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by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

I recently read what you had to say about a guy watching porn is not a big deal, and I agree with you. Here's my question: Is it okay for your husband to look up the women he works with on Facebook? What about his exes? Is it okay for your husband to look up the women he works with on Facebook? What about his exes? -Sara

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DEAR SARA: It's interesting that you're equating porn with Facebook, but I guess I understand where you're coming from. Both porn and Facebook are about on-line voyeurism, since Facebook can be as much about sneaking a peek into someone life as it is about staying in touch.

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Do you think your husband is trying to stay in touch with these women? Does he want to interact with them online? And if so, would you be okay with that? Or, is he lurking on his female co-workers' and exes' FB pages for a bit of an illicit thrill- getting a kick out of

by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

Raise your hand if you knew Charlie Sheen has five kids? Yeah, me neither. I can tell you about his love life (cohabiting with two "goddesses"/porn stars) and his alcoholism ("cured" with the power of his mind) and his work (um, fired) and even his ex-wives (remember when Denise Richards looked like the crazy one?) but something is getting lost in his media-saturated circle around the drain. What's going on with the kids?

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His toddler twins with ex Brooke Mueller made the news recently but only in the context of him losing custody of them and how well the goddesses are bonding with them. His daughters with ex Denise Richards are living with their mother and even farther from the limelight. And what of his other child? Apparently he has a 26-year-old daughter with ex Paula Speers. Who knew?

So how are his kids doing? People magazine has an article on stands today to answer this question with vaguely

by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

I have a dilemma. My husband and I have a Novia Scotia Duck Toller. He's 3 years old, and his name is Bosco.

My husband absolutely refuses to leave the dog home when we go out. On the rare occasion when we go shopping and leave the dog at home, it's like "beat the clock." My husband says that Bosco is a pack animal and he needs to be with the pack. The last time I checked, I don't pee outside, so I don't know what pack he's talking about. Bosco sleeps in our bedroom, and if I should get up to go to the bathroom (indoors) I'll come back to find Bosco with his head on my pillow sleeping next to my husband. "Do you want room service? Maybe a Mimosa?!"

Am I crazy?

-Vicki

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DEAR VICKI:

I used to have a weird animal thing. Every time my wife Karel went out of town in the spring she would come back to find a crate full of stray kittens in our small bedroom. It's not hard to find packs of stray kittens

by Ava Feuer, REDBOOK

Those who are convinced that their good dishes, throw pillows, and stationary are worth a fortune may be suffering loneliness and insecurity.

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Say what? A new study appearing in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that the stronger a person's sense that she is loved and accepted by others, the lower the monetary value she places on material goods. When researchers gave participants simple items like a pen or a blanket, those with weaker interpersonal relationships assigned the objects values up to five times greater than those with stronger bonds.

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Researchers suggest that their study could be useful in understand people with hoarding disorders, and on a lesser scale, classic packrats.

It makes sense because to some degree, we all take comfort in their possessions. But, in your experience, do the findings hold true?

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by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

On April 29, 2011 Kate Middleton will pull a real-life Cinderella when she marries her Prince Charming William What's-his-last-name. (Honestly is anyone that interested in the Prince? Will he be wearing a designer gown? Millions of pounds worth of diamonds? Then no.) Women the world over will be able to vicariously live out their dormant princess dreams as they watch a second princess walk down the aisle.

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I was only three years old when Princess Di wed Prince Charles in the "wedding of the century," so I don't remember much about the details (really poofy dress?) but one lesson made a huge impact on my little brain: Princesses are real. And I'm not the only one who was transformed, even if just for a night, by the fantastical vision. Whether they were tiny tots like me or old enough to stay up all night at a sleepover, women remember Diana Spencer, Princess of Wales.

"I was in middle school, a gawky

by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

Weddings can be awkward. It's hard enough to know what to say to your cousin's wife's niece - put "lovely" "beautiful" and "perfect" into a Mad Lib creator and you'll be golden - but when the wedding is in another country things get even more complicated. Fortunately for us, the Royal Wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton is at least in a country where they speak our language. Sort of.

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Not on the royal guest list? Don't even know anyone in England? At least you can fake it with this handy guide to British wedding-appropriate phrases translated for your entertainment and enlightenment.

1. What they say: I'm chuffed to bits!
Translation: Congratulations! And not in the pregnancy way!

2. What they say: Your gown is smashing! Absolutely brill!
Translation: Your dress is so cute.

3. What they say: Your wedding china takes the biscuit!
Translation: Why are there people outside selling plates with

My husband of three years and I separated six months ago. After a lot of debate, I've decided to start dating again. We won't technically be divorced until New Jersey tells us we are, so is it wrong for me to put myself out there? - A.J., 32, Freehold, NJ

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It's not wrong if you're upfront about your situation. If you meet someone you like, you owe it to him to let him know that you're separated but not divorced. This gives him the chance to decide whether he wants to continue seeing you. Even if you feel 100-percent certain that the divorce will happen, the other person has to decide for himself if he's comfortable with that.

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As for your own mental state, keep the debate going. You may start dating and think, Wait, maybe I'm not ready for this. You can change your mind. Almost all of life's big transitions involve three steps forward and two steps back. Keep this in mind as you start to

by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

I've been talking to a guy for two months and seeing him for a month. He seems very interested and has sent me lunch and flowers, picked me up from work, and driven hours to my company and home just to see me or give me a kiss. The problem is that he only comes to my 'hood. He never takes me to his work, home, or even neighborhood. He lives in Manhattan, and I live in Brooklyn. Is he hiding something? -Janie

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DEAR JANIE :

If it's only been a month of dating, I wouldn't sweat it too much. A month is nothing when you're getting to know someone. After a month of hanging out with my wife Karel, I don't even think she knew my last name. But even though there were huge gaps in our knowledge about each other, it all worked out, and we were married a year after we met.

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But it feels a little like you're asking me to see the future, and as my bookie, Angry