Blog Posts by BounceBack

By Sunil Ramsamooj, BounceBack Editorial Staff

It might be safe to say that not everyone is a cheater, but everyone - everyone - knows a cheater. If you beg to differ, then we bet if you dig a little deeper or get to know more about more people in your social circles, you'll ultimately find one in the bunch. We don't say this because we have a murky view on relationships or because we've been spurned in the past by a lowly lover. It's only because, unfortunately, that's the reality of life around us these days. There's sex everywhere you look, the media is fascinated with infidelity, technology both enables it and uncovers it - all resulting in people are being pre-programmed not to commit (or not valuing commitment) in relationships from an early stage.

We've heard many stories at BounceBack of cheating, and wanted to compile a list of the tools cheaters use to do their dirty work, in hopes that you'll be able to recognize the potential red flags in their own

Jennifer Anastasi, BounceBack Editorial Staff

As we celebrate Labor Day by rewarding ourselves with a break from our day to day jobs, shouldn't we give ourselves a break from the all of the hard work and effort that goes into finding and hanging onto Mr. Right? Don't we deserve a break from all of the time and energy spent over-analyzing our last relationship and where it went wrong? Could a carefree fling be just the thing we need to forget about that bitter relationship breakup or broken heart? It depends.

A fling, defined as a "casual or brief love affair" or a "brief sexual or romantic relationship," certainly has its benefits when it comes to moving on from a relationship breakup. With its no-strings-attached policy and simple philosophy, it can be a welcome diversion as long as both parties are aware there's an expiration date, and both are cool with it. A soothing balm for the bruised ego, a fabulous fling can help boost your self-esteem and get you back

When will this feeling stop!?! Wouldn't it be nice to have a set amount of time to know when your heartache is going to end? Based on feedback from several people ranging from 3 months to a 32-year marriage, the answer is clear: someday soon.

In other words, there is no normal and you should never feel pressured. The important thing is to keep telling yourself that it will happen because you are ready to bounce back from your relationship breakup. It may not be tomorrow, it may not be for another year, but just knowing that one day the time will come when you will feel fully healed helps.

"Time heals all things"- make it your new mantra. Time will heal you, trust this and before you know it you will be waking up and going to sleep without thinking about the ex, as one person commented: "you will be ready to fall in love again and this is when you know you are over them!" Make sure you take time to grieve your loss and know that this grieving process is just that - a

By Monique Zamir, Bounceback Editorial Staff

You're in a constant fog after a relationship breakup or divorce, and no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to break out of it. You have all but given up on getting done what you had hoped to accomplish for the day and you're just wondering how you will get through it all. Your ex just seems to keep coming up in your mind; you keep replaying what happened and how it ended and what you could've done or what you should've done. But no. You can't go down that road again, this has been stewing for some time and you need to move on. But how?

Well, there are many ways you can approach this. It may be best to try several methods, however one viable avenue towards emotional and mental recovery is through meditation.

Meditating can be just what you need to help yourself clear your mind and focus on what you need to be doing for yourself, and not just everyone else around you.

One form of meditation is mantra meditation,

By Morgan Vines, BounceBack Editorial Staff

Mother, father, friend, teacher, cook, housekeeper, entertainer, employee. The list goes on.

You wear more costumes than Lady Gaga dons in a two hour concert.

Doing it all on your own can make you feel helpless, especially if you don't have family to lean on. The good news? You're not alone. Although it feels like you are, there are more than 14 million other women out there battling the trials of raising children without a partner (2008 U.S. Census Bureau Report). If you're conquering all the demands of being a single mom AND dealing with the emotional aftermath of a relationship breakup or divorce, it can be even more difficult to find balance in your life. But as a mom, you are willing to do what it takes. And whether it's one kid or four, you need superhuman abilities to make it work. So why is it that people still have the nerve to tell you your children will probably end up drunk, drugged, violent and in jail?

By Greg Price BounceBack Editorial Staff

After a three-year relationship that went sour and amounted to nothing but a box of knickknacks and memories, some stumble into the very next relationship and find "the one." Others jump into the very next relationship and end up repeating the same mistakes or even hurting themselves or another person by jumping back in too early.

This is known, of course, as the not-so-rare rebound.

All of us can say we've jumped into a relationship or even a fling right after heartbreak or even just reveling in the next stage of "singledom." As suggested above, sometimes the rebound turns into something special, while other times they can do some harm. But maybe we need that buffer after going through an excruciating split.

Sometimes the rebound is exactly like our ex, and subconsciously we have some unfinished business to attend to. Other times they are the complete opposite of our ex and we feel like they were what we needed all along,

By Sunil Ramsamooj, BounceBack Editorial Staff

In John Mayer's "Love Song for No One" he says, "I could have met you in a sandbox, I could have passed you on the sidewalk. Could I have missed my chance and watched you walk away?" It's a most compelling line - what if you passed your soul mate by on any given day and didn't even know it? For writer & director Jac Schaeffer, that thought helped create the film "TiMER," which is a sci-fi love story of sorts.

Unlike traditional love stories of boy meets girl (they face a hurdle) and end up together, Timer explores the ability of a little device that gets implanted into your wrist to let you know when you'll bump into your soul mate. Of course it's not totally accurate; the timer only has a 98% approval rate. The film revolves around Oona, played by Emma Caulfield, who has a timer. The unfortunate news is that hers hasn't activated just yet. The thing is, your timer only activates when your soul mate has gotten his or her own

Jennifer Anastasi, BounceBack Editorial Staff

There's been lots of buzz about a new release on the ever-popular chick-lit scene. Stephanie Dolgoff's "My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young" takes a humorous look at how she identifies herself as a "formerly" - the term she uses to define her gradual transformation from a hot, young 20-something to a not-so-hot middle aged wife and mom (who shamelessly admits she'd "buy an ass-bra" these days!)

She recalls the subtle signs suggesting she had entered that strange limbo between old and young. Salespeople in swanky shops were no longer flocking to assist her. All of the cool hangouts she used to know no longer existed. Once the kind of girl who never spent time at home, she now caught herself speaking highly of her Swiffer. It finally hit her like lightning one day on the subway when a sexy stranger asked her for the time. She braced herself for the pick-up line that usually followed,