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By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

Do guys secretly use our products in the bathroom? --Redbook reader

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DEAR REDBOOK READER:

Oh, yeah, we do. Karel has this sand-lotion stuff that smells like cinnamon and butter, and when you rub it into your skin, you get all tingly, and then when you wash it off and get out of the shower, your skin is still tingly. I swear it feels like you're standing on a mountaintop nude, except you smell like cinnamon. But don't buy fancy potions just for us; having our own would make us feel sketched out that we use "products."

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Need help decoding odd male behavior? Redbook columnist Aaron Traister, who lives in Philadelphia with his wife and two kids, is our resident male who is happy to answer any questions you might have about the mind of a man. Either leave your questions in the comments or email him at redbook@hearst.comwith Whys Guy in the subject. Read More »from Dear Whys Guy: "Do Guys Secretly Use Our Products in the Bathroom?"

by Ava Feuer, REDBOOK

We were surprised to hear that, according to a UK poll, the average couple fights 312 times a year - that's almost one fight per day! But, it got us thinking about all the little things that we fight with our significant others about: household chores, what show to watch on TV, and what to allow our kids. The list is endless. So, we want to know, how often do you fight with your spouse? What are the most common sources of arguments in your marriage? And, how do you feel you measure up to other couples when it comes to getting along?

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How often do you argue with your spouse?

• Daily
• Several times a week
• Once a week
• A few times a month
• Once a month or less

Vote here


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By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

Why does my husband seem to never want sex? I know he isn't having a physical affair. Could he be having an emotional one? -Redbook reader

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DEAR REDBOOK READER:

This is easily the most common question I get, so you are far from alone. I can't know why your husband doesn't want sex, but there are a million potential reasons. Maybe he's one of those guys without a huge sex drive. I have a friend like that. He married a lovely young woman who feels the exact same way, and they're very happy together. Maybe something at work is stressing him out and killing his sexual appetite. Maybe he's feeling insecure about your relationship or his own attractiveness. Maybe he has erectile dysfunction issues, or another health problem. And yes, it's possible that he's having an emotional affair.

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Over the last six years, my husband and I both gained some weight. About nine months ago, he said, "I think we need to go on a diet and lose some weight." We? Anyway, I took it as a hint that he thinks I'm fat. I've lost 45 pounds. He has gained five pounds. I love him no matter what, but I'm mad that he has done nothing. It was his idea. When I suggest he get active with me, something always comes up to stop him. What should I do? Do I tell him it was unfair to say "we" if he had no plans to do anything? Do I tell him it was a low blow to say "we" just so that I would lose some weight?

- K.S., 30, Holland, MO

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Speaking as one who has yet to lose the last 10 pounds of that pesky baby weight (and whose daughter just got her learner's permit), I think you should fall to the ground and kiss your husband's (chubby) feet. I'm only half-joking. As pretty much every weight-loss statistic bears out, losing weight is Read More »from It's Complicated Advice Q&A: "My Husband Told Me I Need to Lose Weight"

From dreamy Mr. Darcy to nice guy Jim Halpert, these made-up married men make our hearts melt. Click their name to vote for your favorite fictional hubby. Submit your own hot husband to be featured in Redbook magazine.

Robert Pattinson as Edward Cullen, Twilight

He could bite us any day - and not just because we know he's a vampire with willpower like no other. Indulging your danger fantasies without the whole might-wind-up-dead side effect? So hot.


Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy, Pride and Prejudice

Get out the smelling salts: No Mr. Darcy before or after him will ever come close to capturing his intensity - or making us swoon. By the time he finally unleashes the red-hot emotions roiling beneath his surface, you'll be practically ready to (oh, yes!) explode.


Patrick Dempsey as Derek Sheperd, Grey's Anatomy

The model hair, bedroom eyes, and easy smile earned him the nickname McDreamy, and got our pulses thumping. But it's the way he unflinchingly loves Meredith - gajillion neuroses and

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By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

So you didn't get an invitation to the Royal Wedding. Bummer. But don't give up hope, it's not too late. Maybe the Royal Mail will make a royal mistake and you'll find an invite stuck between the pages of a Pottery Barn catalogue, or maybe you'll rescue Kate Middleton's cat from a tree and she'll reward you with a seat at the singles table. Anything's possible.

Don't believe me? In 2007, totally out of the blue, I was invited to meet Prince Charles in West Philadelphia. He was touring the East Coast and highlighting organizations he believed in, including the Mural Arts Program in Philadelphia, where I was working teaching art to at-risk teens. I was one of the lucky few asked to meet and greet the Prince.

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Here are a few helpful hints I learned that might come in handy if you ever find yourself in a similar situation:

1. Don't worry about your attire: You can't out dress, or even keep up with, royalty, so

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My husband of 17 years left me and our three sons and remarried six months later. It has now been almost two years since he left, and despite extensive counseling, antidepressants, and divorce-recovery classes, I can't seem to move on. I have become this sad, pathetic, miserable person who hates my life and wishes she could turn back the clock. Can you help me let go of the past? -- K.B., 41, Colorado Springs, CO

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First, know that you've experienced a huge blow and that your feelings of despair are perfectly normal. You've lost not only your man but also your marriage, which is a tiny civilization with a culture and customs of its own. I say this not to make you feel worse but to help you respect yourself and these bleak feelings during what you'll look back on as one of the most difficult times of your life.

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By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

Why does my husband remember so many things about sports but nothing I told him yesterday? -Redbook reader

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DEAR REDBOOK READER:

Our relationship with sports predates our relationship with you by many, many years. I remember exactly where I was when the Phillies lost the 1993 World Series; I know who I was with and what I did when the Eagles converted fourth and 26 against the Green Bay Packers (I jumped on my friend's back and rode him around my living room). We've been fluent in sports forever, whereas we've only been speaking feelings and to-do lists for a few years. So sometimes we go blank, like a poor student in Spanish class who zones out because he can't follow. Example: My wife, Karel, says, "When Jane and Garth actually get married, they'll discover how it changes their relationship." And I think, I didn't even know Jane and Garth weren't married. Better say "Yup" so she thinks I'm still here.

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