By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK
DEAR WHYS GUY:
Why does my husband refuse to go on a camping trip with our son for his Cub Scout requirements? He has anxiety issues, but they don't seem to interfere with anything that is important to him, like hockey and work. You can't pick and choose when to claim "social anxiety"-or can you?
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DEAR REDBOOK READER:
I'm totally unqualified (lemme just reemphasize that point: TOTALLY UNQUALIFIED) to give you any accurate information on Social Anxiety Disorder. If it's something he's really struggling with, then you need to be informed on the subject so you're not forced to go to random advice columnists on the internet for answers to your questions. Talk to a professional. Maybe a few joint therapy sessions are in order; maybe you just need to talk to someone who can recommend some good and serious books on the subject. Whatever the case, if your partner is suffering from any
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- Redbook | Love + Sex – Fri, Jun 24, 2011 7:38 PM EDT
By Aaron Traister, REDBOOKRead More »from Dear Whys Guy: "Why Won't My Husband Help With Our Son?"
By Heather Cocks, REDBOOK
The first time I was on solo mom duty, my 2-month-old boys were napping while their father did the same. Both guys woke up and started fussing. Assuming that getting pregnant with twins had given me an innate ability to juggle two babies, I gingerly scooped them up with both arms, carried them to the couch, and propped them up on my legs. "I OWN this gig," I thought. Then Dylan threw up on Liam, they both started wailing, and I ended up having to roll one on top of the other and pin them to my lap using one hand and my chin while my other hand called Kevin's cell phone to wake him. "NEVER LEAVE ME ALONE WITH THEM AGAIN! I AM TERRIBLE!" I wailed. As much as I realize their valedictory address will not include this story-if it does, they are clearly out of the will-it was sobering to face my limitations so early.
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I always assumed that a natural ease with all that stuff automatically came withRead More »from Girlfriends: A Mother's Secret Weapon
By Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK
We live in an age of "too much." Whereas for most of human civilization, people have had to scrabble just to exist, in the past 100 years or so the pendulum has swung-at least for those privileged few of us who live in first world countries. Now we have too much food, too much entertainment, too much free time, and too many possessions. (Of course we also have too much pollution, too much debt, and too much chronic illness, but that's a discussion for another day.) But can you have too much good parenting? Psychologist Lori Gottlieb writing in The Atlantic says yes, and it's a problem of epidemic proportions.
Of course too little parenting is a problem-we call that neglect and will land you in court or get you your own reality show-and we know that too much parenting in the form of overbearing, controlling or "helicoptering" is bad too, but Gottlieb is talkingRead More »from Why Is It So Hard for Us to Stop Overparenting?
By REDBOOKRead More »from 5 Dorky (but Fun) Summer Date Ideas
Read these and mini golf will seem so highbrow! The takeaway: Just do whatever makes the two of you happy.
1. Staying Close...With Guns? "We go to our cowboy action shooting club. We dress up in Western gear, shoot guns, and pretend to be in the Wild West. Seriously." - Rose Tepedino, Oakdale, NY
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2. Geeky Convention-Goers: "My husband and I go to sci-fi conventions. He gets to see all the Star Wars toys he used to have, and I connect with other Buffy the Vampire Slayer lovers. It's our geeky bonding time!" - Melinda Rodriguez, Dallas
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3. Bowling Partners: "My husband and I joined a bowling league. We bring our own shoes and balls, and we always wear matching shirts." - Jennifer Davis, Pasadena, MD
4. A Ghastly Pastime: "My husband and I go ghost hunting in old buildings and graveyards. We bring our electromagnetic field detector, which goes off if there's a ghost. It's very scary,
By Jenna Mahoney, REDBOOKRead More »from 5 Tricks for Sexier Cleavage This Summer
Not all of us are blessed with a perky, plump bosom. Luckily, with the right tools and tips, you can flaunt your assets with the rest of 'em.
1. Smooth Things Out: The décolleté (pronounced, for the record, "day-col-TAY") shows age fast, thanks to the lack of subcutaneous fat and all the sun exposure it gets, says New York City dermatologist Hilary Reich, M.D. "Women know to apply sunscreen to their faces but often forget to cover their chest when wearing low necklines." Be sure to extend your facial sunscreen downward whenever your chest is going to see the light of day. For the damage that's done, use a mild scrub, such as Palmer's Cocoa Butter Formula Gentle Exfoliating Facial Scrub, $10, a few times a week. To add a sexy glow, moisturize daily with a cream that has light-reflecting pigments. We like Hawaiian Tropic Shimmer Effect Lotion Sunscreen SPF 20, $7.99.
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2. Never Let 'Em See You Sweat: If you tend to get
By REDBOOKRead More »from 4 Easy Ways to Snag Great Travel Upgrades
You may be a whiz at comparing travel rates online, but it turns out that good old conversation could save you a lot more. In a Consumer Reports poll of 1,000 people, 83 percent said they'd nabbed a better hotel rate simply by-shocker-asking. It's even more of a possibility now, given lower occupancy rates in hotels, reduced demand for rental cars, and the scramble to fill every last room for the holidays. So start talking and get what you want for less.
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1. Keep Asking for Breaks: Before you leave for your trip, search online for current hotel and car rates. If they're lower than what you got, says Peter Frank, creator of the travel blog Let's Be Frank, "call and ask for that rate." At the hotel or car place, tell the clerk if you're on a trip for a special occasion, like a birthday or anniversary. Then ask, "Any chance of an upgrade?" For hotels, it helps to arrive later in the day. "Last year, our family got to a Vermont ski resort
- Redbook | Working It – Wed, Jun 22, 2011 4:02 PM EDT
By Lindsey Palmer and Nicole Yorio, REDBOOKRead More »from 4 Steps to Convincing Your Boss to Let You Work from Home
Twenty percent of Americans say they'd take a 5-percent pay cut if they could work a few days at home. But you may not have to sacrifice a penny. Follow these tips from Leslie Truex, author of The Work-at-Home Success Bible, on how to ask your boss for this prized perk.
1. Prepare your case: Make a list of tasks you can do at home and another of those that require in-office time, plus an outline of how you'll stay connected.
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2. Broadcast the benefits: Set a meeting with your boss, and point out how working at home could benefit the company-perhaps you'll save resources or free up space. Note that studies show at-home workers are happier in their jobs, take fewer sick days, and are more productive.
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3. Focus on your job, not your life: Your commute and child-care dilemmas are not your company's concern. Ditch the complaints and focus on how much you
By REDBOOKRead More »from Our 11 Favorite On-Screen Friendships
These ladies may be fictional, but their on-screen friendships form the most iconic female bonds of all time.
1. Sex and the City: They single-handedly doubled sales of Manolos, cosmos, and dildos!
2. Thelma and Louise: Not even a young, naked Brad Pitt could come between these two-who kept their vow to stay friends till the very, very end.
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3. Waiting to Exhale: "You set his what on fire?" The ladies of Waiting to Exhale took each other's drama in stride.
4. Beaches: They love each other, they hate each other-the first half is melodramatic gold. But the real jackpot? The cathartic weep-till-you're-tired finish.
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5. Friends: Most women would go Bridezilla if their maid of honor revealed a surprise pregnancy on their big day, but let's face it: These were the ultimate Friends.
6. The Women: Who needs men? Not one appeared in this film classic-and the ladies were better off
- Redbook | Parenting – Wed, Jun 22, 2011 3:58 PM EDT
By Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK
Think peer pressure is just something teenagers at parties have to worry about? Then you haven't been to preschool lately. And I'm not talking about little Johnny pressuring my kid into wearing his shirt backwards every day (although that happened too)-I'm talking about the parents. As adults we're supposed to be above all that caring-what-other-people-think crap and yet as anyone who's ended up with the snack bucket knows, we parents can be just as pushy as any horny teenager at prom. To be perfectly clear: I am not saying any of these things are bad, and if you enjoy doing them, then I'm happy that you're happy-just don't try to make me feel bad about not doing them too.
Related: 43 Sneaky Tricks to Look Younger1. The snack bucket: Yesterday Xavien's mom filled it with mock sushi rolls hand-crafted out of fruit and nestled in origami paper cups (true story), and today I'm doing the the walk of shame past the entire line of parents Read More »from Top 10 Things I've Been Peer-Pressured Into Doing...By Other Parents
By Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK
What do you get when a Mormon, a Lutheran, a Catholic and a Muslim walk into a gym? As incongruous as it sounds, best friends! (And here you thought you were going to get the punchline to a wildly insensitive joke!) My three best girlfriends and I all met at our local YMCA. Ostensibly we were there to workout-all of us having new babies, had to drop the baby weight, right?-but in reality we were just there to escape our other kids for an hour thanks to the free childcare. Despite our obvious differences, we have discovered we are far more alike than we are similar. From diaper explosions to arguments with our husbands, this familiarity has lead to some serious hilarity. And because of this, as any woman knows, there are some things that only your best girlfriend can tell you:
1. You look fat in those pants. Your husband wouldn't dare say it and even if heRead More »from 6 Things Only Your Girlfriends Can Tell You