As we begin to recover from Hurricane Sandy, we realize that perhaps we aren't as prepared as we should be. Scary as it is, now is the time to take steps to ensure that if devastation hits your family, your house won't be one more thing to worry about. By Ava Feuer, REDBOOK.
Get flood insurance
Unless you live on the beach, protecting against water damage likely isn't your number-one concern. However, contrary to what you might expect, flood insurance does not come with most home insurance policies - sadly, many woke up after Sandy to learn that their homes weren't covered. Flood insurance can be bought separately via the National Flood Insurance Program, and the average policy costs only $600 extra per year. Depending on your risk level, it might be worth the additional investment since some experts claim storms of the century will now happen every 20 years.
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- Redbook | At Home – Thu, Nov 1, 2012 6:28 PM EDT
As we begin to recover from Hurricane Sandy, we realize that perhaps we aren't as prepared as we should be. Scary as it is, now is the time to take steps to ensure that if devastation hits your family, your house won't be one more thing to worry about. By Ava Feuer, REDBOOK.Read More »from 6 Ways to Protect Your Home from Natural Disasters
The key to wedded bliss isn't over-the-top romance, but these surprisingly simple practices you can do to stay - or fall back - in love with your partner. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from The 10 Habits that Keep Marriages Strong
Not trying to change each other
Maybe you wish he folded his socks, or that he would chat it up with your friends without prompting. But, his inability to notice hair in the sink may stem from the laid-back personality that drew you to him in the first place. "One of the things we see with happy couples is that they know their partner's differences, and have pretty much stopped trying to change the other person," says Darren Wilk, a certified Gottman Couples Therapist with a private practice in Vancouver, British Columbia. "Rather than trying to fight their partner's personality style, they instead focus on each other's strengths." To better understand how to tap into both of your best qualities, take this quick relationship personality quiz.
Framing your demands as favors
Whether you want
Feeling disconnected and neglected is the stuff that tears couples apart. Luckily, by doing these concrete things right now, you can bring more respect, appreciation, and compassion into your relationship - and in turn safeguard your marriage. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from 7 Strategies to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage
Set boundaries for cheating.
There are three different types of cheating: physical, emotional, and digital. With digital, it's especially unclear what counts as cheating. Is it okay to friend an ex on Facebook? Or to stream porn videos? Have a five-minute conversation about what each of you views as infidelity. "It's likely that one of you will cheat without knowing it if you don't have this talk," says Laurie Puhn, a couples mediator and author of Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In. You may think talking to a guy friend about your relationship is perfectly innocent while your husband sees it as betrayal, so it's important to set clear boundaries
- If the election has you feeling world-weary and pessimistic, these sweet, poignant quotes will make your heart grow (at least) three sizes. By Lauren Le Vine, REDBOOK.
- Redbook | Love + Sex – Mon, Oct 29, 2012 9:54 AM EDT
It used to be cheating, parenting styles, and money management, but now a whole new crop of issues is plaguing married couples. But, it turns out, they're actually way easier to solve. By Anne Roderique-Jones, REDBOOK.Read More »from Marriage Counselors Reveal: "The Trickiest Relationship Issues We've Ever Solved"
A Facebook Affair
What brought them here: Darren Wilk, a certified Gottman Couples Therapist in private practice in Vancouver, British Columbia, says that 30 to 40 percent of the couples he treats are trying to recover from some form of infidelity. When he met Megan, her Facebook friendship with an old flame had progressed to exchanging not-so-innocent messages about "being each other's old crush," and ultimately, an affair that was discovered by Megan's husband, Paul. "The problem with Facebook is that it makes people feel as though they can be more vulnerable when they're behind the computer screen," says Wilk. "Couples who were once able to reach out to their partner may now now find it easier to get their emotional needs met online."
The breakdown: In order for the
- The best D.I.Y. home decor projects deliver a satisfying "I did it!" payoff in an afternoon, or better yet, an hour. John and Sherry Petersik, the smarties from the home blog Young House Love, whose book goes on sale November 6, are all about that -- and sticking to a budget. REDBOOK.
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Q: I'm 40 pounds overweight--is it okay for me to continue to diet while pregnant?
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A: I don't recommend it. Regardless of your starting weight, it's important to gain, not lose, when you're expecting. Restricting calories in order to shed pounds can starve the fetus of nutrients it needs to grow and develop, and may also increase the risk of miscarriage or low birth weight. That said, for an overweight woman, less weight gain is needed for a healthy pregnancy. On average, a woman who is within a normal weight range should gain between 25 and 35 pounds, while an overweight woman needs to gain between 15 and 25 pounds. Obese women should gain even less--only 11 to 20 pounds. And bear this in mind: Some women think that if they're taking prenatal vitamins, they don't have to be concerned about their diet, but vitamins alone do not supply all the nutrients a baby needs. So make sure you're eating well-balanced meals, loaded with fruits andRead More »from Is it Okay to Diet While Pregnant?
You learn to spot them when you run a couples retreat called "The Marriage Checkup." But program director James V. Cordova, Ph.D., promises that if you catch the bad marriage signs early, patients can make a full recovery. You know you've got relationship work to do if you notice...REDBOOK.Read More »from 4 Signs Your Marriage Needs Work
The money fights are fierce.
"Most people think these arguments are just about spending and saving, but they're really about our emotional relationships with money," Cordova says. "I once worked with a couple who were both passionate collectors of tropical fish. He would buy them and sneak them into the tank even though she thought they didn't need any more. They were completely polarized--the more he spent, the more anxious and thrifty she became. They would get into huge fights about it. I worked with them on accepting their differing attitudes about money. They realized that even though it's a struggle, it doesn't have to damage their bond. My advice: Find a middle ground that leaves you both
- Redbook | Team Mom – Wed, Oct 24, 2012 10:22 AM EDT
To raise a global, well-informed citizen, try these ideas to engage children big and small in the United States' biggest political event: the presidential election. Politics just got a lot more kid-friendly. By Ava Feuer, REDBOOK.Read More »from 10 Ways to Get Your Kids Excited About the Election
Take your kids to vote.
If your parents took you to polls with them, it's likely a fond memory that you tap into every time you vote. Share this with your children by voting during before- or after-school hours, and bringing them along. You'll send the message that part of being a good citizen is participating in one's democracy, and they'll get a kick out of pulling the lever. Snap photos of your family at the polls, and share them with other REDBOOK readers on Facebook, on Pinterest using the hashtag #kidsvote, on Twitter @Redbookmag with the hashtag #kidsvote, and on Instagram with the hasthag #kidsvote.
Go to a political event.
We don't blame you for not wanting to face the crowds at an Obama or Romney rally. Make things tamer - and more personal - by
- This rich-looking jewelry - necklaces, earrings, rings, cuffs, and watches - will make clothing that's been parked in your closet feel all bright-shiny-new again. The best part? Total wardrobe renewal can be found for less than $100. By Julia Malacoff and Ava Feuer, REDBOOK.
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