In the aftermath of a breakup or divorce (especially if you were the one broken up with) it's common to find yourself stuck in the land of negative self-talk. This type of thinking is powerful and dangerous. Because emotions after a breakup can be so intense, they can cloud our rational thinking. As a result, irrational thoughts take over our mind space until we feel drowned in regret and our self-esteem is in pieces. These negative thoughts likely won't disappear on their own; it'll take some work on your part - work that is both necessary and worthwhile as you heal and bounce back.
The work starts with examining elements of negative self-talk and substituting them with alternate, more productive thoughts. Here are some examples:
Negative self-talk (NST): It was my fault he cheated on me.
Alternate thought (AT): If he was unhappy in the relationship, it was his responsibility to let me know so that we could work onRead More »from In the Aftermath of Heartbreak, Transform Negative Self-Talk Into Positive Thinking