watch the Kardashian marathon, with no guilty conscious.

2. Experience new things

Especially if you are young, being single is the best opportunity to experience all new things! A new city or a new job. You aren't tied down to anything, so if you want, you can get up and move cities and start a new life. You get to know yourself in a totally new way; a way you wouldn't if you were in a relationship.

3. You are