It used to be cheating, parenting styles, and money management, but now a whole new crop of issues is plaguing married couples. But, it turns out, they're actually way easier to solve. By Anne Roderique-Jones, REDBOOK.
A Facebook Affair
What brought them here: Darren Wilk, a certified Gottman Couples Therapist in private practice in Vancouver, British Columbia, says that 30 to 40 percent of the couples he treats are trying to recover from some form of infidelity. When he met Megan, her Facebook friendship with an old flame had progressed to exchanging not-so-innocent messages about "being each other's old crush," and ultimately, an affair that was discovered by Megan's husband, Paul. "The problem with Facebook is that it makes people feel as though they can be more vulnerable when they're behind the computer screen," says Wilk. "Couples who were once able to reach out to their partner may now now find it easier to get their emotional needs met online."
The breakdown: In order for the
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- The best D.I.Y. home decor projects deliver a satisfying "I did it!" payoff in an afternoon, or better yet, an hour. John and Sherry Petersik, the smarties from the home blog Young House Love, whose book goes on sale November 6, are all about that -- and sticking to a budget. REDBOOK.
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Q: I'm 40 pounds overweight--is it okay for me to continue to diet while pregnant?
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A: I don't recommend it. Regardless of your starting weight, it's important to gain, not lose, when you're expecting. Restricting calories in order to shed pounds can starve the fetus of nutrients it needs to grow and develop, and may also increase the risk of miscarriage or low birth weight. That said, for an overweight woman, less weight gain is needed for a healthy pregnancy. On average, a woman who is within a normal weight range should gain between 25 and 35 pounds, while an overweight woman needs to gain between 15 and 25 pounds. Obese women should gain even less--only 11 to 20 pounds. And bear this in mind: Some women think that if they're taking prenatal vitamins, they don't have to be concerned about their diet, but vitamins alone do not supply all the nutrients a baby needs. So make sure you're eating well-balanced meals, loaded with fruits andRead More »from Is it Okay to Diet While Pregnant?
You learn to spot them when you run a couples retreat called "The Marriage Checkup." But program director James V. Cordova, Ph.D., promises that if you catch the bad marriage signs early, patients can make a full recovery. You know you've got relationship work to do if you notice...REDBOOK.Read More »from 4 Signs Your Marriage Needs Work
The money fights are fierce.
"Most people think these arguments are just about spending and saving, but they're really about our emotional relationships with money," Cordova says. "I once worked with a couple who were both passionate collectors of tropical fish. He would buy them and sneak them into the tank even though she thought they didn't need any more. They were completely polarized--the more he spent, the more anxious and thrifty she became. They would get into huge fights about it. I worked with them on accepting their differing attitudes about money. They realized that even though it's a struggle, it doesn't have to damage their bond. My advice: Find a middle ground that leaves you both
- Redbook | Team Mom – Wed, Oct 24, 2012 10:22 AM EDT
To raise a global, well-informed citizen, try these ideas to engage children big and small in the United States' biggest political event: the presidential election. Politics just got a lot more kid-friendly. By Ava Feuer, REDBOOK.Read More »from 10 Ways to Get Your Kids Excited About the Election
Take your kids to vote.
If your parents took you to polls with them, it's likely a fond memory that you tap into every time you vote. Share this with your children by voting during before- or after-school hours, and bringing them along. You'll send the message that part of being a good citizen is participating in one's democracy, and they'll get a kick out of pulling the lever. Snap photos of your family at the polls, and share them with other REDBOOK readers on Facebook, on Pinterest using the hashtag #kidsvote, on Twitter @Redbookmag with the hashtag #kidsvote, and on Instagram with the hasthag #kidsvote.
Go to a political event.
We don't blame you for not wanting to face the crowds at an Obama or Romney rally. Make things tamer - and more personal - by
- This rich-looking jewelry - necklaces, earrings, rings, cuffs, and watches - will make clothing that's been parked in your closet feel all bright-shiny-new again. The best part? Total wardrobe renewal can be found for less than $100. By Julia Malacoff and Ava Feuer, REDBOOK.
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You eat right, and exercise regularly, but that final plateau is feeling insurmountable. Get over the hump with this simple, 10-move routine from celebrity trainer Amie Hoff, who suggests repeating each exercise for one minute with 30 seconds in between, and doing the circuit twice, three to four times a week. More good news: You don't even have to leave the house to see big results. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from The Lose the Last 10 Pounds Workout
Losing that last 10 pounds isn't just about counting calories, because stress plays a big part in weight management. Many women have an extra "stress weight donut" around their middle due to the chronic overstimulation of the stress hormone cortisol (a chemical that triggers your body to hold onto belly fat). This workout not only decreases stress, but also raises your heart rate to burn body fat while at the same time challenging muscles. The result? A powerful exercise cocktail that helps lower cortisol and increase muscle, which will help you keep the weight off for good.
Sexy, sophisticated, sweet - these celebrity 'dos (with quick tips on how to get them) will help you love your hair all over again. By Kim Tranell, REDBOOK
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If you've ever even thought about dressing up your dog, October 31st is the time to go for it. Yes, they're a little nutty, but how can you say no to anything this cute? By Kelsie Blazier, REDBOOK.
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Speed up your metabolism without even moving. Here's how. By Jessica Girdwain, REDBOOK.
Have a chocolate stash.
In a study from the University of California, San Diego--a.k.a. our favorite study ever--researchers found that eating chocolate frequently was associated with a lower body mass index. In fact, people who ate five servings of chocolate per week weighed roughly five to seven pounds less than chocolate abstainers. The researchers explain that antioxidants found in cocoa called polyphenols may enhance metabolic function. To reap the benefits without a caloric downside, keep your fix to about an ounce a day. No food scale? Lay a credit card over your average chocolate bar; that's your portion.
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Here's a reason to obey your thirst: "When you're dehydrated, cellular functions slow down and your metabolism starts to get pokey," says Lauren Schmitt, a registered dietitian in Los Angeles. Yes, you can slim down