Remember the famous "I'll have what she's having" deli scene in When Harry Met Sally? It turns out Harry probably could have performed his own version. In Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex, Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, an associate professor of urology at Harvard Medical School, reveals key details about the relatively unexplored world of male sexuality, such as the fact that men fake orgasms, too.
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The inspiration for the book began several years ago, when a 25-year-old patient told Dr. Morgentaler that he was having trouble climaxing during sex, so he was faking orgasms for his girlfriend's benefit. The doctor had never actually heard of a man doing this, so he set out to examine the psychology at play. "The big surprise to me when I started doing this work 25 years ago is that once a man is in a relationship, men seem to care more about their partner than themselves," Dr. Morgentaler told Salon.
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Remember the famous "I'll have what she's having" deli scene in When Harry Met Sally? It turns out Harry probably could have performed his own version. In Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex, Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, an associate professor of urology at Harvard Medical School, reveals key details about the relatively unexplored world of male sexuality, such as the fact that men fake orgasms, too.Read More »from Why Men — Yes, Men — Fake Orgasms
- Redbook | Love + Sex – Mon, Apr 15, 2013 9:55 AM EDT
The latest sites, apps, and technology make life easier than ever, but could they be putting a damper on your intimacy? Let's turn down the digital drama. By Anne Roderique-Jones, REDBOOK.Read More »from 8 Real Ways Social Media Can Destroy Your Relationship
1. Blogging sucks up your time and attention
Jacalyn Lee, who recently moved from New York City to Paris, uses her blog as a way to provide updates on her new life - and as an outlet for creativity and self-expression. "But when my husband walks through the door from a long day of work, I ask him to wait while I finish a blog post or want his feedback on my work," Lee says. She hopes that some of this online chronicling will serve as a scrapbook of their lives, but recognizes that it often gets in the way of their intimacy. Without intending to, Lee may be putting her spouse second to those in the blogosphere, says Dr. Lori Buckley, psychologist and author of 21 Decisions for Great Sex and a Happy Relationship. It's wise to schedule blogging into certain time-slots, and to be aware of how
Who says a special outing with the hubby has to empty your wallet? These fresh, fun activities require no cash at all, so work your way down the list. By Laura Li, REDBOOK.Read More »from 10 Totally Free Spring Date Ideas
Catch a Frisbee dog contest
Are you both dog people? If so, you'll love watching one of the many disc dog competitions hosted around the U.S. These adorable canines and their trainers perform a series of impressive tricks and routines set to music. Check out Skyhoundz.com or AshleyWhippet.com to get started.
Discover new music
Besides major festivals like Lollapalooza, Coachella and Electric Zoo, many cities offer free concerts during the warmer months. "Check your newspaper and visit the websites of local colleges," says Mary Hunt, author of 7 Money Rules for Life. Undergraduate music majors are often required to give public recitals during the year as well; who knows, you might spot the next Yo-Yo Ma!
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Take a bubble bath
What's the point of having a big bathtub if
There's no lingerie on this list. We went to the real experts of romance to find the moves that'll make your man wanting more…and more. By Anna Davies, REDBOOK.Read More »from What You Can Learn About Being Sexy From…
The sculptor: Master your moves
There's a reason so many world-famous portraits focus on a nude woman's back - it's extremely erotic. "A slight curve of the spine is visually mind-blowing," says Pablo Solomon, an artist and sculptor. Allow your guy to put on your necklace as you bend forward slightly, exaggerate your movements as you pick your purse up off of the floor, and shrug off your jacket so he can see your bare shoulder. "The more you're aware of your movements, the more present you are in your body," says Solomon. So give him a bit of a show - and know he'll be dying for more once you head home.
The marriage coach: Say yes (in and outside the bedroom)
"I always tell my patients to eliminate the word 'no' from their vocabulary with each other, unless their partner is requesting something demeaning, abusive, or
It's been confirmed…sadly, sugar is the devil say recent, incontrovertible findings. Clear out these sneaky, every day sources in favor of the occasional really-worth-it splurge, says Dr. Robert Lustig, author of Fat Chance: Beating the Odds Against Sugar, Processed Food, Obesity, and Disease. By Ava Feuer, REDBOOK.Read More »from 9 Sneaky Places Sugar is Hidden
When you eat an entire bag of gummy bears, or down a large soda the movies, you're aware of what you're getting yourself into. But more than half of the sugar in our diets is strewn across the entire range of what we eat, put there by the food industry to make things taste, well, sweeter. And even if you're a careful reader of nutrition labels, you might never know it. "There are 56 names for sugar," says Dr. Lustig. "If you can figure out a way to have five or six different kinds of sugar in one product, then you can make some type of sugar fall further down the list. When you add them up, they add up to number one."
Tomatoes are full of citric acid,
What's better than having a fashionista or a foodie as a BFF? Being pals with a heart doctor. The health advice these experts give their nearest and dearest can help you live longer, healthier, and more sanely. By Lisa Mulcahy, REDBOOK.Read More »from What Cardiologists Tell Their Friends
"Go easy with the exercise"
"A lot of my female friends are very focused on staying fit, and that's great. But new research shows that running even 20 to 25 miles a week, which a lot of women log, can actually age your heart. Repeated excessive effort can overstretch the heart muscle, causing micro-size tears--damage that is often seen in marathon runners. The scary truth is that it can reverse the benefits of cardio exercise, putting you in the same fitness boat as couch potatoes who never work out! I have a friend who is a triathlete--she swims, runs, and bikes every day--and I told her, 'If you want to see the Olympics in 2052, start cutting back your workouts now.' It's fine to run, but don't clock more than four running days per week or more
As much as we'd love to agree with Elle Woods that the rules of hair care are simple and finite, there are plenty of ways you may be harming your precious strands without even knowing it. Here's how to stop the damage. By Alyson Penn, REDBOOK.Read More »from The 10 Worst Things You Do to Your Hair
Using old styling tools
You want to make sure to clean out those hairy brushes, which are breeding grounds for germs and old residue - things no one wants in their hair. "Remove the hair from the brush after each styling session," advises Elizabeth Cunnane Phillips, a New York-based trichologist. Once a month, clean brushes and combs with a little baking soda and water, dissolving well, soaking for a couple of minutes, and rinsing thoroughly. The baking soda removes oils and products that can get stuck in the bristles.
Using a rough elastic
It's not 1995, but the scrunchie could be making a comeback. The best type of elastic to use in your hair is something covered in fabric - a dense, thin hair tie can irritate your strands causing breakage if
By Lauren Le Vine, REDBOOK.Read More »from Meet the Magazine for Dads Trying to Have it All
Kindling Quarterly is a new magazine for cool dads. Seriously. And when you read founder David Michael Perez's mission statement, it's actually quite sweet: "We offer no dramatic manifestos or grand theories about what it means to be a father, just simple explorations of creative individuals whose role as a parent - whether stay at home, working full time, or everywhere in between - is intrinsic to their life, and often their career." In other words, they profile men who make other fathers say "I don't know how he does it!"
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And before you go thinking "No male would ever say that," hear this. On a recent episode of Jeff Garlin's podcast, By the Way, the comedian sat down for a conversation with his friend J.J. Abrams - a.k.a. the creator of Alias, Felicity, and Lost and director of Star Trek and Star Wars. Garlin wasn't really interested in talking about Abrams' ridiculous résumé, though. What he most wanted to
By Lauren Le Vine, REDBOOK.Read More »from Is Wearing a Bra Bad for You?
Breaking news from France: That bra you're wearing? It might be having the exact opposite effect on your breasts that you'd want. Professor Jean-Denis Rouillon, who has a background in sports medicine, conducted a 15-year study to analyze whether wearing brassieres (to get French and fancy about it) actually makes breasts sag more. His findings: "Medically, physiologically, anatomically - the breast derives no benefit from being denied gravity. On the contrary, it becomes saggier with a bra."
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Don't go burning your bras yet, though. Although one participant reported that she breathed more easily and had better posture and less back pain after she ditched her boob cage, the study's findings aren't quite universally applicable. "It all depends on the structure of each breast. An overweight, 45-year-old woman with three kids has no business not wearing a bra," the professor bluntly noted.
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There's something in the air, it seems. Celebs are stepping out with drastic dye jobs, prompting us to wonder, is it time to switch up our locks and looks? By Ava Feuer, REDBOOK.