By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK
DEAR WHYS GUY:
I have been with my boyfriend for four years now. And for the past two years, he's been saying things like, "When we're married..." or, "I'll have to make you my wife soon." But he shows no sign of actually committing to getting married. About a year ago, we went through a really rough time and almost broke up. In order to keep our relationship intact, he actually proposed. The problem is that he planned it about two hours beforehand, and he asked me while we were in a huge fight, and he did not have a ring. After I accepted, he asked me not to tell anyone-he wanted to wait to tell our friends and family when the time was right. I agreed to this. Since then, every time I bring it up, he avoids the issue or gives me an excuse: He's too busy or it isn't a good time to talk about it. He introduces me to everyone as his girlfriend, and when we are in public around guys, he makes jokes about how bad marriage is.
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