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"How do I get sexual again with my guy after treatment for breast cancer? I had both breasts removed, and my hair is short and a different color. I'm not sure how to feel sexy anymore, or if my husband even sees me as a sexual person now."

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Your body may have changed, but you are still the same woman your husband fell in love with and, I am sure, still loves. Experiencing sexual pleasure with your husband can be an important part of the healing process. You are so much more than your breasts, so please stop worrying that you are no longer attractive. You are still a beautiful person. Find the courage to open up to your husband about your fears and desires. Simply say, "I don't feel sexy anymore, and I'm worried you don't think I am either." After all you've been through, he's probably ready for - and maybe even looking for - the chance to share how much he truly cares. Tell him you might need to start slowly, with cuddling and massage. As you become

by Jessica Smith, REDBOOK

Let's be clear: no matter what those laser or lotion commercials try to tell you, there is no way to completely rid yourself of cellulite. Unfortunately, all women have some degree of cellulite (even Cindy Crawford told us she's got it), and it becomes more visible as we age. But there are some things you can do to help reduce its ugly appearance:

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1. Need a quick fix before donning those spring weather shorts?

Try coffee grounds! For short-term minor improvement, caffeine (most cellulite lotions contain this) does have a temporary effect on the appearance of cellulite. But there is no need to buy an expensive cream, you can easily create one yourself using a mixture of olive oil and coffee grounds, let it sit on the skin for five minutes or so and then rinse. (This gets messy, so do it in the shower).

2. Reduce it over the long term

The best way to combat cellulite over the long term is to

by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

Mother's Day 2011 is officially over-mine was lovely, thanks for asking- and we are now into the lesser-known, but equally momentous Day After Mother's Day. This day is marked by the cry of mothers everywhere: "What do I do with all this stuff??"

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The stuff I am referring to of course is the beautiful, precious, thoughtful, often homemade gifts given to us by our beautiful, precious, thoughtful children. Candles, cards, tissue-paper flowers, bookmarks and anything and everything that can hold a wee hand print are scattered across the house and while I was sincere when I expressed my adoration of each tiny treasure (truly, children if you are reading this 10 years down the road, I really really do love them) after a few years and a few children the amount of crafts becomes overwhelming. Short of opening my own MoMA (Museum of Mother Art) or ending up on Hoarders, I realized I need a

By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY: Why does an older man trying to date a younger girl constantly bring up the age difference? Is it because he's uncomfortable, or because he's nervous?

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DEAR REDBOOK READER:

You forgot insecure. Totally insecure. I don't even bother fantasizing about bedding some 22-year-old co-ed anymore because even in my imagination the prospect is too terrifying. I can't stop myself from hearing the conversation that would take place:

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Her: "Our relationship reminds me of the first season of The Hills."
Me: "What hills? Where?"
Her: "IM me later, and we'll go back to my place and listen to the Arcade Fire."
Me: "Of course you are you, now and forever, that's one of the reasons I like you so much. I didn't realize you live so close to an arcade, but, regardless, I don't think I could sit idly by and listen to all those

In a world where new beauty products pop up daily and every peel, serum, and night cream promises to erase wrinkles, the makeup counter can be a daunting place. With anti-aging makeup as the latest craze, we wonder how much skincare is too much. Is adding anti-aging makeup to our skincare regimen really necessary?

No, says New York City dermatologist Heidi Weldorf, M.D. "It's a bonus. It can improve skin, but not like straight anti-aging treatments, which have higher concentrations of active ingredients and really get rubbed in." Still, every bit of wrinkle-fighting helps - unless you're using a retinoid at night, in which case, avoid makeup that contains retinol or any exfoliant.

Want to try it out for yourself? We like Elizabeth Arden Ceramide Ultra Lift and Firm Makeup, SPF 15, $42.
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By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY: My fiance and I are getting married in 16 days, and also starting a family. All of a sudden, he has this fantasy involving me and one of my friends that he used to not like. I asked him why he'd want to risk our relationship, and he said this would help him overcome his insecurities and boost his self-confidence. Why would he want to risk everything we have for, as he put it, one last night of "single fun?"

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DEAR REDBOOK READER:

Uh-oh. I didn't find this in my inbox until well after the expiration date on the 16 days occurred. But I feel like this deserves a response. Impending marriage makes guys do bizarre things, for instance: suggesting a three-way with his fiancee and ONE OF HER FRIENDS. That's the kind of poorly conceived plan that smacks of pre-wedding crazy. I'm trying to imagine what would have happened if I asked Karel for a menage a trios WITH ONE OF HER FRIENDS two

Of course he's worth it, but...let's just say, life is different after tying the knot. We asked real women what they sacrificed to be married to the loves of their lives.

"I lost my 1 a.m. shopping sprees. I used to go to the 24-hour Walmart in the middle of the night."
- BARBARA MANCINO, 47, HENDERSON, NV

"I lost sleep! My husband tosses and turns all night. Well, truthfully, I lost sleep for a fun reason too, but I'm not complaining about that!"
- B. BAKER, 29, SAN ANTONIO

"My closet! He has three times the clothes I do."
- CHRISTY CAREY GREAGOR, 39, BANKS, OR

"My skinny jeans. My husband's cooking is too good!"
- VAL BECK, 29, HOLBROOK, NY

"I lost my dream of the perfect man. I married an imperfect one, and it's a blessing! What I thought I wanted in a man was unrealistic. What I actually got was a friend and partner."
- TULA SMITH, 63, GRANITE FALLS, NC

I gave up smoking for my hubby - and, despite the occasional cravings,

Here, your words for the shortcuts that make modern motherhood possible. June Cleaver is rolling; we're laughing!

Dunch: (noun) When you give your kids lunch so late, it might as well be dinner.

meTunes: (noun) Listening to whatever you want as loud as you want because it's your damn car. (So what if your son can sing along to that wildly inappropriate new Eminem song?)

Cupfakes: (noun) Buying store-bought treats for your kid's class birthday, then roughing up the icing so they look homemade.

Wardrobe momfunction: (noun) When you drive your kid to school in your pajamas, wearing no bra, and the perfect skinny-jeaned PTA mom (aka: a "mompetitor") leans in to chat about the bake sale.

Swathing: (verb) Considering your kids' dip in a swimming pool as their bath for the day.

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