By Barbara Corcoran, REDBOOKAsking Boss For Raise
Q: "I've spent a decade as a stay at home mom but am now going through a divorce and need to reenter the workforce. How can I explain this gap on my résumé to a prospective employer?"
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A: Moms reentering the workforce are becoming more recognized as the hidden pool of talent they are, so don't feel that you need to apologize for the gap.
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Begin with a bang-up cover letter. Use the decision maker's name in the salutation and emphasize what you can do for the company. Put at least as much effort into your cover letter as you do into your résumé. When I'm hiring, I form my initial opinion before I'm even done reading the cover letter, and most other bosses do too. Discuss how the skills you learned as a full-time administrator of your household - such as scheduling, managing a budget, and volunteering in the community - will translate into viable
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- Redbook | Power Your Future – Thu, Jul 28, 2011 5:22 PM EDT
By Barbara Corcoran, REDBOOKAsking Boss For RaiseRead More »from What to Say on Your Resume: Getting Back in the Workplace
- Redbook | Love + Sex – Thu, Jul 28, 2011 4:08 PM EDT
By Aaron Traister, REDBOOKRead More »from Dear Whys Guy: "How Did I Go From 'The One' to No One?"
DEAR WHYS GUY:
My boyfriend and I recently broke up. He cheated on me and is now with the co-worker he cheated with. We were together for five years. The last year of our relationship was long distance because of school. He told me when I moved that he was going to do everything possible to keep our relationship strong and flourishing. But somewhere down the line, I guess he had a change of heart and didn't tell me. I'm amazed at how quickly he got into a relationship with this other woman and made her his girlfriend. He told me I was The One, and now I'm no one. What was his mental process? Why did he cheat on someone he said he wanted to be with for the rest of his life? How did I become so insignificant?
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DEAR REDBOOK READER:
I wouldn't worry about your ex so much. Who cares what he was thinking about? Long distance relationships are hard, and yours didn't work out. It happens all the time.
By Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOKRead More »from 11 Things That Make a Husband Hot
Puke is not on the list of known aphrodisiacs, but there my husband and I were, covered in the projectile vomit of two small children with the flu. He was changing the crib sheets while I was using a blow dryer to try and clean off the Beloved Blankie, and as our eyes met I thought, "This man is hot." Sure, my husband looks like Patrick Dempsey when he lets his scruff grow in, and of course I thought he was gorgeous when we got married, but nothing before has compared to that moment of total attraction.
Maybe I'm weird-my ardor was certainly ill-timed, since nothing romantic happened that night or even that week-but after talking to my mommy friends, I think I'm not alone. There's a lot more to a hot man than just his, well, hotness. Redbook is looking for "America's Hottest Husband", so I've compiled a list of the things about our men that make us not only want to cook him breakfast, but lick it off, too.
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- Redbook | Parenting – Wed, Jul 27, 2011 6:10 PM EDT
By Alison Storm, REDBOOKRead More »from 6 Ways to Help Kids (Including Yours) Stay Drug-Free
The number of teens using drugs has spiked in the last year. Make a dent in this troubling trend by doing just one thing on this list.
1. Know the facts. The number of teens who smoke pot shot up 22 percent last year. If you think, well, pot's not that bad, consider this: Marijuana today is 2½ times more potent than it was in the 1980s. And kids who smoke pot perform worse in school and are more likely to experiment with other addictive drugs. It's time to get your head out of the sand if you think that could never be your kid. Test your drug IQ at getsmartaboutdrugs.com.
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2. Reward good behavior. Study after study has shown that positive reinforcement is more effective in keeping kids off drugs than preachy ultimatums. So praise your children when they fend off peer pressure from friends. Or launch a wider-reaching campaign, like Deborah White, a science teacher in Cody, WY, who started Cody CAN (Change
By Kathleen Zelman, REDBOOK
Back to school means scrubbed kids carrying shiny new lunch boxes. It also means stumped moms staring into the fridge, desperately seeking ways to sneak even a little bit of nutrition into their child's midday meal. "One of the biggest mistakes parents make is sending too much and the wrong kinds of food in their child's lunch box," says Elizabeth Ward, author of Healthy Foods, Healthy Kids. Use your child's fist as a guideline to perfect portion sizes.
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An ideal lunch is nutritious and has enough calories to fuel brain and motor activity but not too many calories, which can cause hyperactive or sluggish post-lunch behavior. It's time to think beyond two slices of bread. "Sandwiches are fine for the first few weeks, then the monotony sets in and you need to get out of the sandwich rut," says Ward. Here are some kid-approved nutritious favorites.
Don't forget to include a frozen 100% fruit-juiceRead More »from 11 Secrets to Better School Lunches
- Redbook | Love + Sex – Tue, Jul 26, 2011 9:29 PM EDT
By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK
DEAR WHYS GUY:
Why is it so hard for a man to say, "I love you?" And if he says it's embarrassing, what does that really mean?
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DEAR REDBOOK READER:
I'm guessing, and this is just a hunch, that it means he probably finds it embarrassing to say, "I love you."
Lots of guys have weird hang-ups about saying those three words. Personally, it doesn't freak me out at all. But some guys think it makes them soft if they say them (as KRS-One notes in his classic rap song, "Love's Gonna Get'cha"). Some guys are worried they're going to be left hanging after declaring their love (there is a good Seinfeld episode about that), and some dudes are concerned about not being able to live up to the promise of those words (remember, we're children of the divorce generation-we grew up seeing a lot of parents who said they loved each other prove otherwise in very legal ways).
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So maybe he'sRead More »from Dear Whys Guy: "Why Is It So Hard For Him to Say 'I Love You?'"
By Kayla Miller, REDBOOKRead More »from Settle an Argument: Who Should Watch the Kids?
Rachel and Mike, both 35, have been married for five years and have two small children. Rachel complains that Mike occasionally spends too much time with his friends on the weekends and not enough time with the kids and family. He gets mad when she wants to spend time with her friends, rather than taking care of the kids. How should they determine how they spend their time?
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She says: It's not fair that whenever he hangs out with his friends, I don't gripe, but when I hang out with mine, he complains about taking care of the kids and doing housework. I feel like we should have an equal playing field.
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He says: Sometimes I just need a break from the stresses of family life. I don't have the natural motherly instincts like she does to take care of the kids, so I feel like she should be there to help out, too. It's not as if I want to spend every single weekend with my
- Redbook | Work + Money – Tue, Jul 26, 2011 7:04 PM EDT
By Marisa Cohen, REDBOOK
When Denise Towne packed her hiking boots and moved from upstate New York to Vermont after graduating high school, she couldn't wait to lose herself in the beautiful scenery, the hiking trails, and all the opportunities to go snowboarding. But it quickly dawned on Denise, now 38, who lives in the tiny town of Cabot, that the sports-lover's paradise she'd chosen was also a great place to raise a family. "Everywhere you go, you see a friendly face," she explains. "Living in a small town is like having an extended family-everyone watches out for everyone else's kids."
By the time Denise got married to Steve, a high school teacher, and was expecting her first child, in 2002, she had also found what she considered the perfect job: As production manager at the children's clothing company Zutano, Denise oversees work being done in facilities as far away as Macao, all from her office in a converted barn surrounded by maple trees. It's the kind of low-key officeRead More »from Would You Bring Your Kids to the Office Full-Time?
By Diana Vilibert, REDBOOKRead More »from 8 Cutest Lunch Boxes for Back-to-School
Your search is over-we've rounded up the best lunch boxes for kids here, from eco-friendly options to styles personalized just for your little one and everything in between.
1. Skip Hop: Talk about serious kid appeal! If your little ones like Skip Hop's line of animal-themed backpacks, they'll love these matching soft lunch bags. Owls and foxes and frogs, oh my-all of their favorite animals are there, with insulated, wipe-clean interiors that keep food and drinks cold, plus another pocket for extra goodies. The clip-on handle makes it easy to attach these cute totes to a backpack, too. ($14 at Skip Hop)
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2. Beaba: Perfect for the tiniest of hands, this lunch box from parent-adored brand Beaba is ideal for the toddler set. Think non-slip plate, a container with two large compartments, a keep-warm lid, and an ergonomic spoon and fork set-all in colorful, tot-friendly hues. ($29.99 at Toys "R" Us)
By Kayla Miller, REDBOOKRead More »from 9 Cutest Back-to-School Essentials
Plain old backpacks are so 2010! These fun, stylish supplies are the latest trends in back-to-school cool that kids will actually like.
1. The New Backpack: Backpacks aren't just made for your back anymore. Some bags now come in tote and suitcase styles. We like: Skullcandy INKD Tote in Purple Plaid, $39.99. Kids' Embark Pet Pals Rolling Backpack in Pink or Blue, $22.99 each. All from Target.
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2. The Rockin' Outfit: Every kid needs must-have pieces that give off the perfect too-cool-for-school vibe. We like: D-Signed for Target Long-Sleeved Military Jacket in Green, $24.99. Asymmetrical Tunic in Pink, $16.99. Long Leggings in Black with Sequin Detail, $12.99. Converse One Star Juniors' Lace-up Oxfords Black with Multicolor Sequins, $27. All from Target.
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3. The Pretty Pencils: Long-gone are those drab yellow #2 pencils. Fun, patterned pencils are the