By Alicia Harper, REDBOOK.
Alicia and Aiden"If you could have anything in the world, what is the one thing that you'd like for Mother's Day?"
Since Aiden was born, I have always been asked some variation of that question around this time of year. And every time I was asked, I pretty much gave the exact same answer: a day off. All I've ever wanted for Mother's Day was a day off - to sleep until noon, to use the bathroom in peace, to not have to clean up spills on the kitchen floor, to not have to hear, "That's not fair!" for the millionth time, to just…be.
It seems like I was always stressed out with the demands of motherhood, and then single motherhood, and then graduate student-motherhood that all I wanted was time off. Just one day.
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But this year is different.
Since starting a new job last year, I've done my best to "lean in" to my career. I worked the long hours. I sacrificed sleep, and late nights gave way to early mornings,
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The Sixth GlassMarination Brown Session Ale, Big Al Brewing, Seattle, WA
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Doom, Founders' Brewing, Grand Rapids, MI
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All lit up
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For those with gluten intolerance, going entirely G-free can be life-changing, but there are some of us who'd rather eat glue than give up the occasional bowl of bucatini. Thankfully Dr. Arthur Agatston, the creator of the South Beach Diet and author of the just-out South Beach Diet Gluten Solution has positive news for us - we can have our cake and eat it, too. (Albeit sparingly.) By Meghann Foye, REDBOOK.Read More »from Is There a Gluten "Happy Medium?"
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2) Most people with a gluten problem need to be
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Don't focus on strengthening your core
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Remember when you doused every vegetable in fake butter spray and called low-fat cookies "health food?" Even if you've pretty much recovered from the fat-fearing diet craze of the '90s, there's still - admit it! - a little lingering confusion about what fats are "good" fats - and how you can work those typically calorie-dense foods into your diet without packing on the pounds.
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