By Carmen Staicer, REDBOOK
Carmen and father.When I was newly married and very young, my parents got divorced. As kids are wont to do, I sided with one parent over the other. Meaning: I cut my father out of my life for ten years. The reasons don't matter; the whys and the hows are unimportant. I made a decision, and that was it. There was no talking it over, no going back - it was as if I had no father.
It was only after a death in our family that I suddenly came to my senses. My father came to the funeral, and we reconnected. My children dealt with the sudden reappearance of a grandfather they'd never really known, and just like that, the separation was over.
I missed out on ten years of life with my father, and it's something that I still regret. People argue; they disagree. You can't like everyone - it's physically impossible and mentally draining to try to do so. Some of those people you don't like aren't worth the aggravation or the work it takes to maintain a relationship, but in myRead More »from Bridging the Gap with My Father