If you could say anything to a former flame, what would it be? I miss you? Thank you? How could you?
My most serious ex (read: we dated for two years, and I practically lived at his apartment) and I have recently started to talk over IM more, so this is a topic I've been thinking a lot about.
I ended our relationship pretty abruptly - sorta grabbed my things and stormed out one morning there - so, many things went unsaid. It's two and a half years later now, we're both seeing new people, and I think we both have more perspective. He asked me if I wanted to get a drink with him this week, and I agreed, but I'm wondering how the conversation will go. Will we apologize to each other? Reminisce? Rehash old arguments?
In his new book, Dear Old Love, Andy Selsberg compiled people's sentimental, indignant, outrageous - and anonymous - notes to former crushes and loves. Here are some potent snippets:
"You are the only person I ever enjoyed kissing."
"'I love you' doesn't count if you can
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- Redbook | Love + Sex – Tue, Oct 27, 2009 8:38 PM EDT
If you could say anything to a former flame, what would it be? I miss you? Thank you? How could you?Read More »from If You Could Say *Anything* to an Ex, What Would It Be?
5 Cancer Myths -- Busted!Cancer's scary enough without the overwhelming amount of information out there about its triggers and treatments. Read on to separate the fear from the facts.
The myth: Cell phone use causes cancer.
Gab all you want: Talking on your cell phone won't fill your brain with tumors, research confirms. "The radio waves emitted by cell phones are more akin to the electromagnetic waves that your television emits than to ionizing radiations such as X-rays. They are not known to cause cancer in animals or transform cells in culture," says John D. Boice Jr., scientific director of the International Epidemiology Institute, who conducted the largest long-term study about cell phone use and cancer. Ditto for the rates of brain tumors, which have not increased in the general population during the last 20 years, despite the massive proliferation of cell phones in that time.
- The myth: Women with a family history of breast cancer can stop worrying if they test negative for the
- The myth: Cell phone use causes cancer.
SURPRISING SEX FACT: Men - yes, men - crave more foreplay, according to a study from the University of New Brunswick, Canada. In the study, women assumed their partner wanted 13 minutes tops, while lo and behold, men claimed that 18 minutes was ideal. In other words, it pays to take your sweet time and indulge in the sensual smorgasboard foreplay can be.
Foreplay isn't just a tepid warm-up, it's where it's at. When else can you devote 100% of your efforts to getting in tune with each other's bodies and all but guarantee that what follows next will be more explosive than you'd ever imagined? These illuminating insights from the mouths of men reveal the moves that get their erotic engines humming. Here are some fun ways to prolong the agony and get him all riled up!
- "Recently my sweetheart got me a gift certificate to Victoria's Secret. She said, 'Let's go shopping - and you can buy anything you want me to wear.' Being allowed to call the shots on the purchases we made was an amazing
I'm not the best at what most people would consider traditional "flirting." Neither the giggly girl thing nor the Jessica Rabbit sultry siren thing has ever felt right on me, so my default flirting mode is to basically to make wisecracks and tease my crush object mercilessly (I'm like a grade-school boy that way). Sure, I'll inch closer during the evening, make direct eye contact, maybe even go so far as to initiate some casual touching (the forearm or the shoulder), but I think what I'm missing is a physical component to my flirting. I think that's why I found some of the advice in this article - 53 Ways to Look and Feel Sexier - so interesting.Read More »from 6 Flirty Moves to Try on Any Man (Even Your Own!)
Normally, I might think tips like these are too coy, but they're fun to experiment with if you don't take them too seriously. And if you're subtle about it, they work - because (as the author points out) they're just meant to make you feel sexy doing them, and when you feel sexy, you project sexy: "Just moving, talking and thinking in a
Stephanie Robin, 41, hasn't let breast cancer stop her from rocking out. In fact, you might say the Boca Raton mother of two is rocking even harder these days because of breast cancer.Read More »from How to Rock Back at Breast Cancer
As a result of her own fight with stage IV metastatic breast cancer, Stephanie Robin has become a powerful role model and advocate. With the help of her friend Elizabeth Weprin, Robin founded THINK PINK, a breast cancer organization with two central missions: to raise awareness for early detection through genetic testing for the breast cancer gene (BRCA) - and to raise funds for screening, treatment, and research.
Last weekend, THINK PINK held their 2nd Annual THINK PINK ROCKS charity concert. Presented by Steve Rifkind and SRC/Universal Records at the Mizner Park Amphitheater in Boca Raton, FL, the event featured performances from hot recording artists like Akon, Shontelle, Melanie Fiona, and American Yard. But the real music to Robin's ears? Four thousand people attended the show, and all the
Feeling fatigued? Here are 10 simple energy solutions.
1. Go for a walk.Read More »from 10 Instant Ways to Get More Energy
"Less than 25 percent of my female patients get enough exercise to feel energized," says Ann Kulze, M.D., author of Dr. Ann's 10 Step Diet. Aim for 30 minutes of activity, five days a week.
2. Snack on nuts, not sweets.
Sugary snacks cause blood sugar levels to spike, then crash, leaving you wiped out, says Jacob Teitelbaum, M.D., medical director of the Fibromyalgia and Fatigue Centers. But the protein in nuts digests slowly for lasting energy.
3. Pop a mint.
The smell of mint ups alertness by stimulating your trigeminal nerve, "the same nerve that's activated by smelling salts," says Alan Hirsch, M.D., director of Chicago's Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation.
4. Give yourself a massage.
Massage your ears for 15 to 30 seconds, suggests Teitelbaum. This stimulates energizing acupuncture points for a quick mental boost.
5. Have a banana.
Bananas provide potassium,
Can a giant cupcake fight breast cancer? The answer is a resounding yes - if you slice it and serve it up to folks for charitable donations, that is!Read More »from Can a Cupcake Fight Breast Cancer?
This towering toothsome delight (5-feet tall and 4-feet wide, to be precise) was dished out during the pink carpet ceremonies preceding last weekend's 2nd Annual THINK PINK ROCKS charity concert in Boca Raton, FL.
The THINK PINK founders, breast cancer survivor Stephanie Robin and her friend Elizabeth Weprin, developed the concert to raise awareness for the Breast Cancer Gene (BRCA) and fund breast cancer charities.
World's Largest Cupcake — and for a Good Cause
Just how colossal was the cupcake? Commissioned by Global TV Concepts and Big Top Cupcake and baked by Boca Raton's Passion for Pastry, the treat weighed in at 1,316 pounds - earning it the title of World's Largest Cupcake. A Guinness World Records representative was even on hand to proclaim the new record.
Before you attempt to whip up your own ginormous goody, take a look at the photos (below), and get a load of these
- Redbook | Work + Money – Fri, Oct 2, 2009 9:45 PM EDT
1. Having one drink (or more) a day.Read More »from Will You Get Breast Cancer? 5 Things That May Increase Your Risk
Women who have one alcoholic drink every day up their chances of getting breast cancer by about 9 percent from those of women who don't drink at all, according to a 1998 study done at the Harvard Medical School of Public Health in Boston. "We found that breast-cancer risk increased by about 9 percent for every daily drink consumed," explains study author and Harvard epidemiologist Stephanie Smith-Warner, Ph.D. In other words, regularly downing two glasses of wine a night increases your risk for breast cancer by about 18 percent; three a night raises your risk by 27 percent. So is it safe to drink at all? Yes, in moderation, says Rache Simmons, a breast surgeon at the New York Presbyterian Weill Cornell Medical Center. "I'd recommend limiting your intake to a drink a day."
RELATED: Try these delicious non-alcoholic sippers instead!
2. Piling on the pounds.
Carrying extra weight means more than being self-conscious in a bathing suit: It may actually
- Redbook | Shine Food – Tue, Sep 22, 2009 10:37 PM EDT
Healthy OilsSmart women know they need some fat in their diet. "But moderation is key - all oils have about 120 calories and 14 grams of fat per tablespoon," says nutritionist Ellie Krieger, R.D., host of Healthy Appetite on the Food Network. She suggests sticking to about two teaspoons of added fat per meal - and cooking with a variety of oils, since they all offer different body benefits.
Here are some of the best kinds, plus delicious ways to get them in your diet.
Why it's healthy: Of all the oils, olive has the highest amount of heart-protective monounsaturated fats and polyphenols - antioxidants that have anti-inflammatory and anticlotting properties. It's also a staple of the Mediterranean diet, which has been shown to lower your risk of heart disease, lengthen your life, reduce your odds of cancer and diabetes, and help you lose weight.
What it's best for: Let extra-virgin olive oil's strong flavor shine though in salad dressings, on bread, or atop grilled meats,
- Olive Oil
Walking is a great calorie-burning cardio workout, but adding a strength-training element to your routine can help you target and tone trouble zones even faster.Read More »from 5 Simple Ways to Tone Your Trouble Zones
"Working different muscle groups while you walk builds fat-burning lean muscle mass," says Amie Hoff, fitness consultant for New York Sports Clubs in Manhattan.
Warm up by walking at your normal pace for five minutes, then pick up the pace for another five minutes. Do one set of each of the moves below; between sets, do two minutes of fast walking. Repeat the cycle to complete a second set of each move, then cool down by walking at a medium pace for five minutes.
Throughout the workout, remember to keep your abs tight, which will help firm up the belly, says Hoff. And bend your arms at a 90-degree angle and pump them while you walk: this helps increase your speed and calorie burn while strengthening the biceps.
Walk like a crab
Targets: inner and outer thighs
Turn to your left and walk sideways for 30 seconds by crossing