If you don't feel like getting it on, you're not alone: "I see at least five or six patients a day who complain about decreased libido - it's a huge problem," says Mary Jane Minkin, MD, clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Yale School of Medicine. "Many women are embarrassed to talk about it, but having a low sex drive is a legitimate issue that can be fixed." Often, it's a symptom of other issues you're working through in your relationship. However, these sneaky sex drive zappers can also be to blame. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.
Anti-Aphrodisiac: The Pill
"Testosterone has been linked with increased libido, and women with normal, natural menstrual cycles experience a small surge of testosterone right around ovulation when they're most fertile," says Dr. Minkin. Both types of birth control pills contain hormones - combination estrogen-progestin and progestin-only - which affect ovarian function, and can thus lower sex drive. If you're considering going off of the
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If you don't feel like getting it on, you're not alone: "I see at least five or six patients a day who complain about decreased libido - it's a huge problem," says Mary Jane Minkin, MD, clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Yale School of Medicine. "Many women are embarrassed to talk about it, but having a low sex drive is a legitimate issue that can be fixed." Often, it's a symptom of other issues you're working through in your relationship. However, these sneaky sex drive zappers can also be to blame. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from 8 Sneaky Things that Hurt Your Sex Drive
They look lovingly at each other across rooms, finish their partners' sentences, and playfully poke fun at one another. Here's how those blissful twosomes keep the romance alive. REDBOOK.Read More »from 10 Secrets of Happy Couples
Happy couple1. They celebrate a unique anniversary
Your wedding anniversary is a lovely date to remember, but it's not the only milestone that matters. It's even more intimate to celebrate less public moments of which only you two know the true meaning, such as your first kiss, first vacation together or - hey - even the first time the pregnancy test turned blue.
2. They stash pleasure money
Sure, you have funds earmarked for bills and savings, but every couple also needs a just-for-fun account to fund the occasional, much-need indulgence, says Brown University psychiatry professor Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. "Put some money aside that won't destroy your budget when you use it," he says. Spend it on a spur-of-the-moment weekend trip, a pricey bottle of champagne
- Redbook | Work + Money – Wed, Aug 22, 2012 12:14 PM EDT
Farnoosh Torabi is an ace number-cruncher, but you don't have to be to handle your finances intelligently. Just know these figures to feel calm and confident about your future. REDBOOK.Read More »from The 10 Numbers You Need to Be Smart with Your Money
$7,400: That's the amount that gets withheld from the median household income of $46,000. Do you know how big a bite gets taken out of your paycheck for federal tax withholding, Social Security, and Medicare combined? How about the amount that's left after state and city taxes and other deductions for insurance and retirement? To calculate how much you net, pull out your pay stubs for the past month (if you're married, grab your spouse's docs too). You can't even begin to get a grip on spending and saving if you don't have a clear picture of what you're bringing in. Now you know.
100 minus your age : The difference equals the percentage of your investments that should be in stocks; the rest should be in bonds. So a 35-year-old woman ideally has 65 percent of her money in stocks and 35 percent in bonds.
- Redbook | Love + Sex – Wed, Aug 22, 2012 10:28 AM EDT
Every man - like every woman - is different, but this may explain what's going on next time you find him analyzing his fantasy team like his life depends on it. Not included: why he's taking so long in the bathroom. After all, some things should remain mysteries. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.Read More »from 10 Things Every Woman Should Know About Her Husband
Husbands need to feel needed
"For husbands, not being able to impress your wife from time to time is like Kryptonite for Superman," says Lois Barth, a relationship and career coach based in New York City. "Just think of the movies most men love to watch: lone hero in the town against the bad guys saving the day. That hero chip is hardwired into most men - as long as we let them be." Don't rush to do the jobs you dread just to tick another item off on your to-do list - asking for help can bring you closer.
Husbands show their love through actions rather than words
Men aren't as direct in expressing their love as women, and they aren't mind readers. They want to know what women like
SMART: The best way to keep calories in check here and still feel full is to go for the You Pick Two option, which lets you pair a half-sandwich with a cup of one of Panera's low-fat soups. Try a half of the Smoked Turkey Breast (210 calories, 1.5 g fat), Smoked Ham & Swiss (290 calories, 8 g fat), or Tuna Salad (250 calories, 8 g fat).
NOT SMART: Don't even think about the Chicken Caesar sandwich, which comes in at 750 calories and 33 grams of fat for a full size. The Italian Combo With Ham? That's almost a thousand-calorie lunch--and 41 grams of fat.
SMART: You can't go wrong with the tasty and not-too-spicy Tandoori Chicken Sandwich Light (376 calories, 3 g fat), which is topped with fat-free vinaigrette and roasted redRead More »from Low-Cal Sandwiches from Your Favorite Restaurants
Do you work for someone buttoned-up or more laid-back? Between these two very different head honchos -- Marjorie Kaplan, president of Animal Planet Media and Michelle Visser, CEO of Burt's Bees Baby -- you'll get the answers you need on three common work dilemmas. REDBOOK.
1. You're talking to your boss when you start to feel tears coming on: Let 'em fly, or run for the ladies' room?
VISSER: "It's absolutely okay to cry in front of your boss, but it shouldn't become a habit. A few years ago, someone came into my office sobbing because she was overwhelmed. Coincidentally, a promotion was in the works for her, and a few days later I gave her the good news. Maybe she thought her tears had helped her, because from then on, she kept coming into my office to cry. You want employees to feel free to express themselves, but work isn't the place for therapy."
KAPLAN: "Do your best to get away--but calmly. Excuse yourself by saying, 'May I have a moment?' More often than not, crying isRead More »from What Your Boss is Really Thinking When...
- Redbook | Parenting – Fri, Aug 17, 2012 10:13 AM EDT
With the back-to-school madness in full swing, it's easy to feel overwhelmed as a parent. You're not alone. Our Mamarama bloggers admit that although they don't always know best, they always do their best. Here's what they've learned along the way. REDBOOK.Read More »from 12 Mom Quotes that Will Make You Crack Up and Tear Up
Mother and sonOn mommy instincts:
"We moms get good at reading our kids - I can tell just from the look in my son's eyes if he has a fever, and I can see a toddler tantrum brewing in my sweet daughter like a storm on the horizon." - Charlotte Hilton Andersen
On teaching lessons:
"I work hard to teach my children to be responsible for their actions, to think before they make rash decisions, and to always remember that there are real people on the other end of those feelings. These are lessons that I wish I hadn't learned with life experience but had absorbed the first 10 times they were told to me." - Carmen Staicer
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On defining parenthood:
"Parenthood was thrilling and challenging in so many ways…What I
For her book One Good Deed (Abrams Image), Erin McHugh did one good thing every day for a year and found that those small generosities made her a happier person. "I used to get cranky, and then I'd get this 'not nice' hangover. Now, no hangover!" McHugh says. Try out these good deeds if you're stuck in a rut - happiness is contagious! By Ashley Niedringhaus, REDBOOK
Help someone stay in the game: somebody's got to win
"After combing through 53 pieces of paper included in a Publisher's Clearing House Sweepstakes, I found the correct information to send in Aunt Tessie's sweepstakes form." - October 24th
Enter someone you care about into a contest but don't tell them you've submitted their information. If they win, they'll be so touched that you thought of them, and if they don't, they'll be none the wiser!
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"Geez, remember how big a deal it was to get your Halloween costume when you were little? How many
Give your biggest diet saboteurs a healthy makeover with these ideas from Molly Morgan, R.D., owner of Creative Nutrition Solutions in Vestal, New York and author of The Skinny Rules. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.
Healthy makeoverInstead of a banana-split sundae...
Try...sliced bananas topped with whipped cream and a drizzle of caramel and slivered almonds. The potassium in bananas helps maintain fluid balance to ward off dehydration, and the almonds will deliver healthy fats for beautiful skin.
Instead of apple pie...
Try…baked apples. To make, bake a small apple and top with 2 tbsp low-fat plain yogurt sprinkled with cinnamon. You'll get the same tart taste sans the fatty butter from the crust.
Instead of salty mixed nuts... Try…a few pretzel rods with 1 ounce roasted pistachios (about 44 nuts)Read More »from Junk Food Swaps for Every Craving
- Hollywood's all-time most famous faces have us green with makeup envy. Thanks to these step-by-step instructions, you too can look like you stepped right off the silver screen. By Sarah Weir, REDBOOK.
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