I am 32 and have been married for six years. My husband and I have three kids together and two from previous marriages. I feel like I'm always changing to show him how much I love him, and never quite meeting the mark. He always jokes about me having hidden boyfriends, which is really annoying and also reinforces the feeling that I don't measure up. Can you please enlighten me as to why he does this?
DEAR REDBOOK READER:
It sounds like your husband is worried he's "fighting above his weight," which means that he's worried that you're too good for him, and that you'll realize that one day and run off with one of your "hidden boyfriends." In short, he's insecure, so he makes jokes and tests you to soothe his own jangled nerves. The irony is that he's making you feel like crap. I wish I had a quick fix for you, but I don't. Keep talking and be honest with him about how hisRead More »from Dear Whys Guy: "My Husband Makes Me Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough"