It's a cliché because it's true: Men think about sex a lot - every seven seconds, according to one oft-repeated estimate. But just because we women have a few other things on our minds - the soccer-practice schedule, what to make for dinner, and where did I leave that brown sweater? - doesn't mean we don't have our own rich internal sexual lives. Contrary to popular belief, it doesn't take a candlelit dinner or a bodice-ripping romance novel to get the average female thinking lusty thoughts. In fact, some of us are contemplating X-rated interludes while on the elliptical at the gym, while stuck in traffic, or even while on the couch during our favorite TV shows. And that's a very good thing. Go ahead, indulge in a quick fantasy about the bag boy while you're waiting on line at the grocery store - exploring your own imaginative hot zone keeps you connected to your sexual self, even when your real sex life is in a cool phase.
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It's a cliché because it's true: Men think about sex a lot - every seven seconds, according to one oft-repeated estimate. But just because we women have a few other things on our minds - the soccer-practice schedule, what to make for dinner, and where did I leave that brown sweater? - doesn't mean we don't have our own rich internal sexual lives. Contrary to popular belief, it doesn't take a candlelit dinner or a bodice-ripping romance novel to get the average female thinking lusty thoughts. In fact, some of us are contemplating X-rated interludes while on the elliptical at the gym, while stuck in traffic, or even while on the couch during our favorite TV shows. And that's a very good thing. Go ahead, indulge in a quick fantasy about the bag boy while you're waiting on line at the grocery store - exploring your own imaginative hot zone keeps you connected to your sexual self, even when your real sex life is in a cool phase.Read More »from Do Women Think About Sex as Much as Men Do?
- Redbook | Parenting – Thu, May 20, 2010 5:44 PM EDT
This personal decision has been drawing a great deal of attention recently, so we decided to make a good old pro-and-con list. Here are the factors that are dividing us on breastfeeding - where do you stand?Read More »from The Great Breastfeeding Debate: Should You or Shouldn't You?
PRO: It's convenient. You don't have to buy breast milk or make up bottles, which saves time - and money. (Formula can cost from $1,200 a year up to $2,400 or even more.)
CON: It's not easy - especially at first. "There's a two-week learning curve," says Loretta McCallister, a spokesperson for La Leche League International. She encourages moms-to-be to take a breastfeeding class and line up a place to go for support. Some women have a harder time than others for a variety of reasons, such as little breast tissue, nipple shape, narrow ducts, or low production.
PRO: It promotes bonding. "Women get a sense of well-being when they nurse," McCallister says. That's thanks to the feel-good brain chemicals called prolactin and oxytocin. But, adds Rebecca Booth, M.D., an ob/gyn in
Let's be honest: Even if you apply your daily sunscreen religiously and spend your summers under wide-brimmed hats, exposure happens. And it can lead to a dull, mottled complexion. We're not talking cute freckles here - although those are UV by-products too. We're talking splotches that are nobody's idea of cute, plus an allover, lackluster eh.Read More »from Get Your Glow On
But, there are brightening options. Here are some from the experts.
Add sparkle to your shower. You likely already use a body wash but make your next one exfoliating to slough off skin, and add in glow: many now leave behind a trail of shimmer. PLUS: Do this to elevate your shower experience.
Rethink your bronzer. "Mix your summer bronzer with a fresh pink blush," says film makeup artist Tricia Sawyer. "You'll look healthy, not tan." Use bronzer in the hollows of your cheeks, "then sweep a pink shade on the apples," she says. PLUS: We've got seven secrets to faking a summer tan.
Go green. It might look a little gross, but algae can make you
If you're not getting as much sleep as your body needs - say, you're constantly yawning, irritable, unfocused, and physically exhausted - then it's time to tweak your habits. Women's wellness experts Susan Love, M.D., and Alice Domar, Ph.D., reveal a few healthy solutions.
Start with these tried-and-true tips, which we've ordered from easiest to more challenging:
- Keep your bedroom cooler.
- Watch television, work, and read somewhere other than your bed.
- Don't eat a big meal just before bedtime.
If your sleep still needs improvement after a few days, add these steps, one at a time:
- Expose yourself to 30 minutes of sunlight every day, whether you're outside or just near a window.
- Don't drink caffeine after 4 p.m.
- Limit yourself to one glass of alcohol in the evening. (Alcohol can help you fall asleep faster, but it disrupts your sleep later on.)
- Exercise during the day - not before bed, because your body
The prospect of a group tour makes a lot of us uneasy. Given that you are touring a place on someone else's watch, many find the planned schedules restrictive. Plus, there's the group of strangers one may or may not like, and the large group that screams "tourist." But group tours are not always a bad thing; in fact, they may just surprise you and offer some truly memorable, and unique, experiences. Here are useful tips to help you and your family make the most of your experience traveling with a large group.Read More »from 6 Tips to Surviving Group-Tour Travel
1. Think about your comfort first. When you are booking your group tour, think about the things that make you happy when you're traveling. Do you typically like to split the family up into two different hotel rooms? Do you prefer for the rooms to be next door to each other so that everyone can walk in and out of each other's spaces easily? Is it absolutely necessary for your son or daughter to have a window seat on all flights? These are all things the tour operator should know at
On Friday, the Social Security Administration released its list of the top 10 baby names of 2009. Topping the boy list was Jacob, and number-one name for girls was Isabella. What do these names have in common? They happen to be the names of two of the main characters in the crazy-popular Twilight series. Before you call this a fluke (the name Jacob has topped the boy list several years running), consider this: Cullen, the last name of the third main character, Edward, jumped from number 782 on the list to number 485, making it the fastest-growing boy's name.Read More »from How Did You Choose Your Baby's Name?
Parenting sins confessed!
This got us thinking: Do that many people really name their children out of fictional characters from cult classic vampire books? Then again, it can be so tough coming up with baby names that perhaps such familiar icons can make it easier. And then again, when your child someday asks where his name came from, is answering, "Oh, Mom was really into this young adult series when you were born" as acceptable
If you're lacking in the sex-drive department, join the crowd. By a landslide, most of the questions our columnist Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., receives have something to do with a low libido, such as:
- "I am still attracted to my husband, but I'm never in the mood. Could this be a medical problem?"
- "Since having my second child, my sex drive has disappeared. Sometimes I suck it up and do it for my husband's sake, but I stay dry and it hurts."
- "My husband doesn't initiate sex anymore, and I feel awkward doing it."
Loss of sexual desire can happen at any age, even if you're totally attracted to your partner. If you've been married a long time, simple boredom can take its toll. This is natural - who wants to eat the same meal every day? So work a little to add the spark back. Check into a hotel, take a bubble bath together, or cut some strategic holes into an old T-shirt of his and wear it to bed. Medications like birth control pills and antidepressants can also Read More »from Lose Your Sex Drive? How to Get It Back
- Redbook | Fashion – Mon, May 10, 2010 6:32 PM EDT
Think back to last summer: the beach days, the picnics - the sunburns, the breakouts. Before the blazing sun and high humidity wreak havoc on your skin this year, make some smart changes to your skin-care routine. We asked David E. Bank, M.D., a dermatologist in Mount Kisco, NY, to analyze the skin of three REDBOOK readers and give each a skin-care cheat sheet based on her skin type - so they'll be glowing all summer long.Read More »from Match Your Summer Skin-Care Regimen to Your Skin Type
SKIN TYPE: Combination
Lisa, 37, finds that though she does get oily, she's also quite dry in the winter, so she's been using a line of very rich products. What Bank sees is a likely case of seborrheic dermatitis - a very common condition (we're talking 40 percent of the population!) caused by an overgrowth of yeast on the scalp. The yeast migrates down to the face, making skin both greasy and flaky; it also causes dandruff. "It's a vicious cycle," Bank says: Lisa feels dry, so she uses a heavy cream on her face, which is actually making the condition worse. His
- Redbook | Love + Sex – Thu, May 6, 2010 1:05 AM EDT
Happily ever after? | Credit: Craig Blankenhorn/Everett CollectionThe teasing trailers for Sex and the City 2 have us asking that eternal question again: Big or Aidan?
Sure, he said "You're the one," and now they're Mr. and Mrs., but as any cosmo-sipping aficionado of the series will tell you, Big and Carrie's relationship has also had its share of epic lows (um, who just casually mentions they might move to Paris for a year?).
Personally, we always thought sweet, sensitive, furniture-making hunk Aidan was better husband material...but the mere thought of marrying him gave Carrie a serious case of hives.
So, who should Carrie end up with? Should she and Big live happily ever after? Or should she give Aidan a second chance? Hopefully the new movie will settle the debate once and for all, so we think the more pressing question is: *Team Chris Noth or Team John Corbett?
Chris Noth as Mr. Big | Credit: Craig Blankenhorn/Everett Collection
CHRIS NOTH (Mr.Read More »from Team Big or Team Aidan?* (This post may sway your allegiance)
They may have more money, and nannies, and a whole other lifestyle, but when it comes to feelings about their children, celebrity mothers are not all that different from the rest of us. There is something about the experience of motherhood, the incredible love one has for her child, and the fear (and joy) that comes from being responsible for an innocent life that makes all mothers, at heart, the same. Here are some famous mothers on what motherhood means to them, and what they've learned from it.Read More »from Motherly Wisdom from Famous Moms
Being a Mom Made Me . . .
"Realize that life is an adventure. No two days are ever the same, which is so exciting." - Jada Pinkett Smith, actress and mother to Trey, Jaden, and Willow
Also important: keeping your marriage strong and sexy. Here's how Jada and Will do it.
"Being a mom has made me so tired. And so happy." - Tina Fey, actress, writer and producer, and mother to Alice
Try these tips to boost your energy.
"Being a mom made me fear for the first time in my life. The stakes felt