by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK
DEAR WHYS GUY:
My husband and I have been married for three years, and we have two children. I've noticed that my husband doesn't compliment me anymore, and when we're intimate, it's just, "Wham, bam, thank you, good night." I have tried talking to him about how we can make things better, but he doesn't seem to care. If you could give me a guy's perspective on the matter, it would be much appreciated. I miss the sparkle that used to come to his eyes when he saw me.
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I think a lot of people would tell you to switch things up in the bedroom or eighty-six the sweats and "dress to impress," just like you did when you first met your husband. And those are fine ideas. But you want a guy's perspective, so: I find that when I'm not complimenting Karel, or if I'm going through the motions sexually, it usually has more to do with me than Karel. I've figured out that the moments
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- Redbook | Love + Sex – Tue, Feb 8, 2011 4:54 PM EST
by Aaron Traister, REDBOOKRead More »from Dear Whys Guy: "How Can I Bring the Sparkle Back to My Marriage?"
by Molly Fergus, REDBOOK
Whether you've got a permanent Valentine by your side or are still trying to figure out if Cupid's arrow hit the bull's eye this time, a February 14 rendezvous marks the perfect occasion to step your style up a notch. We've rounded up three choices for the big day. How do you and your guy plan to celebrate?
1. Quiet dinner at homeRelated: Valentine's Day Plans Generator
The kids are tucked in and your man has fired up the oven (or phoned in for take-out) - lucky you! Take the extra time to doll yourself up with a comfy and flirty frock like this cocoa-colored jersey dress by Suzi Chin for Maggy Boutique. It's simple enough for staying at home, but the goddess-like draping adds a touch of sex appeal. ($139 at Nordstrom)
2. Fancy date out on the townRead More »from 3 Fresh Date Night Looks for Valentine's Day
Skip frilly red and pink dresses that scream "Valentine's Day!" and instead opt for sophisticated feminine style, like this Winter Lace Sheath from Talbots, paired with a bold
by Jessica Smith, REDBOOK
When you think of a heart healthy diet, you probably think of a low-fat, low-cholesterol, low-sodium (read: BLAND) foods. Not anymore! Here are five surprisingly heart-healthy foods to add to your diet:
According to one study done by the University of Scranton in Pennsylvania, popcorn was found to be the snack food that ranked highest in antioxidants and fiber. "Popcorn delivers polyphenols-antioxidants linked to improving heart health," says Registered Dietician Sharon Richter. "Gram for gram, popcorn boasts three times more polyphenols than kidney beans or cranberries." So pop some up next time you are in the mood for a snack-just go easy on the butter and salt so you don't negate all of your popcorn's heart healthy benefits.)
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Potatoes developed a bad reputation during the low-carb craze, but they are not only great for weight loss, but also heart health. "A RussetRead More »from 5 Foods That Are Surprisingly Good for Your Heart
- Redbook | Work + Money – Mon, Feb 7, 2011 6:04 PM EST
by Aaron Traister, REDBOOKRead More »from Dear Whys Guy: "How Can I Get My Hubby to Plan Something for Valentine's Day Without Being a Nag?"
DEAR WHYS GUY:
"I don't want to be high-maintenance, but every year, I'm a little disappointed by how little interest my husband shows in celebrating Valentine's Day. It would mean a lot to me if he'd put a little effort into planning something, but when the day rolls around, he asks me what I want to do that day rather than making reservations in advance or planning a surprise. How can I encourage him to plan something without being a nag?" - Eileen, New York
Related: The Real Reason Men Hate Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day is a pressure cooker for men. It makes our brain lock up and we can't make simple decisions because we're so worried about screwing up on "the special day." So inevitably we screw up on "the special day."
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So my advice to you? Don't make Valentine's Day the special day. Keep expectations low - a good movie together on the couch, a home-cooked meal, a
- Redbook | Parenting – Fri, Feb 4, 2011 5:55 PM EST
By Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOKRead More »from iPads at a Restaurant, DVD Players in Cars: Aren't Kids Ever Allowed to Be Bored?
"Tell the waitress what side you want," I prompted.
"Superman!" my son chirped happily. I sighed.
"You can have orange slices, carrots and dip or..."
"But they have 'Superman,' Mom! I want to watch 'Superman' too!"
I followed his finger pointing to the next table at the little Greek place my husband and I had picked for our weekly family dinner out. Sure enough, the kids at that table were glued to an episode of "The Justice League" playing on an iPad the parents had propped up against the condiment basket.
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"You guys giving out iPads in your kids' meals?" I asked the waitress wryly. She just laughed and walked away. During the meal, I couldn't stop looking over at the other table and neither could my kids. They were just as glued to the show as the intended recipients were.
"What do we do?" I asked my husband.
He shrugged, "At least they're quiet." True.
Every parent knows that the
- Redbook | Parenting – Fri, Feb 4, 2011 5:39 PM EST
I have nothing against friends and family offering advice when you come to them with a dilemma. It's the people who pipe up, unbidden, because they see you with a child and assume you have no idea what you're doing. Too often these people are elderly great-aunts. Fortunately those ladies are afraid of the Internet, so I can rail against them and they'll be none the wiser! Thanks, ladies.Read More »from The 10 Most Irritating, Least Helpful Parenting Tips Ever
1. "Sleep now, because once that baby comes you'll never sleep again." Technically this is a pregnancy tip, of course, but I'm shoving it in here anyway. Yes, Great-Aunt Hildy, I will sleep throughout my entire third trimester. Because I am part bear.
2. "Sleep when the baby sleeps." Everyone gives you this one - annoying relatives, pediatricians, the cashier at the drugstore where you were buying newborn diapers. Are these people all robots, capable of instantly dropping off to sleep whenever their child is unconscious? Do they not have other things to do, like bathe, or simply relish the rare moments
BloomImageIf you're used to getting unlimited cuddles and attention from your mommy, it can be quite a shock to have to share the love with a new baby - especially if you have four legs and a tail. "Dogs have a very well-developed jealousy bone," says Betsy Saul, founder of the animal-adoption database petfinder.com. But if you prepare in advance, Saul says, your pooch not only will accept the changes a new baby brings to your family, but she can even learn to love the baby like her own little pup.Read More »from How to Prepare Your Dog for a New Baby
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Prepare your pooch.
If there will be a new set of house rules - no sleeping in Mommy and Daddy's bed, no eating off the table - when the baby comes home, introduce them around your second trimester, Saul suggests. That way, Fido won't associate the rejection of getting kicked out of your bed with the baby's arrival.
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Take the stroller for a walk.
You might feel a little silly walking your dog down the
by Jessica Smith, REDBOOKRead More »from 7 Easy Ways to Bust out of Your Winter Funk
It's February. The fun of the holidays has worn off, that winter wonderland is no longer charming, and the cold? Well, its just getting old. Beat those winter blues with these 7 easy tricks.
1. Eat some sunshine. "One of the best ways to beat the winter blues is eating dark, leafy green vegetables like spinach, kale and collard greens. The chlorophyll of the green leaves is the literal energy of the sun, in edible form. Eat your sunshine and feel better," recommends nutrition and wellness coach Michelle Pfennighaus, CHC, RYT. If a salad doesn't sound that appealing in this weather, why not turn your greens into comfort food with one of Pfennighaus' yummy recipes for Kale Chips or Greens Gratin.
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2. Cheer up with some 'C'. Dig into some pineapples! With more than 130% percent RDV of vitamin C, they can help boost moods, especially during the winter when many people feel depressed or anxious due to a lack of exposure to
- Redbook | Parenting – Thu, Feb 3, 2011 5:02 PM EST
By Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOKRead More »from Do Traditional Parenting Roles Make Women Happier?
4:15 p.m. and my phone rings. It's my husband calling to tell me that he had a meeting suddenly come up at work and now he won't be home until late. The wrench, naturally, is that while I am a stay-at-home mom I do also work part-time from home and tonight I have to go to a meeting for my job. A meeting that starts in an hour and a half and I have four young kids currently hanging off me. "Sorry for the late notice," he says a little too glibly for my taste. "Can you find someone to watch them?" Can I find a babysitter on an hour's notice? My blood pressure skyrockets and I hang up abruptly.
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This scenario happens with some frequency and despite both of us being employed, like many women I'm always the one scrambling to adjust the schedule, make arrangements. Resentment: It's what's for dinner! Is it even worth trying to equally split the parenting duties or should I just accept that this is the way things are?
- Redbook | Healthy Living – Wed, Feb 2, 2011 5:32 PM EST
by Jessica Smith, REDBOOKRead More »from 7 Most Popular Super Bowl Snacks: Which to Skim and Which to Skip
Here's your game plan for surviving Super Bowl Sunday with your waistline intact. We've picked the seven Super Bowl snacks you are likely to see on Sunday, and show you which you can eat in moderation (skim it) and which to avoid altogether (skip it).
The Game Plan On game day, be sure to eat a fiber-filled breakfast (oatmeal is a great choice) and satisfying lunch (salad or soup and half a sandwich are great options) so you don't arrive to the party famished. Once you arrive at the party, you don't have to deprive yourself! We recommend picking three of your favorite SKIM IT options below and enjoying every bite. And remember you can keep munching on lower calorie fare like crudite, salad (just watch out for creamy dressings), fruit and salsa throughout the game.
1. Buffalo Wings Buffalo wings are typically deep-fried and served with high-fat blue cheese dressing, making one serving (four to six wings) add up to over 400 calories, says Christen Cooper, MS,