Lisa Spindler Photography Inc./Getty ImagesA new baby can not only bring tremendous joy into a family, it can cause a considerable amount of strife. Older siblings may have a tougher time adjusting than mom and dad. We asked REDBOOK readers to share their best tips on how to ease the transition. Here's what they had to say:
"My daughter, Brenna, now 7, was 5 when I gave birth to Scott. Instead of pushing her to take on her big-sister role, we focused on keeping her individual life as routine as possible: She kept up her schedule of playdates and activities, and we let her dictate when and how much she wanted to be involved with Scott. At first Brenna didn't acknowledge her new brother very much, but when she realized that the structure of her life didn't have to change, she warmed up to him and began asking to hold him or feed him a bottle, and now she loves Scott very much. I think our approach helped mitigate some of the competition for attention that's common when a new sibling arrives."
--Ellen Bremen, 40, Seattle
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Lisa Spindler Photography Inc./Getty ImagesA new baby can not only bring tremendous joy into a family, it can cause a considerable amount of strife. Older siblings may have a tougher time adjusting than mom and dad. We asked REDBOOK readers to share their best tips on how to ease the transition. Here's what they had to say:Read More »from How to Help Your Child Adjust to a New Sibling
Photo Credit: AsiaPix/Getty ImagesDo you have a secret money stash? You need and deserve one - so start now.Read More »from 3 Steps That Will Save You $1000 This Year
I'm pretty sure you have $3 in your wallet - or a jeans pocket, or your glove compartment, or balled up between the couch cushions. Here's what I want you to do with it: Get rid of will-I-wind-up-a-bag-lady anxiety forever. Many women I speak to say they're terrified of not having enough money put aside to take care of themselves when they're old. And they have reason to be worried: Twice as many women as men are poor in old age, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, and females have 40 percent less saved in retirement accounts than male officemates. Plus, women in the United States live an average of five years longer than men. You're nowhere near old age, but it's time to save some money for you and you alone. With my plan, you won't even miss it.
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STEP 1: Starting this week, put aside $3 a day (weekends too!) for the entire year. You can slip three bucks into an
- Redbook | Parenting – Tue, Jan 18, 2011 5:59 PM EST
Photo credit: Denis Felix/CorbisIs your child biting, throwing tantrums, teasing his sister, or giving you attitude? Hang in there - there are solutions. Here, experts share what to do about 8 real-kid behavior problems.Read More »from Kids Gone Wild: 8 Real-Kid Behavior Problems and How to Fix â€˜Em
1. Teasing Siblings
"My 8-year-old son teases his 3-year-old sister. He'll bug her and touch her until she goes nuts, or he takes away her favorite toys." - Jill Bigelow, 38, Brooklyn
Most teasing is simply part of the way brothers and sisters engage with each other, says Alec L. Miller, Psy.D., chief of child and adolescent psychology at Montefiore Medical Center/Albert Einstein College of Medicine in Bronx, NY. Siblings tease because they're comfortable enough with each other to say and do things they'd never try out on a friend. That said, a constant refrain of "Mom! She's breathing on me!" is never pleasant. Focus first on the tease-ee, says Miller. Empathize with her, then tell her that the two of you will just ignore the teaser. As for the teaser, try some behavior-modification techniques: He
An astounding seven out of 10 children aren't getting enough z's. Here, five top children's sleep-stealers, plus smart strategies that ensure sound slumber for them - and for you.Read More »from 5 Things Ruining Your Childâ€™s Sleep Habits
Nearly 70 percent of kids under age 10 experience some type of sleep problem, according to the National Sleep Foundation. And although sleep needs naturally decrease by about 15 minutes on average every year (1-year-olds require almost 14 hours daily, while a 17-year-old needs at least 8.25 hours), a startling 80 percent of kids ages 11 to 17 get less than the recommended amount!
Unfortunately, lost sleep can do more than just leave kids groggy and grumpy. Studies show that children who are sleep-deprived are more likely to be depressed, to catch colds and flu, and to suffer accidents on the playground. Just one hour less of sleep a night causes measurable memory and concentration problems. Behavioral problems, such as whining and short tempers, also shoot up. In fact, the frenzied energy and lack of focus
Photo Credit: Stefan Witas/iStockIt's no surprise that only 1 in 50 kids eats a healthy diet (one that meets federal recommendations). But there are ways to turn your child into a healthy eater without turning you into the nutrition police. Here are 7 tricks nutritionists (and moms) swear by.Read More »from How to Raise a Healthy Eater
1. Get your kids into the kitchen.
Giving kids a say in what they're eating - from letting them pick out items at the grocery store to enlisting their aid in the kitchen - entices them to venture beyond hot dogs and macaroni and cheese. "Children feel important when they're asked to pitch in, and because they take pride in the finished product, they're more likely to have an open mind about eating it," says Christine Mastrangelo, R.D., a registered dietitian in Wakefield, MA.
2. Play with produce.
Don't fret if your child turns up her nose at the scrubby texture of broccoli or the slime factor of spinach - just give 'em to her in forms she'll find more appetizing. For instance, Medford, OR, mom Marcie Dixon's kids clamor for "
- Redbook | Parenting – Wed, Jan 12, 2011 4:58 PM EST
I wish I could write an apology to everyone on flight 274 from New York to Los Angeles last December 15. I was the one with the screaming 2-year-old. The 2-year-old who threw herself into the aisle, blocking the drink cart for 20 minutes. The 2-year-old whose piercing screams threatened to break glass. The 2-year-old who finally got back onto my lap only to wildly kick the seat back in front of us for a good 10 minutes (though it felt like hours).Read More »from 6 Ways To Tame Tantrums (Without Losing Your Cool)
Related: Read 7 Hilarious Tantrum Tales Here
Although some people flashed me that control-your-child glare, many more tried to help. The best advice came from my seatmate, a gray-haired mother of four and grandmother of nine: "Keep telling yourself that you'll laugh about this later," she said. And, yes, sometimes laughing is all you can do. But more often, though I didn't know it then, you can resolve a child's outrageous outbursts -- or even prevent them altogether.
Here are six steps that'll stop a tantrum in its tracks:
1. Make eye
Photo Credit: Thinkstock/GettyHere are three common tantrum-inducing situations and experts' step-by-step advice on how to cope.
TANTRUM TALE #1
"When my son, Corben, was 18 months old, he started screaming that he wanted to get out of the shopping cart. When I said no, he grabbed a loaf of bread from the cart and started shoving it in his mouth like he hadn't eaten in weeks! Then he grabbed some bananas and started shoving them in his mouth. Several women frowned at me as though I never fed my child. I was mortified." -Courtney L., Park Hills, MO
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The Tantrum Triggers:
- Overstimulation from the bright colors and the overwhelming amount of things to look at and touch
- Seeing things he wants but knows he can't have
Lay down the law. Before you go to the store, let your child know what's expected of him. For instance, say, "We're buying food for Dad's birthday dinner, not candy."
Throw in some fun. Keep your child from getting Read More »from How to Stop a Tantrum Before It Starts
- Redbook | Love + Sex – Tue, Jan 11, 2011 11:24 PM EST
By Marissa Gold, Redbook
Ending a long-term relationship is a sticky situation. Who gets dibs on your favorite restaurant? Who gets the dog? Who gets the couch? But sometimes, the most contentious question of all is: Who keeps which friends?
When you're a couple, you share things -- and people. You might witness the birth of nieces and nephews that you love like your own. You might genuinely adore his best friend or his sister, and pretty soon you've integrated two respective circles into what feels like one. But do these attachments last if the relationship doesn't? In most cases, the answer is no.
A breakup with a guy generally means a breakup with his friends and family, too. Does it mean you have to give them the stink eye across the room at a restaurant? No. Does it mean you have to ignore them if you run into them at the supermarket? No. But you both need to move on, and you each need the support of your own friends andRead More »from Breakup Etiquette: 3 Tips for Staying Friends with Your Ex's Friends
During the holiday season, it seems like a girl can't go anywhere without being confronted by a festive platter of cheese or a glass of eggnog. Is there any way to celebrate the holiday season without having to work off those "festive" pounds come January? We asked a few nutrition and fitness experts for ways to reward yourself without falling prey to holiday weight gain so the only extra stress you'll face will be your in-laws and airport pat-downs.
1. Give Yourself a Non-Food Treat
"Since when does 'treat" equal 'eat'?" asks nutritionist Ashley Koff. "Focus on the 'tr' in 'treat' with ideas such as: try a new type of massage (I love Thai massage), trek with a friend and go for a hike through the snow. trim your hair and get a fresh new hairstyle or trade off some errands with your spouse."Related: Hollywood Weight-Loss Secrets
2. Satisfy Your Sweet Tooth with Seasonal Fruits
"I know you are surrounded by cookies, candies and cakes, but also surround yourself withRead More »from 3 Holiday Treats That Prevent Weight Gain
You start out the holiday season with the best of budget intentions: You'll buy modest gifts (or even hand-make them!), keep the entertaining low-key, and stick to decorating with whatever you pull out from the basement. Once the festive spirit kicks in, though, it's tough to stick to that budget.Read More »from 13 Ways to Avoid Holiday Overspending
But listen up: This year can be different. You don't have to spend a lot to have a meaningful celebration. We asked REDBOOK readers like you for their best money-saving tips for all things holiday - from gifts and family activities to decorating and entertaining - and here are the all-stars.
1. "We sometimes host recipe parties. We provide the home, the atmosphere, the main dish, and beverages, and then each person brings a side dish or dessert with a handful of copies of their recipe. We keep a master cookbook with photos of the parties we've had through the years."
-Diane Graham, 44, Allentown, PA
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2. "We skimp on outdoor lights to keep