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My husband is very handy and will do anything for anyone - except at home. I understand that he works hard and is tired at the end of the day. So am I, but I still fix dinner and do laundry, etc. I don't ever ask him to help with the housework, but I do ask him to do little fix-its. He always tells me he'll do it Saturday, then never does. It's very annoying that he won't ever help out. How can I let him know how much this bothers me in a tactful way? - S.H., 28, Salt Lake City

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Forget letting him know that it bothers you. He already knows. He knows and, I hate to say it, he doesn't much care - because whatever little fix-it you want him to do, there's always going to be another one down the pike. Unless the house is on fire, there really is no reason for him to hop to. The only thing that has a prayer of working is to turn your way of thinking completely around. Forget what he doesn't do and focus on what he does do.

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by Jessica Smith, REDBOOK

Asparagus is one awesome veggie! At only 4 calories per stalk, asparagus is high in vitamins A, B and C, and also contains potassium, which can help counter sodium in the body, says Christen Cooper, a Registered Dietitian and owner of Cooper Nutrition and Communications in Pleasantville, New York.
Not to mention, did you know that asparagus is also presumed to be an aphrodisiac as well?
Get cooking with asparagus today with our top 5 favorite recipes:

1) Quick Asparagus Crêpes An elegant way to serve the stalks, these crepes are delicious and will impress guests (but are super quick and easy to make).

2) Asparagus Tart Turn asparagus into the main course with this quiche-like recipe.

3) Asparagus and Gruyère Omelet Add a vitamin boost to your typical egg breakfast with this elegant omelet.

4) Thai Salmon with Roasted Sesame Asparagus Sex up your asparagus side dish with this delish recipe..

5) Prosciutto-Wrapped Asparagus This delicious combo of

I have been with my husband for 17 years. We have a teenage son and a great relationship. For the last five months I have been talking to a coworker (he's also married) who works in a different state. At first it was harmless flirting, then calls and texts, then petting during work-related visits to each other's branches. I just got back from a trip to his office. This time things went further than we expected, and it shocked us both. We started to have sex, but about two minutes in, the reality hit us and we stopped, swearing it would never happen again. I don't understand what is going on. I adore my husband and don't want to leave him. But I cannot get past being so desired by someone that it defies all we know is right. I am not speaking to this man anymore on a personal level - strictly business - but how do I make sure this doesn't happen again? Is something missing from my marriage? Why am I not feeling more remorse? Please help.
- R.H., 37, Dallas

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by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

Why won't men say they're sorry? "I'm sorry you're upset" doesn't count! - Redbook reader

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DEAR REDBOOK READER: We're stubborn. Saying sorry is admitting we're wrong and that we take responsibility for whatever is blowing up in our relationship or our life. In fact, the wronger I know I am, the less likely I am to say, "I'm sorry." Chalk it up to the "man of the house" hangover, but many of us still struggle with the idea that our word is no longer the final word. We are a generation of guys who saw that our grandfathers, and in some cases our fathers, never had to apologize to their wives for anything, even when it was obvious to everyone they were wrong. Progress is hard. Um, sorry.

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by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

Should I be worried if my husband has an "office wife"? - Worried reader

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DEAR WORRIED READER: I would be if I discovered that Karel had another spouse, office or otherwise. I think a guy's asking for trouble at home and at work if he has a relationship with a colleague that is intimate enough to involve the word wife. Men aren't always good at answering tough relationship questions, like: Is it okay for me to go out to lunch alone with my "office wife"? What about drinks after work, even with a group? Is it awkward if we have to travel together? Will coworkers get the wrong idea? Hell, I'm not sure even a woman could answer these, which is why I prefer to leave all forms of polygamy to Big Love.

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My husband is a wonderful person, but he's also a mama's boy. He can't make decisions without his mother, and whenever I have a different opinion from him and his family, he tends to side with them to protect their feelings. I feel rejected and that I'm not being given the respect I deserve from him. How do I resolve this? - R.T., 30, Maryville, MO

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Step One: Don't use the term mama's boy. It's derogatory and emasculating, and you'll never be able to resolve the situation or look at your husband with respect (not to mention lust) if you think of him in those terms. So, let's rechristen him as caring guy who loves his family but just hasn't gotten the message that the wife, and her wishes, come first.

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Have you talked to your husband about this? And by "talked," I mean at a time when you're feeling happy and connected and not after he's just sided with Mom and you're mad enough to throw a plate at his head. If

First, let us get your attention: A whopping one in five high schoolers has taken a prescription drug like Vicodin or Oxycontin that wasn't prescribed for them. And 41 percent of teens mistakenly believe that it's safer to use Rx meds to get high than to use illicit drugs like cocaine or heroin. "Look in our medicine cabinets, they're filled with this stuff," Drew Pinsky, M.D., addiction specialist and host of Celebrity Rehab told REDBOOK. "Every kid knows someone who's on a psychosocial drug. They think, how dangerous could they be? But how many celebrities have to die of this before we get this message?"

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In the past several years, Heath Ledger, Brittany Murphy, Michael Jackson, and Anna Nicole Smith have all died suddenly after accidentally ingesting a deadly concoction of prescription drugs. "I was raised by a general practitioner who used to tell me that medications are something you use only when the risk is warranted-he made sure I knew

To drink or not to drink? That is the question that many soon-to-be moms are faced with during pregnancy. Do you think drinking-no matter how little-puts your unborn baby at harm? Or is a glass of wine or a mixed drink okay once or twice a week?

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A recent study released in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health reveals, "at age 5 years [children] born to mothers who drank up to 1 to 2 drinks per week or per occasion during pregnancy were not at increased risk of clinically relevant behavioral difficulties or cognitive deficits compared with children of mothers [who abstained from drinking throughout their entire pregnancy].

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These findings aren't swaying all doctors, some are concerned that the study could be sending the wrong message to mothers. Dr. Michael Katz, senior vice president for Research and Global Programs with March of Dimes says, "You can walk on a railroad track and not be hit