Feel like you've lost your mojo? For inspiration on how to bring your sexy back, check out this hard-won advice from real women on what makes them feel most confident and attractive. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.
I appreciate my body for what it can do
"My new, post-nursing breasts are a bit deflated compared to the ones I had when I got pregnant. I thought I would care, but I actually don't. The only person who sees them all the time is my husband, and to me, they are a badge of pride and honor. After all, I fed my amazing daughter from my own body for a full year." - Felicia B., 38
I hit the dance floor
"If there's music, I want to dance. I feel sexy as soon as I start moving. Who knows how I actually look to anyone else? I feel sexy, and that's all that matters. You can always tell a woman who knows she's got it. It's almost impossible not to believe her." - Jenny Block, relationship writer and author of Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage
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Body confidence comes from within
"In my twenties, I sought out pretty vapid, sex-based relationships that were designed to boost my body-confidence. I thought that the more men who wanted me, the better I'd feel about my stomach or the size of my chest. Then, at 33, I started performing burlesque for fun. Once I realized that an audience of both strangers and friends could appreciate me with all my flaws on display, I didn't need those pointless relationships anymore. After a year of performing, I found my current boyfriend, who loves me unconditionally. The sex is amazing because it's meaningful, and I realize that loving your body - not being a certain weight or specific body type - is what makes it attractive in the first place " - Lisa, 36, in a
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Garden Party Cocktail
Good-for-you ingredient: Strawberries
These red gems help boost heart and brain health and have vitamin C and folate. Use them to sweeten this drink, from Daniel Shoemaker of Portland, OR's Teardrop Cocktail Lounge: Muddle 3 strawberries, 2 basil leaves, and ½ tsp balsamic vinegar, then add 2 oz silver rum and ½ oz agave nectar. Squeeze in ¼ oz lime juice, shake, and top with club soda.
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Quiet Storm Cocktail
Good-for-you ingredient: Ginger
This healthy root relieves muscle pain and menstrual cramps-and may be a cancer-fighter. Mix ½ oz ginger beer with ½ oz lemon juice, 1 oz store-bought carrot juice, 1½ oz vodka, and ¼ oz honey mix (2 parts honey diluted in 1 part hot water). Strain and serve over ice at your next brunch for a zingy alternative to a Bloody Mary, Shoemaker says.
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Three-Party Harmony Cocktail
Good-for-you ingredient: Green tea
These leaves help fight a slew ofAdrian Grenier's Secret Saturday Night Wish
By Redbook | Healthy Living – Fri, Apr 19, 2013 2:40 PM EDT
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Next time your husband makes fun of your Sunday night Girls habit, tell him that his bromance icon is on your side.
Adrian Grenier, best known for playing Vincent Chase on HBO's long-running Entourage, is speeding his way through Lena Dunham's story of four girls in Brooklyn, and he's found plenty to envy.
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"I watched the Bushwick episode, and I was like, why was I never invited to party like that? asked Grenier. "I crave a little bit of that seediness."
The actor and co-founder of SHFT, an eco-conscious lifestyle platform, was on-hand to celebrate the launch of the new Food Tripping app, which will help people find sustainable, organic, and locally sourced eateries, farmer's markets, wineries, breweries, and food shops while on-the-go.
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Though Grenier's hard at work to make the Monday launch of the app, created in partnership with Ford Motor Company, successful, he sees a little R&R inTwo hours of Googling your stomach symptoms doesn't compare to 10 minutes of frank talk with a top G.I. doc. Step away from the Web, and read these surprising doctor tips. By Lisa Mulcahy, REDBOOK.
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"Order the green beans on date night"
"If a friend is going out to dinner with her guy, I tell her to get a side of green beans. They're your safest veggie in terms of not causing your digestive tract distress. I also recommend chicken and fish as the proteins that won't make you gassy. For dessert, stick with a bowl of berries; raspberries and strawberries are good choices. And skip the after-dinner mint-it can increase motility through your system, which could mean too much tooting!" -Jacqueline Wolf, M.D., gastroenterologist at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston and associate professor of medicine at Harvard University
"Chill out about gluten"
"Gluten is getting a lot of attention lately, and my friends will often say, 'I know I'm allergic to gluten!' if they have any gas,14 Kinda Crazy — and Kinda Genius — Ways Women Sneak in a Little "Me" Time
By Redbook | Healthy Living – Tue, Apr 16, 2013 10:12 AM EDTOh, the places you'll go - to get some "me" time, that is. In honor of National Stress Awareness Day, REDBOOK readers confess all.
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Funny face
"I look into the mirror and give myself my best and sweetest smile. As I do that, I tell myself that this is a so-much-better version of my face - and it involves all my facial muscles!" - Ivy C.
Quiet time
"I go to school online, so my kids think I'm studying when I take my laptop into my closet and put a sign on the door that says 'Please do not disturb - Mom is studying!' Nope; I'm really on Facebook." - Kim S.
It's about that walk
"When I'm at work, I take a 15-minute break and walk around outside. If it's too cold, I go into the boardroom and walk around there. It refreshes me, clears my head, and gets my creative juices flowing." - Jonnie B.
Early morning alone time
"Sometimes I wake up at three for a guaranteed uninterrupted hour to paint my nails, watch TV, read, and listen to music." - Cynthia R.
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Remember the famous "I'll have what she's having" deli scene in When Harry Met Sally? It turns out Harry probably could have performed his own version. In Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex, Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, an associate professor of urology at Harvard Medical School, reveals key details about the relatively unexplored world of male sexuality, such as the fact that men fake orgasms, too.
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The inspiration for the book began several years ago, when a 25-year-old patient told Dr. Morgentaler that he was having trouble climaxing during sex, so he was faking orgasms for his girlfriend's benefit. The doctor had never actually heard of a man doing this, so he set out to examine the psychology at play. "The big surprise to me when I started doing this work 25 years ago is that once a man is in a relationship, men seem to care more about their partner than themselves," Dr. Morgentaler told Salon.
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By Redbook | Love + Sex – Mon, Apr 15, 2013 9:55 AM EDTThe latest sites, apps, and technology make life easier than ever, but could they be putting a damper on your intimacy? Let's turn down the digital drama. By Anne Roderique-Jones, REDBOOK.
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1. Blogging sucks up your time and attention
Jacalyn Lee, who recently moved from New York City to Paris, uses her blog as a way to provide updates on her new life - and as an outlet for creativity and self-expression. "But when my husband walks through the door from a long day of work, I ask him to wait while I finish a blog post or want his feedback on my work," Lee says. She hopes that some of this online chronicling will serve as a scrapbook of their lives, but recognizes that it often gets in the way of their intimacy. Without intending to, Lee may be putting her spouse second to those in the blogosphere, says Dr. Lori Buckley, psychologist and author of 21 Decisions for Great Sex and a Happy Relationship. It's wise to schedule blogging into certain time-slots, and to be aware of howWho says a special outing with the hubby has to empty your wallet? These fresh, fun activities require no cash at all, so work your way down the list. By Laura Li, REDBOOK.
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Catch a Frisbee dog contest
Are you both dog people? If so, you'll love watching one of the many disc dog competitions hosted around the U.S. These adorable canines and their trainers perform a series of impressive tricks and routines set to music. Check out Skyhoundz.com or AshleyWhippet.com to get started.
Discover new music
Besides major festivals like Lollapalooza, Coachella and Electric Zoo, many cities offer free concerts during the warmer months. "Check your newspaper and visit the websites of local colleges," says Mary Hunt, author of 7 Money Rules for Life. Undergraduate music majors are often required to give public recitals during the year as well; who knows, you might spot the next Yo-Yo Ma!
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Take a bubble bath
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The sculptor: Master your moves
There's a reason so many world-famous portraits focus on a nude woman's back - it's extremely erotic. "A slight curve of the spine is visually mind-blowing," says Pablo Solomon, an artist and sculptor. Allow your guy to put on your necklace as you bend forward slightly, exaggerate your movements as you pick your purse up off of the floor, and shrug off your jacket so he can see your bare shoulder. "The more you're aware of your movements, the more present you are in your body," says Solomon. So give him a bit of a show - and know he'll be dying for more once you head home.
The marriage coach: Say yes (in and outside the bedroom)
"I always tell my patients to eliminate the word 'no' from their vocabulary with each other, unless their partner is requesting something demeaning, abusive, or
