I don't know-call me frisky, but I feel like there's something so liberating about the weather (finally!) being warm. From dining al fresco (even if it is just leaning up against your local ice cream shop) to being able to stargaze after the sun goes down, the great outdoors makes everything a little bigger, a little brighter, maybe even a little more romantic.
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Here, to get started, is a list of sexy-summer activities. What do you think? What have you done?
1. Spread out a blanket and stargaze.
2. Make out in the back row of a movie theater.
3. Share a milk shake.
4. Get cozy in a rowboat at the local lake.
5. Steal away for a park-bench lunch together on a workday.
6. Enjoy carnival games on the boardwalk (then have some fun under the boardwalk).
7. When you get home from your day, kiss like you've been apart for a month.
8. Wear matching flip-flops.
9. Dedicate an entire day to being naked together.
Any more to add to the list?
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- Redbook | Summer Kids – Mon, Jul 27, 2009 9:28 PM EDT
I don't know-call me frisky, but I feel like there's something so liberating about the weather (finally!) being warm. From dining al fresco (even if it is just leaning up against your local ice cream shop) to being able to stargaze after the sun goes down, the great outdoors makes everything a little bigger, a little brighter, maybe even a little more romantic.Read More »from 9 Ways to Have a Summer Fling (with the guy you've already got!)
The other day, I noticed my bank account balance seemed a little higher than usual, not down to the precipitously low number it can sometimes dip down to right before a pay check comes in. Why was this? Did I get some windfall check I didn't remember depositing? Did I have some ATM fairy-godmother helping me out?Read More »from Love Don't Cost a Thing? Really?
No. I haven't been dating.
Even if I'm only paying for a beer or a glass of wine, dating is expensive. It's cab rides and a round of drinks and buying a new just-in-case dress. It's a bagel the next morning if I've had more than two glasses of wine (whenever I drink, I need heavy carbs the next AM to even seem halfway normal) and it's grandly offering to pay.
While I've cut back in some ways-I definitely no longer get a new wardrobe for a date-the $15 manicure or the $10 taxi adds up. I've also found-and I'm wondering if this is true for you-that men are much less willing or eager to pay on a date. This is something I'm actually fine with. I know a lot of people disagree,
When I was twenty, my best friend at the time got married. Her husband was seven years older and was in the army and had just gotten back from a tour and I COULD NOT understand why she was marrying him-she was so young!Read More »from Did You Ever Let a Guy Come in the Way of a Pal?
I also felt jealous and betrayed. I was single and confused and not sure what I was doing with my life, and she was getting married and seemed so happy. I wasn't very nice to her at all, she didn't put me in the wedding party (rightfully so!) and even though I went to her wedding, I wasn't as nice as I could have been.
We lost touch after that and she moved, but our parents remained friends. She had a baby this year, and I sent her a present, she sent a thank you, and we began slowly reconnecting via e-mail.
She and I really did grow up together. We would walk to school together, would carpool, and would spend hours talking. I went on her family vacations, we worked at the same summer job-a lot of time spent together, which is why I'd like to keep that channel of
You know how in movies and TV shows, it's the girl who has the one-liner zinger, combined with a condescending glare, who ends up having a guy fall at her feet? Think Sandra Bullock's character in The Proposal. Think about the way Meredith acted toward McDreamy in the first episode of Grey's Anatomy. Think any movie that takes place in a high school. The girl every guy wants is usually the one who makes the guy cringe the most, who publicly embarrasses them, who wants it to be as obvious as possible that she does not like the guy.Read More »from Why Do we Think the B*tch Always Get the Boy?
Then, it turns out she actually does like the guy, but just doesn't know what to do with her feelings, so it comes out in a funny one-liner.
Anyway, I'm wondering-do you have any REAL-LIFE examples of when a bitchy comment, gesture, or or glare actually works as a flirting technique?
The other night, I grabbed a glass of wine with my friend Annabelle. She's smart and pretty and funny and self-assured, and has the annoying tendency of unleashing
A friend of mine recently received a semi-panicked phone call from her ex. Apparently, he'd made a pork tenderloin, and, not wanting to throw the juice or the remaining, inedible pieces of meat into the trash, threw the remnants down the toilet, flushed, and-SURPRISE-clogged it.Read More »from The Unsolvable Mysteries of the Male Mind
He tried using water to unclog the pipes. He tried using a plunger. He even tried using a coat hanger to fish the pieces of meat out (and keep in mind that this is a man who lives in an apartment that has a sink, we're not talking about someone living in a remote cabin in the woods!) and then finally, he called his ex. Who told him to call a plumber.
We love men, but-admit it-sometimes, in their quest to get things taken care of with as little fuss as possible, they can go overboard. I once dated a guy who, instead of using pillowcases, put t-shirts on his pillows. All of his pillows had little sleeves-that way, he didn't have to worry about cleaning his bed linens. Another friend of mine once dated a man who
- Redbook | Work + Money – Wed, Jun 10, 2009 5:11 PM EDT
Obviously, if you've been following this blog, you know that I'm not getting married anytime soon. But I do have a lot of friends who are currently engaged and in the process of planning their weddings, and this is a question that's recently come up in a spate of conversations-I think especially with this economy.Read More »from How do You Tell a Pal They're Not Invited to a Wedding?
How do you let a pal know that they're not on the guest list to a wedding? We're talking about the people these girls genuinely enjoy having in their lives-the office buddies, the girls they meet up with for girl's nights, the ones who are in the orbit of their social circle-but who aren't their nearest and dearest and who-especially when you add in the plus ones-bring the total guest number to over the number they're comfortable with.
It's definitely happened to me before-and I think the thing that hurt the most about not being invited was more the fact that the bride didn't tell me herself, but waited for a friend to let me know. Honestly, it IS an awkward convo, but I so
I've recently realized I dress way more for girls than I do for guys. And by that I mean, the looks I love-flowy t-shirt dresses over leggings, plenty of pendant necklaces, feathery headbands-seem to be (based on my not-so-scientific survey of the men in my life) the looks that make guys think: too high-maintenance! does she have a bird in her hair? why isn't she showing her legs?Read More »from What Looks do You Love that Your Guy Hates?
And, sure enough, when I dress like that-the boho chick look-is when I seem to get the most compliments from girls. Meanwhile, I seem to get attention from guys when I go the less-is-more route: the little black dress, the simple chain necklace, even the low-slung boyfriend jeans.
And that observation does influence my dating life. When I go on first dates, I tend to dress conservatively pretty: a simple shirt with just a hint of cleavage, a knee-grazing skirt, and heels. At one point, in the height of a dating spree last summer, co-workers and friends could immediately tell I was going on a date simply
My friend works at a non-profit who's hosting a benefit party tomorrow night. I bought a ticket, because I think the organization itself is very, very cool (a not-for-profit org that teaches underprivileged kids how to play squash to help them get scholarships for college) and the money all goes to a good cause, and I was excited about hanging out with my friend, and I have a very cute black-and-white halter dress that I can't wait to wear.Read More »from How Do You Mingle When You're Single?
The only wrench in the plans? Turns out, my friend has to work the door for the majority of the evening. I only budgeted buying one ticket, so I can't buy another to ask a friend, and I know right now a lot of my friends are watching their budgets and I feel uncomfortable asking them to buy their own ticket, when essentially, it's just because I want company.
So, I'm hitting the soiree solo. And I have to say-I'm excited!
Surprisingly, when I'm hitting a party solo, I've found one of the things that makes me MOST confident is either not hitting
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I'm a consummate planner. I've had to-do lists since I was seven or eight, both of what I needed to get done that day and of dreams for the future. And so far, many of dreams/goals/things to do have all come true, no matter how specific or pointed. I work at a magazine, I've done a triathlon, I have a little star tattoo (ok, that's not really a "dream," but it had been something I'd wanted since I was twelve or thirteen and now, for better or worse, I have it forever).
And I also have a very firm idea in my head of the type of man I want to settle down with. I want him to be a creative or literary type, to be between the ages of 26 and 40, to not have an overly messy past/dating history, to have his finances in order (and I need to be perfectly clear and say I am not saying I'm looking for a wealthy man. Rather, I have my finances in order, and I do not want to date someone who I will have to bail out/who will become dependent on me), and he needs to live within 15 miles of me.
I am so lucky and thankful I have a job where I'm allowed to blog about the good, the bad, and the confusing about my dating and social life. And I definitely read all the comments-and take a lot of the incisive, constructive ones to heart. (for example, you all were instrumental in me re-vamping my online profile)Read More »from Do You Blog about Beaus?
I'm also thankful that none of the men I've dated have known about my blog. It's allowed me to be free, to talk about what's going on with them, to seek out opinions and then to cut them loose. In fact, only one time did a guy I date know about the blog, and he'd read along, even after we stopped seeing each other. Occasionally, he would e-mail me if I mentioned him (obviously, I gave him a pseudonym!), providing his take on the issue I'd discussed.
And it was stifling! I found myself barely blogging about anything, because I didn't want him to know what was going on with my life. Now, I'm not sure what I would do if I were in a serious relationship-I feel like I'd have to