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By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY: I recently went to a concert with a group of friends. I noticed out of the corner of my eye that my ex-husband was there, too. The concert was general admission, so there were no assigned seats. I decided that I was going to have a good time, even though he was there- I had gone shopping for new clothes, had my hair cut and styled, and even got a mani pedi for the show. I didn't turn around for the rest of the evening, and focused on the band and my friends. When I noticed my ex, he was at the back of the venue. As the concert progressed, he got closer and closer, until my friends told me he was right behind me. He made a point to talk to the group I was with, which made everyone uncomfortable. He also made a point of dancing with other women right behind me. Why did he do this? He left me, cheated on me, and told everyone I was mentally and emotional abusive, which isn't true. His shenanigans did was remind me what a jerk he is, but what

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Judd Apatow's films usually center on dudes (Superbad, Pineapple Express), but his newest is all about the ladies. Some of our favorite funny women - Kristen Wiig, Maya Rudolph, and The Office's Ellie Kemper - make up the oddball bridal party in the Apatow-produced Bridesmaids, which opened in theaters Friday.

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Kemper filled us in on how the cast got into character: "The Friday night before we started filming, we decided to go whole hog on the bridesmaids traditions. We rented a party bus to take us to Hollywood Men, a male strip club. Just about every female member of the cast and crew attended. It's a very special night when you have an unusually sweaty fireman, a scantily-clad Batman, and two dozen screaming ladies in one room. A neighboring table of reveling bachelorettes recognized Kristen and Maya, shouting, 'Hey! They're the SNL girls!' That must have been a pretty cool bachelorette party: They went to Hollywood Men, and got

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by Amy Sohn, REDBOOK

Ah, the post-baby sex life - rumors of its death have been greatly exaggerated, finds writer Amy Sohn. That said, a temporary tailspin is to be expected. Read her 100-percent honest report.

"What do you plan to do for birth control?" my midwife asked. It was my six-week postpartum checkup, and she had just pronounced that it was safe for me to have sex.

Related: Bethenny Frankel After Baby: "Sex isn't the Same."

"Birth control?" I said, like she was speaking a foreign language. I was hormonal and emotionally fragile after a difficult birth, and now I was nursing a newborn. I was thinking about having sex again the same way I was planning to lose my baby weight - sometime in the future, but certainly not right now. "There's a pill that's safe to take when you're breast-feeding," she told me, and scribbled down the name. I stuck it in my wallet, just like I once took guys' numbers knowing I'd never call.

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by Jessica Smith, REDBOOK

Most diet pill advertisements, these drugs can do everything from give you more energy to help you drop pounds in record time. And we're buying it - according to a recent CBS News report, Americans are spending over $35 billion a year on weight loss products. But what these supplement companies don't tell you is that most of their "success stories" are actually paid participants whose job it is to lose weight on a strict diet and exercise plan. (And believe it or not, a recent FTC investigation found that one popular diet pill brand had evidence from a study that found subjects lost more weight taking a placebo than the actual diet pill.)

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So why not save some money, and potential health risks, and lose weight without the pills? Here are five ways to get the power of a pill (sans supplements) and speed up your weight loss naturally:

1. The Diet Pill Claim: Curbs your appetite.

Get

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By Jenna Mahoney, REDBOOK

Crisis #1: The Forecast is 100% Humidity
Avoid crazy-expansive curls with a cocktail of equal parts leave-in conditioner and frizz-fighting cream, says New York City-based stylist Danielle Irene. Try Redken Smooth Down Detangling Cream, $15, and L'Oréal Paris EverSleek Sulfate-Free Smoothing System Humidity Defying Leave-In Crème, $8.99. "While hair is still damp, section it into four pieces and apply the mixture from roots to tips, raking your hands through to coat each strand," she says. Got straight hair? Avoid flyaways by coating it (while it's dry) with John Frieda Frizz-Ease Hair Serum, Original Formula, $8.99.

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Crisis #2: You Got an Awful (Sob!) Haircut
After pin-poking a voodoo doll that vaguely resembles your stylist, do this: "Whatever length the bad cut, wear your hair wavy, which obscures all sorts of flaws, from choppy layers to unevenness," Sebbag says. Using a one-inch-barrel curling iron, wrap

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by Justin Rocket Silverman, REDBOOK
A third of the cheating website's members are women. Our male reporter met up with one of them.

It's not easy to meet a married woman on Ashley Madison. I learn this after dropping $20 to sign up (unlike female members, guys have to pay) and then another $150 on "credits" that I use to send messages to women on the site.

I am honest enough: single guy, (mostly) normal, (mostly) open.

I get zero responses. Turns out, the bulk of women on the site are looking only for cybersex, wanting to fill an emotional void.

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Then the message finally comes: L., 42, an attractive mother of two. She's slightly older than many of the women on Ashley Madison - the average age of female members is 35 - and is atypical in the fact that she prefers single men. (She tried dating some of the married men but found them too paranoid. She also likes that unattached guys have apartments to go to instead of hotel Read More »from Women Cheat, Too: The Other Side of Ashley Madison

by Rory Evans, REDBOOK

We've all got a shopping weak spot, one place we lose all budgetary control. Discover yours here and get a grip.

We used to dream of time spent alone on a beach somewhere. Alone in the tranquil oasis of a fancy spa. As time goes on (and reality sets in), the dream evolves: Alone, pushing a shopping cart through the local big-box store. Alone, luxuriating in mascara choices in the drugstore makeup aisle. For women with full houses and fuller schedules, shopping offers a precious opportunity for purposeful aimlessness, a place to be solitary for a delicious hour or more. The only drawback: You walk out lugging a ton of purchases you didn't intend to make while "browsing." Sound familiar? Here's how to get the retail therapy you need without the sticker shock.

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The QVC MVP

Her Habitat: The comfort of her own home, possibly even the comfort of her memory-foam pillow-top mattress (bought in three easy Read More »from Your Secret Shopping Addictions and How to Curb Them

by Sunny Sea Gold , REDBOOK

The daughter of a former bikini model, Sunny Sea Gold ended up battling binge eating disorder. Now she's written a book, Food: The Good Girl's Drug, and vows never to pressure her kids about weight.

My sophomore year in high school, I was nominated for homecoming princess, and my mom bought me a red satin dress at a secondhand shop. I loved the sweetheart neckline, the spaghetti straps, and the very '90s rhinestones on the bodice. The dress fit but was a teeny bit snug around my belly. My mom could've taken it to the dry cleaners for alterations, but instead, she took me to the gym. I still remember one of the trainers looking at us like we were crazy when my mom said she just wanted me to lose three or four pounds before homecoming.

My mother was naturally thin - in fact, she modeled bikinis when she was 21 - but I remember her going on salad-and-bread-only diets or drinking shakes to drop a few pounds before beach season when I was a kid. And we Read More »from "I Was 'Fat' in a Thin Family"