Everybody comes into a relationship dragging along issues from their past, but - if handled well - those lingering issues can actually bring you closer together. Here's how to make those skeletons work for you. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.
The conflict: His jealous streak is making you shut down
He once confided that his father was a womanizer, and he thinks he may have cheated on his mother. It seems like he's moved past it, but some recent behavior is making you feel otherwise. "Lingering insecurity can show up in seemingly unconnected ways," explains Dr. Tammy Nelson, a couples psychotherapist and author of The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity. "He may put you in situations that feel like a test. For example, he asks you to meet him out after work, but then shows up later than expected to see if you get lured in to talking to another man while you're waiting." To keep the peace, you may find yourself shutting down or rearranging your schedule to spend more
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Everybody comes into a relationship dragging along issues from their past, but - if handled well - those lingering issues can actually bring you closer together. Here's how to make those skeletons work for you. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from How Emotional Baggage Can Improve Your Marriage
Face masks are the fast pass to a clearer, more radiant complexion. Here, the pros share their secret DIY recipes -- using ingredients you've already got in your kitchen. By Cristina Mueller, REDBOOK.Read More »from 5 Skin Fixes You Already Have in Your Fridge
Prep your face
A mask is one of the fastest ways to get a healthy glow because it delivers a potent dose of ingredients into your skin," says Francesca Fusco, M.D., an assistant clinical professor of dermatology at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York City. You can apply a mask as often as once a week, but whether you whip up your own at home or buy one at the store, make sure to cleanse and gently exfoliate your skin first, which makes it easier for the ingredients to sink in. (The old advice about steaming your face? Experts say it's just not necessary.)
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Slather on a hydrating mask--it'll make you look dewy, and it plumps up lines so they're harder to see. Create your own in minutes with this recipe from famed Los Angeles
- Redbook | Love + Sex – Thu, Jan 24, 2013 10:14 AM EST
Yes, what he sees has changed, but that doesn't mean how he feels about you has. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from What Your Husband's Thinking when He Sees You Naked, Now
"After being married for half a decade and having two kids, I still look at my wife each and every day and am amazed at how hot she is. I always think, 'Thank goodness I am an overachiever!'" - Mike B., 42
"How did I get so lucky? Of all the men in the world she picked me. Woot Woot!" - Ben Y., 36
"When I see my bride of 16 years naked, I think of poetry in motion! I invested in a high-end photographer for her 40th birthday. He took some stunning nude photos-one is on our wall in the bedroom. We both believe in living happily ever after and - in spite of two young children and a thriving business - we both do our best to stay lean and fit for ourselves and each other." - Evan Money, 42, who is remarrying his wife in different state or country every year and documenting it on EvanLovesSusan.com
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"When I look at my four-months pregnant wife,
Yes, it's freezing out, but if you find yourself refusing to go anywhere without the throw blanket wrapped around you, it might not just be your husband's sneaky habit of turning the thermostat down - one of these ailments could be throwing your internal temperature for a loop. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from The Real Reason You're Always Cold
Your thyroid is stuck on slow mode
The thyroid gland controls metabolism, and if it's underactive, you may be chilly more often than not. "Standard blood tests miss low thyroid in about half of people," says Jacob Teitelbaum, MD, author of From Fatigued to Fantastic! If the test comes back normal, but you're still having trouble, you may want to ask a holistic doctor for a second opinion. He or she may try prescribing thyroid medication anyway to see if it works. Find a board-certified doctor here.
You're not getting enough iron
Iron is needed to deliver oxygen to your cells for energy, and low levels could explain why you're feeling cold. "If you're not making enough
The President has been sworn in. The choirs have sung; the people have cheered. There was magic in the air, and hope abounded across the nation. But after the celebratory hugs and kisses and the inauguration ball, the moms have spoken. And, no matter what party we're affiliated with or for whom we voted in the election, here's what my Facebook friends are looking for during President Obama's second term in The White House:
On gun control laws:
"Creating laws that protect the innocent against gun-happy maniacs is something that this country desperately needs. At the moment, anyone can get a gun, even the mentally unstable. We need to find a way to keep assault weapons out of the hands of civilians, and anyone who owns a gun needs to be thoroughly screened, and then held accountable for that weapon." - Anonymous from Atlanta, Georgia
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"Healthcare is an extremely important issue [to me]. Half of my paycheck each week goes to family health
- For every schmancy wrinkle cream that promises to eliminate the signs of aging overnight, there's one every day product that really does deliver instant results: a great foundation. It can even out your skin tone, boost moisture, and disguise wrinkles. Plus, many now contain potent anti-agers, so you'll look good without makeup too. Read on and reap the benefits. By Krista Bennett DeMaio, REDBOOK.
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With the flu reaching epidemic proportion, there's a good chance your guy will get sick. When he does, and regresses to age five, know that it may not be all in his head. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from Why Men Are Babies when They're Sick
Does it annoy you that a measly cold is enough to turn your guy into a whining, moaning child while you're expected to carry on with your daily routine despite having the sniffles? Well, we hate to say it, but maybe it isn't just an excuse: half of guys describe a common cold as "the flu," and upgrade headaches to migraine status, according to The Engage Mutual survey. Moreover, women report that 57 percent of men seek attention and sympathy when sick, and that two-thirds of men whine and complain. Before you exclaim that real pain is birthing an eight-pound baby, check out these mental and physical factors that may make men more likely to exaggerate their illnesses.
Women may be better able to battle germs
There may be actual science behind the stereotype that a man makes a cold sound
Your days are like your dollars -- if you don't have a plan for them, they have a way of disappearing. To take control and manage your time, audit your week to carve out space for your priorities while rooting out time-wasters. By Christina Breda Antoniades, REDBOOK.Read More »from Brilliant Idea: Make a Time Budget
Manage your time
You meant to spend the morning prepping for a meeting. But first you opened email--and now it's noon. "People focus on what's in front of them and forget everything else," says David Allen, the author of Getting Things Done. "All their energy goes toward patching cracks and catching up. They never get ahead." Break that cycle by treating your time like it's money.
Spend a week tracking how you spend your time now. "Chances are, you'll be shocked," says Julie Morgenstern, the author of Time Management From the Inside Out.
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Tally your "expenses"
Put your commitments into a few broad categories--think family, career, hobbies, housework,
Why did we tap these particular pairs for their wisdom? Because when you've been together longer than you've had a driver's license, you learn some incredible lessons along the way. REDBOOK.Read More »from How to Make a Marriage Last: Real Couple Secrets
''Prioritize time for yourselves. My husband's hobby is running and mine is performing stand-up comedy. We plan vacations around his marathons, and he attends all of my shows. We love our date nights, but everyone needs something that matters just to them." -- Caroline and Scott Ceniza Levine, together since they were 17
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''Humor feeds our minds, so we try to keep each other laughing. We send silly texts and pictures all day long to make each other smile." -- Abbie Gale and James Sancrant, together since they were 18
'' Our marriage is successful in no small part due to couples therapy. It's the best money we've ever spent. Sometimes another set of eyes on your relationship can help you untangle the things that seem impossible." -- Cynthia and Frank Bailey,
The New Year can kick-start a lot of worthy projects, from clearing out your inbox to liberating your fridge of wait-is-that-cheesecake? But we can all agree that love is more important than any overdue expense report. "Even the strongest relationships can do with a little tidy-up now and then," Jill P. Weber, Ph.D. and author of the upcoming book Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy, wisely points out. And since nobody has time for a full-on couples retreat (good luck convincing your guy to do one of those anyway), we've narrowed it down to one week and nine no-biggie steps. The reward? Happiness. By Ayana Byrd, REDBOOK.Read More »from Break Your Bad Relationship Habits
Monday: Swap chores.
You know the way you despise the dinner dishes? Well, that's probably the way your husband feels about walking the dog, so make a trade and take on his busywork. Turns out, people in strong relationships spend time thinking about how to make life easier for each other. "A single thoughtful act sets the tone for more positive interactions," says